What kind of wedding registry do you secretly judge?

[Anonymous]

I am getting married later this year and feel kind of...strange setting up a registry. Both my fiance and I are in our 30s and have lived on our own for years, but don't live together, so we're mostly registering for "upgraded" household goods (e.g., a nice set of dishes, matching glassware set, etc.) We are not doing any sort of cash fund and aren't adding "unusual" items that aren't really for the house.

Are we good? What kind of registries do you think are tacky?

[Anonymous]

Registries tgst ask you to contribute to a Luxe honeymoon

[Anonymous]

Sounds totally fine but I wouldn’t hesitate to add cash funds either. Some on dcum will say they are rude/trashy but they are the norm — I’m 32 and literally all weddings I’ve been to of people in my age group the past few years have had them.

[Anonymous]

I judge people who register at WalMart, or like. Gus' Guns and Lube or somewhere super trashy. I also judge people who only register for expensive things. Your public school teacher friends and bartender friends want to get you a gift too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds totally fine but I wouldn’t hesitate to add cash funds either. Some on dcum will say they are rude/trashy but they are the norm — I’m 32 and literally all weddings I’ve been to of people in my age group the past few years have had them.

I'm the OP, and while I completely get it, I assume that people who don't want to buy off the registry / don't see anything in their price range left, etc. will just give cash anyways.

[Anonymous]

I only judge people who register for honeymoon / trip expenses. Or who only have really expensive things on their list.

[Anonymous]

You are good. If you are asking for straight up money like for a honeymoon or something I think you are tacky AF.

[Anonymous]

I once asked someone where they were going on their honeymoon, and they said they didn't know, it depended on how much they got in their honeyfund. I had to keep myself from laughing when I realized they were serious!

[Anonymous]

When everything is expensive. A single younger person doesn’t want to spend $300 on your gift.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, the only people I judge are people who have no registry at all or ONLY the essentially ATM registries (“buy us a scuba excursion on our honeymoon”). If you have that plus a traditional wedding registry, I’m fine with that.

I don’t like giving cash. Particularly at the height of weddings (mid-late 20s) I was making like $50k a year and one year between my boyfriends friends and family and my friends and family I went to EIGHT weddings, most of which involved travel and hotel costs, and two of which involved bridesmaids dresses and bachelorette parties. I will happily buy you something from your registry, but, it’s going to cost a two-digit number. And it feels SO lame sending someone a check for $50.

And, of course, make sure you have a variety of price points. But while I’ve run into the no registry thing several times, I’ve never come across a registry where I couldn’t find something in my price range.

Non traditional items, fine. I’ll happily buy you board games, Christmas decorations, hobby supplies, video games, whatever. Just let me buy you an object!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds totally fine but I wouldn’t hesitate to add cash funds either. Some on dcum will say they are rude/trashy but they are the norm — I’m 32 and literally all weddings I’ve been to of people in my age group the past few years have had them.

I'm 35, I can't explain it, but I find cash funds on a registry tacky - maybe because I only look at the registry for bridal shower purposes? I have no issue writing a check for an actual wedding gift.

[Anonymous]

Let me tell you, no one really cares as long as there is an easy way to purchase or contribute to whatever in their price range.

Do I think honeymoon funds are tacky? Yes. Do I care deeply? No. But if there’s no way for me to quickly contribute to said fund or buy a toaster and a goblet or whatever gets me to $200, I will care a lot more. I truly don’t care if I’m buying you a full set of dishes or one gold napkin ring as long as it’s easy to do and in my price range.

[Anonymous]

Only if items on the list are very expensive and there is no way to contribute to it or buy part of it. I actually prefer to contribute to a cash / honeymoon / house $ account. Just simpler.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I judge people who register at WalMart, or like. Gus' Guns and Lube or somewhere super trashy. I also judge people who only register for expensive things. Your public school teacher friends and bartender friends want to get you a gift too!

Should we judge you by the company you apparently keep?

[Anonymous]

Just make sure you have items that are appropriate for the guests being invited. By that I mean your upgraded household goods might call for $250 pillowcases and dinnerware that’s $150 a plate, but your great aunt’s budget might need something in the $50 range. And no one wants to gift a single spoon.