He used red pill terminology

[Anonymous]

Guy I just started dating recently used some red pill terminology. Other than this he’s been awesome. But due to him using the terminology I don’t think I can continue. Anyone have a successful relationship with a man who would use this type of terminology?

[Anonymous]

Run

[Anonymous]

Can you tell us what he said?

[Anonymous]

Yea, need more details.

[Anonymous]

You in danger girl.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the terminology. Some terms have become 'dog whistles', innocents may not realize they are loaded terms, and repeat them without understanding the implications. Is he a good guy otherwise?

If you're comfortable, I'd call it out in a gentle way next time you hear it. Ask him what he means by it. Depending on how he responds, either give a neutral nod and walk away at your earliest opportunity, or say something like "oh, ok. I've heard people say that in XYZ context/meaning/whatever, and I was curious if that's what you meant. Glad to hear it's not, because I don't think I could continue with someone who has THAT kind of attitude!" And laugh it off like of course he wouldn't. He'll get the message that either (a) you're not his person, or (b) he needs to rethink his phrasing.

[Anonymous]

Can someone do a “red pill for dummies” thread?

[Anonymous]

Best case scenario is that he is ignorant and just repeating something he heard, but even that is something you should run from.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone do a “red pill for dummies” thread?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you tell us what he said?

+1

Maybe he’s a matrix nerd?

[Anonymous]

What exactly did he say?

The fact you didn’t include that is odd.

[Anonymous]

In this parlance, being red-pilled means recognizing social realities like male oppression and biological realities like female hypergamy, while being black-pilled means believing that there is little that low-status or unattractive men can do to improve their prospects with women.

Red pill and blue pill - Wikipedia

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You in danger girl.

[Anonymous]

This is such a hard question. I have also had to make this call. I’m sorry to say that one time I decided to overlook it and things went very, VERY wrong.

That said, it depends on the terminology. Some words have seeped outside of that community more than others. Does he spend a lot of time on Reddit? I’ve noticed many on non-redpill Redits have absorbed redpill terms and ideas.

Trust your gut. At a minimum, he’s on strike one. Any more red flags, and you get out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the terminology. Some terms have become 'dog whistles', innocents may not realize they are loaded terms, and repeat them without understanding the implications. Is he a good guy otherwise?

If you're comfortable, I'd call it out in a gentle way next time you hear it. Ask him what he means by it. Depending on how he responds, either give a neutral nod and walk away at your earliest opportunity, or say something like "oh, ok. I've heard people say that in XYZ context/meaning/whatever, and I was curious if that's what you meant. Glad to hear it's not, because I don't think I could continue with someone who has THAT kind of attitude!" And laugh it off like of course he wouldn't. He'll get the message that either (a) you're not his person, or (b) he needs to rethink his phrasing.

I agree, but I wouldn’t say that you know about the whole redpill universe. If he knows you know, he’ll just try to hide it. That’s how you end up in an LTR with someone who’s not who you think they are. Let him run his mouth freely. If there’s a problem, you want him to tell on himself.