Triggers for me as a "skinny minny"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think what triggered me, was seeing a social media post and an article about how Pink posted a picture of herself waterskiing. She called it "thunder thighs." And she wrote about how she had kids, and she was proud of the way she looked and how strong she was in her early 40s.

Well, okay. I don't think thunder thighs have ever been out of style, especially not in 2023.

Not every woman can achieve that muscular look in her thighs. It doesn't mean we're under-eating or skinny fat. I don't care how much pasta I eat and how many squats I do, I will never have thunder thighs.

Being skinny has never been out of style, not even in 2023. But here you are blathering.

While I agree with this I think, in recent years, a very specific body type of body has been touted as the “ideal”. Large butt, muscular legs, tiny waist, large perky chest. This is a look a lot of “fitness” influencers will fake with plastic surgery and/or photo editing.

We, as women, are so much better than this! We are all blessed with unique bodies and we can focus on our health and appearance without comparing ourselves to random ever changing trends. Your body doesn’t need to be “on trend”, we are all better than that. OP, rock what you’ve got and stop looking for reason to feel bad about the way you look. Your body deserves more respect than that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think what triggered me, was seeing a social media post and an article about how Pink posted a picture of herself waterskiing. She called it "thunder thighs." And she wrote about how she had kids, and she was proud of the way she looked and how strong she was in her early 40s.

Well, okay. I don't think thunder thighs have ever been out of style, especially not in 2023.

Not every woman can achieve that muscular look in her thighs. It doesn't mean we're under-eating or skinny fat. I don't care how much pasta I eat and how many squats I do, I will never have thunder thighs.

Being skinny has never been out of style, not even in 2023. But here you are blathering.

While I agree with this I think, in recent years, a very specific body type of body has been touted as the “ideal”. Large butt, muscular legs, tiny waist, large perky chest. This is a look a lot of “fitness” influencers will fake with plastic surgery and/or photo editing.

We, as women, are so much better than this! We are all blessed with unique bodies and we can focus on our health and appearance without comparing ourselves to random ever changing trends. Your body doesn’t need to be “on trend”, we are all better than that. OP, rock what you’ve got and stop looking for reason to feel bad about the way you look. Your body deserves more respect than that.

Emrata is considered by many to be the most beautiful woman in media right now. She looks like a classic “skinny” woman to me.

https://finance.yahoo.com/news/emily-ratajkowski-wore-most-emrata-150900219.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think what triggered me, was seeing a social media post and an article about how Pink posted a picture of herself waterskiing. She called it "thunder thighs." And she wrote about how she had kids, and she was proud of the way she looked and how strong she was in her early 40s.

Well, okay. I don't think thunder thighs have ever been out of style, especially not in 2023.

Not every woman can achieve that muscular look in her thighs. It doesn't mean we're under-eating or skinny fat. I don't care how much pasta I eat and how many squats I do, I will never have thunder thighs.

Are you under the mistaken impression that “thunder thighs” is a compliment or that they’re desirable? Pink wanted to post that photo, but she knew there would be people who would be critical and point out how big her thighs look. She was trying to head that off by owning her big thighs and telling people that their size doesn’t bother her because they’re strong and she likes who she is. She doesn’t think bigger thighs should be hidden. You took a body positive post and turned it into an insult about people who don’t have big thighs. Pink wasn’t saying everyone should have big thighs or that people with slender thighs are weak.

This. Nobody--including Pink--wants thunder thighs. Her point was that she has accepted them and is proud that she is strong and can do cool things. It would be like if I posted a picture in a bikini and said I accepted my squishy, flabby belly because I great two amazing kids in there. I'd rather have flat stomach 100 times over, but at 48, I have accepted my body. You should try to do the same, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think what triggered me, was seeing a social media post and an article about how Pink posted a picture of herself waterskiing. She called it "thunder thighs." And she wrote about how she had kids, and she was proud of the way she looked and how strong she was in her early 40s.

Well, okay. I don't think thunder thighs have ever been out of style, especially not in 2023.

Not every woman can achieve that muscular look in her thighs. It doesn't mean we're under-eating or skinny fat. I don't care how much pasta I eat and how many squats I do, I will never have thunder thighs.

I saw Pink’s post and I don’t think your response to it is justified or reasonable. I really think you need to address why this triggered you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think what triggered me, was seeing a social media post and an article about how Pink posted a picture of herself waterskiing. She called it "thunder thighs." And she wrote about how she had kids, and she was proud of the way she looked and how strong she was in her early 40s.

Well, okay. I don't think thunder thighs have ever been out of style, especially not in 2023.

Not every woman can achieve that muscular look in her thighs. It doesn't mean we're under-eating or skinny fat. I don't care how much pasta I eat and how many squats I do, I will never have thunder thighs.

Being skinny has never been out of style, not even in 2023. But here you are blathering.

While I agree with this I think, in recent years, a very specific body type of body has been touted as the “ideal”. Large butt, muscular legs, tiny waist, large perky chest. This is a look a lot of “fitness” influencers will fake with plastic surgery and/or photo editing.

We, as women, are so much better than this! We are all blessed with unique bodies and we can focus on our health and appearance without comparing ourselves to random ever changing trends. Your body doesn’t need to be “on trend”, we are all better than that. OP, rock what you’ve got and stop looking for reason to feel bad about the way you look. Your body deserves more respect than that.

This. I think disordered thinking around women's bodies is just so deeply engrained that even when we think we're breaking out of it, we get sucked back in.

