My straight 70 yo Dad is on Transgender websites

[Anonymous]

He's married to my Mom and my cousin found him on social media which then lead me to confirm he had other profiles. Wwyd? Confront him? Tell my Mom? Wtf

[Anonymous]

What’s a transgender website?

[Anonymous]

How about just talk to him first?

[Anonymous]

Oh wow OP.

Can you talk to him and ask wtf he's thinking?

[Anonymous]

Go read Katy Tur’s book. (She’s a reporter who covered Trump for NBC when he first ran) Her father came out as transgendered about a decade ago.

[Anonymous]

No you don't confront him, what is there to confront? Poor guy, has probably felt this way his whole life but is too scared to be his true self. You want to blow up his life at this point? Please think this through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No you don't confront him, what is there to confront? Poor guy, has probably felt this way his whole life but is too scared to be his true self. You want to blow up his life at this point? Please think this through.

+1

[Anonymous]

Why do you think he's straight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No you don't confront him, what is there to confront? Poor guy, has probably felt this way his whole life but is too scared to be his true self. You want to blow up his life at this point? Please think this through.

My Dad has a VERY distinct name and a business with that name and was STUPID enough to use his real name with his trasgender dating profile. So there is NO hiding this. If my cousin found it his clients will find it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think he's straight?

His transgender dating profile says it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s a transgender website?

I don't know...that's what this website he's on is called.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about just talk to him first?

My Dad is an angry person that doesn't respond to even gentle confrontation well. But I can try.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No you don't confront him, what is there to confront? Poor guy, has probably felt this way his whole life but is too scared to be his true self. You want to blow up his life at this point? Please think this through.

My Dad has a VERY distinct name and a business with that name and was STUPID enough to use his real name with his trasgender dating profile. So there is NO hiding this. If my cousin found it his clients will find it.

And...?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No you don't confront him, what is there to confront? Poor guy, has probably felt this way his whole life but is too scared to be his true self. You want to blow up his life at this point? Please think this through.

My Dad has a VERY distinct name and a business with that name and was STUPID enough to use his real name with his trasgender dating profile. So there is NO hiding this. If my cousin found it his clients will find it.

DP: then I would tell him this, gently and alone. "Dad, your name, your REAL name, which is tied to your business, showed up on some trans dating sites. Whatever you do, whoever you are, I love you and it's okay with me as long as you're being safe and using protection. But can I help you delete these profiles with your real name so that your clients don't find this - not everyone is as open-minded as we want them to be and I'd hate for this to negatively affect your business or how you're treated. So can I help you delete those? You can create a new profile with a handle that's not tied to your name, and create a gmail address specifically for this. Can I show you how?

And then I'd encourage him to tell his ... wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No you don't confront him, what is there to confront? Poor guy, has probably felt this way his whole life but is too scared to be his true self. You want to blow up his life at this point? Please think this through.

My Dad has a VERY distinct name and a business with that name and was STUPID enough to use his real name with his trasgender dating profile. So there is NO hiding this. If my cousin found it his clients will find it.

if this is your true concern, then you send him a note that just says something like "Dad, it was brought to my attention that you used your real name on a dating website. It's not my business but I thought you would want to know".