What kind of wedding registry do you secretly judge?

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Anonymous wrote:I got an invitation from a coworker that had in all caps "NO BOXED GIFTS CASH ONLY" and to top it all off it was a dry wedding and I was expected to buy cultural dress to wear.

Why do people expect others who don't drink alcohol to serve alcohol at their weddings?

Because they are hosting people and the polite thing to do is provide things that will make your guests happy. I served many things at my wedding and parties at my home that I don’t like but are things I know others enjoy. I don’t drink soda ever, but when we have a party I buy soda.

So Jewish people should serve ham at their reception? If you have friends who hold certain beliefs (or who have former alcoholics in their family), maybe you can forgo the booze for one night and learn to have fun without it like they do...

That wasn’t the question. It was just about ppl who don’t drink. There are lots of ppl who don’t drink just cuz they don’t want to not because of religious reasons.

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^ there are also lots of Jews who enjoy and serve ham.

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Side question- I was recently invited to a wedding where the bride and groom have a honeyfund registry. I assume that the website takes a cut so if I give the couple a check, that’s more advantageous to the couple, right?

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Anonymous wrote:Side question- I was recently invited to a wedding where the bride and groom have a honeyfund registry. I assume that the website takes a cut so if I give the couple a check, that’s more advantageous to the couple, right?

No clue, but I want to be a voice of dissent and say I have no problem with honeymoon funds. I don’t see how wanting to go on a snorkeling excursion is any tackier than asking for a new toaster oven. In fact, I’m more of an “experience” than stuff type person.

And no I didn’t do one at my wedding because it wasn’t yet a thing. But I’d rather my money go toward something the couple will actually enjoy than buy some serving dish they felt they had to register for because anything else than household goods is considered “tacky” because of the historical origin of registries.

I think travel is wonderful and would be glad to support that as a new marriage gift for friends or family I’m close enough with to celebrate their marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, the only people I judge are people who have no registry at all or ONLY the essentially ATM registries (“buy us a scuba excursion on our honeymoon”). If you have that plus a traditional wedding registry, I’m fine with that.

I don’t like giving cash. Particularly at the height of weddings (mid-late 20s) I was making like $50k a year and one year between my boyfriends friends and family and my friends and family I went to EIGHT weddings, most of which involved travel and hotel costs, and two of which involved bridesmaids dresses and bachelorette parties. I will happily buy you something from your registry, but, it’s going to cost a two-digit number. And it feels SO lame sending someone a check for $50.

And, of course, make sure you have a variety of price points. But while I’ve run into the no registry thing several times, I’ve never come across a registry where I couldn’t find something in my price range.

Non traditional items, fine. I’ll happily buy you board games, Christmas decorations, hobby supplies, video games, whatever. Just let me buy you an object!

This. At the very least, a registry is going to give people some options other than cash. Most of my side of the family gave us things off the registry; my DH’s side gave us cash.

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I judge honeymoon registries. Harshly.

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Fun things we have received or purchased from the registry were a charcuterie board with cheese knives, a cake stand (which I have used every time I entertain — 20 years hence!), a nice throw for the couch, funky (small) vases, bar ware, etc. Crate and Barrel has a lot of fun stuff.

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All of them. We eloped. Registries are gift grabs.

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Anonymous wrote:All of them. We eloped. Registries are gift grabs.

Thank you, Captain Obvious.

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Most of all, keep in ming --- most people are NOT secretly judging.

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keep in mind

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It’s sooo tacky when people put ‘no boxed gifts’ on their wedding invitation. No way I would consider doing that!

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A destination wedding for a couple that has cohabited for several years, has a gift registry listing expensive options and a honeymoon fund. No thanks.

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We had one in our 30s and it was just things we were missing. It wasn't a big registry at all.

I think the one that made me cringe over the years was my cousin firefighter / hairdresser combo that wanted $200/plate formal dining set. That was completely over the top IMO

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Anonymous wrote:Side question- I was recently invited to a wedding where the bride and groom have a honeyfund registry. I assume that the website takes a cut so if I give the couple a check, that’s more advantageous to the couple, right?

So tacky. I only judge the registries that directly ask for money, like this.