It used to be that being small and weak was desirable, because it was "feminine". Even in the era of Marilyn Monroe, who was very curvy, women were supposed to look soft and feminine, which meant having a narrow waist and no visible muscles. Being physically strong as a woman was associated with being butch, pushy, unfeminine. Women were supposed to be dominated by men.

This got doubled down on during the feminism of the 70s and 80s because women were demanding equality in the workforce, embracing birth control so they could decide when and how to have kids, and demanding equality in their relationships. That recent Brooke Shield documentary talks about how the embrace of very young, waifish models and actresses was partly a response to this -- if adult women were going to demand equality, then society would set the standard for beauty and attraction at young girls, who could still be relied upon to be weak and subservient.

Thankfully we've seen a huge backlash against these attitudes in the last 20-30 years, but a lot of it has just been another form of misogyny. Stuff like "real women have curves" is obviously just another form of putting women down or trying to narrowly define what it means to be sexy (and continues to make the primary metric for evaluating women their appeal to men). A focus on fitness has led to a fixation on women being physically strong, but that too can be perverted and turned into an excuse to put down women who aren't overtly muscular or "fit" in a very narrowly defined way (that usually also emphasizes having a narrow waist and big boobs, oh by the way).

Like we've just gotten to the point where we can now criticize every single woman's body. What a win! Like how to you successfully navigate never being too fat, too skinny, too muscular, insufficiently toned, etc.? What even is the ideal we are working towards? It feels like there isn't one, and we just weaponize judgments about body types to keep women feeling like crap. We accuse larger women of overeating and being lazy, but we accuse smaller women of having eating disorders and not "lifting heavy" or whatever.

It's exhausting and it should surprise no one that it results in women feeling bad about themselves no matter what their bodies look like. As a woman, there is a 99.9% chance that your body is considered to have something "wrong" with it according to the media, the fashion industry, the fitness industry, men, or other women. And even the women who somehow manage to win this contest? Live in constant fear of aging or getting pregnant or gaining a little weight or losing a little volume or whatever, and that keeps the plastic surgeon and fitness studios and fashion and beauty industry in business.

You cannot win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.

People still think I'm "skinny."

It really used to hurt my feelings.

When I do gain weight, I gain it mostly in my chest, stomach, butt, and thighs. I don't think I look that great when I'm any heavier than I am now. At my heaviest, I weighed 140. It's hard to tell when I've gained weight, except my clothes don't fit as well.

I lost about 10 pounds.

It's just really not that easy when people think I have an eating disorder.

I mean…..where else is there? This sounds standard. Haha

[Anonymous]

What's the trigger, OP? What comments can't you handle about your height and weight?

[Anonymous]

Woe is me, people think I'm skinny.

Suck it up, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this a humble brag?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

I’ll bite: I think the word skinny is rude and disparaging and is the equivalent of saying “fat.” Somehow, it’s perfectly acceptable to hear, “you’re so skinny/thin” but can you imagine anyone offering, “you’re so fat! You’re so overweight!”
Double standard.

Slender or fit is preferable.

I’d also say that in general, no one other than maybe your medical practitioner should be inquiring if you have an eating disorder and certainly random people in your life shouldn’t be commenting on your appearance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The post was from 2020, and Pink was water surfing. It popped up somewhere in my newsfeed today.

https://www.shape.com/celebrities/celebrity-photos/pink-thunder-thighs-wakesurfing

She doesn't appear to have cellulite. I'd happily rock those "thunder thighs"!

[Anonymous]

I’m 2 inches taller than you and 130, and I assure you I’m
Not skinny. At 5’4” and 130 neither are you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand what your trigger is. Someone commenting that you’re thin? Hearing people talk about how skinny a young girl is? The fact that you’re not the skinniest one anymore?

My mother is the same height as you and followed pretty much the same trajectory, except she was probably a bit heavier in her fifties. She’s now 81 and weighs 99-101 lbs. She eats really well, but watches her carbs due to a strong family history of diabetes. She’s super physically active for someone her age. You will probably end up being a “skinny minnie” again in your old age.

I don't want to be skinny. LoL. That's the point of my whole thread. I'm not triggered because I'm not "skinny" anymore. I weigh 130 pounds, and I'm still hearing from people that I'm too skinny. I could probably weigh 160, and I'd still have people telling me how skinny I am.

Who are these people commenting on your weight in real life. You are on the upper end of normal for your height.

[Anonymous]

You could try keto, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think what triggered me, was seeing a social media post and an article about how Pink posted a picture of herself waterskiing. She called it "thunder thighs." And she wrote about how she had kids, and she was proud of the way she looked and how strong she was in her early 40s.

Well, okay. I don't think thunder thighs have ever been out of style, especially not in 2023.

Not every woman can achieve that muscular look in her thighs. It doesn't mean we're under-eating or skinny fat. I don't care how much pasta I eat and how many squats I do, I will never have thunder thighs.

What? 2020 is probably the closest we have gotten to "thunder thighs" being in style, on certain corners of social media, but even now the women considered the hottest by mainstream culture are very thin, like EmRata and Hailey Bieber and Ana de Armas. And thunder thigs were SOLIDLY out of style all through the heroin chic late 90s and the midriff-baring early 2000s. Even now, I would challenge you to identify any female celebrity with large thighs who is considered beautiful. (I know Pink is a celebrity, but she's not celebrated for her looks).