Triggers for me as a "skinny minny"

[Anonymous]

My mother's wedding dress was a size 3 when she married at 19. She said the kids would tease her and call her "skinny minny." She was very petite, under 5'2". However, she wasn't flat chested. She had an hour glass figure. She used to eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

I had the same problem.

My senior year of high school, I finally passed the 99 pound weight to 110 pounds. I thought I looked really good. I am about 5'4".

Today I'm in my early 50s. I'm still 5'4". I weigh 130. I'm also a 32D bra size. I'm not really "skinny."

[Anonymous]

What is your question?! You are correct that you are not "skinny." At 5'4", 130, you sound very average. Why do you need to start a thread about it?

[Anonymous]

Is this a humble brag?

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure what the point of your post is but honestly, good for you. You sound like you’re at a healthy weight.

[Anonymous]

A 50 year old will never have the body of a 19 year old. Stop comparing yourself to an unrealistic expectation.

[Anonymous]

I’m skinny fat and need to exercise already!!! There’s no endorphin rush for me. It’s all sweat and effort and I hate it. Blaargh.

[Anonymous]

OP Here.

People still think I'm "skinny."

It really used to hurt my feelings.

When I do gain weight, I gain it mostly in my chest, stomach, butt, and thighs. I don't think I look that great when I'm any heavier than I am now. At my heaviest, I weighed 140. It's hard to tell when I've gained weight, except my clothes don't fit as well.

I lost about 10 pounds.

It's just really not that easy when people think I have an eating disorder.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand what your trigger is. Someone commenting that you’re thin? Hearing people talk about how skinny a young girl is? The fact that you’re not the skinniest one anymore?

My mother is the same height as you and followed pretty much the same trajectory, except she was probably a bit heavier in her fifties. She’s now 81 and weighs 99-101 lbs. She eats really well, but watches her carbs due to a strong family history of diabetes. She’s super physically active for someone her age. You will probably end up being a “skinny minnie” again in your old age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.

People still think I'm "skinny."

It really used to hurt my feelings.

When I do gain weight, I gain it mostly in my chest, stomach, butt, and thighs. I don't think I look that great when I'm any heavier than I am now. At my heaviest, I weighed 140. It's hard to tell when I've gained weight, except my clothes don't fit as well.

I lost about 10 pounds.

It's just really not that easy when people think I have an eating disorder.

If anyone thinks you have an eating disorder, it’s because:

A) They have trouble losing weight so they assume something is wrong with you.

B) There are so many fat Americans that their understanding of what a healthy weight is is skewed.

[Anonymous]

I do workout regularly. I do an arm and upper body workout every other day, alternating with a leg and glutes and lower body workout every other day. I take walks throughout the day with my dog.

I feel healthy. I feel fine.

Throughout my life, it was really not that easy to listen to comments from people. "You're so skinny." "I bet you don't eat." "Do you have an eating disorder?"

I never had problems with my menstrual cycle or anything like that.

I asked my doctor for a nutritional plan. She gave me a diet plan to make sure I was consuming enough calories each day, and I wasn't under-eating.

People at work started a rumor about me that I "binged" at dinner at the holiday party. I don't know where they got that idea. I had a normal plate of food. And I had one dessert and coffee. It's like it is in style especially today, to assume that people who aren't overweight are defective, skinny fat, unhealthy, disordered in their eating, obsessed with weight, obsessed with working out, that we "fat shame" other people, that we don't really even have a right to exist in the presence of real people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.

People still think I'm "skinny."

It really used to hurt my feelings.

When I do gain weight, I gain it mostly in my chest, stomach, butt, and thighs. I don't think I look that great when I'm any heavier than I am now. At my heaviest, I weighed 140. It's hard to tell when I've gained weight, except my clothes don't fit as well.

I lost about 10 pounds.


It's just really not that easy when people think I have an eating disorder.

Op ..you are not skinny. The people that think you are are probably overweight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand what your trigger is. Someone commenting that you’re thin? Hearing people talk about how skinny a young girl is? The fact that you’re not the skinniest one anymore?

My mother is the same height as you and followed pretty much the same trajectory, except she was probably a bit heavier in her fifties. She’s now 81 and weighs 99-101 lbs. She eats really well, but watches her carbs due to a strong family history of diabetes. She’s super physically active for someone her age. You will probably end up being a “skinny minnie” again in your old age.

I don't want to be skinny. LoL. That's the point of my whole thread. I'm not triggered because I'm not "skinny" anymore. I weigh 130 pounds, and I'm still hearing from people that I'm too skinny. I could probably weigh 160, and I'd still have people telling me how skinny I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.

People still think I'm "skinny."

It really used to hurt my feelings.

When I do gain weight, I gain it mostly in my chest, stomach, butt, and thighs. I don't think I look that great when I'm any heavier than I am now. At my heaviest, I weighed 140. It's hard to tell when I've gained weight, except my clothes don't fit as well.

I lost about 10 pounds.


It's just really not that easy when people think I have an eating disorder.

This! And you need to stop caring what other people think.


Op ..you are not skinny. The people that think you are are probably overweight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand what your trigger is. Someone commenting that you’re thin? Hearing people talk about how skinny a young girl is? The fact that you’re not the skinniest one anymore?

My mother is the same height as you and followed pretty much the same trajectory, except she was probably a bit heavier in her fifties. She’s now 81 and weighs 99-101 lbs. She eats really well, but watches her carbs due to a strong family history of diabetes. She’s super physically active for someone her age. You will probably end up being a “skinny minnie” again in your old age.

I don't want to be skinny. LoL. That's the point of my whole thread. I'm not triggered because I'm not "skinny" anymore. I weigh 130 pounds, and I'm still hearing from people that I'm too skinny. I could probably weigh 160, and I'd still have people telling me how skinny I am.

Do you live somewhere with a really high rate of obesity? It sounds like you’re noticeably thinner than the people around you, which makes you super skinny by comparison, even though you’re at a healthy weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m skinny fat and need to exercise already!!! There’s no endorphin rush for me. It’s all sweat and effort and I hate it. Blaargh.

Me again. OP, my mother is 5'6" and under 100lbs. She's been thin all her life, but thankfully she lives in Paris, where people are slimmer than in the US, so no one ever comments. But she's *really* thin, and can't do anything about it - it's just the way she is.