Cheap gifts from family members

[Anonymous]

I like sending out nice gifts to family. Nothing crazy, but more than what we’d send to kids’ friends’ Bdays.

One specific family member always brings $20 max gifts, without a receipt and sometimes they seem like regifts.

Now I know that I shouldn’t be presumptuous with other peoples money, bc they don’t have to, but it feels disrespectful, and it really annoys me, because I know for sure it’s not an affordability issue.

This is more of a vent, but is it common?

[Anonymous]

It seems as though gifts are your #lovelanguage. It's hard for people like you to stop showing your love with stuff, and are forever disappointed when others don't reciprocate dollar wise.

[Anonymous]

You like sending out nice gifts, your family member doesn't. You seem to think that you are right and the family member is wrong. You're wrong about that.

[Anonymous]

If you give someone a $20 bar of soap, or $20 salt, that's pretty nice. I've absolutely regifted Dyptique candles, and don't feel guilty at all about it.

[Anonymous]

Count yourself fortunate. I have a sibling who would collect free swag (like keychains, pens, note pads) from business conventions all year. Then she'd put a bunch of them in a box, wrap them up in nice paper and a bow, and expected you to admire her thriftiness and thank her for her thoughtfulness.

[Anonymous]

That's plenty for a child.

[Anonymous]

I find that people in the DC area expect much more expensive children's gifts than are given elsewhere. $20 seems fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Count yourself fortunate. I have a sibling who would collect free swag (like keychains, pens, note pads) from business conventions all year. Then she'd put a bunch of them in a box, wrap them up in nice paper and a bow, and expected you to admire her thriftiness and thank her for her thoughtfulness.

I will see you and raise you one better: my mom would get gifts for my cousins, like shirts I wished she'd get me (the cousins were 1 and 3 years older than I am). The following year, the aunt would re-gift those gifts to me. Used.

[Anonymous]

Disrespected? Who are you to judge someone’s financial situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like sending out nice gifts to family. Nothing crazy, but more than what we’d send to kids’ friends’ Bdays.

One specific family member always brings $20 max gifts, without a receipt and sometimes they seem like regifts.

Now I know that I shouldn’t be presumptuous with other peoples money, bc they don’t have to, but it feels disrespectful, and it really annoys me, because I know for sure it’s not an affordability issue.

This is more of a vent, but is it common?

Your judgment is a really ugly look, OP. I know you think you’re hiding it well with this relative and with others, but you’re not. You really aren’t better than anyone else because you give more expensive gifts. It’s sad that as an adult, you’re wasting time with this stance.

[Anonymous]

We eventually stopped giving gifts when the overseas postage was more than the gift value. To be honest, I can't even think of a gift I want and am trying to get stuff out of the house.

[Anonymous]

Hopefully they do this just because they realize it annoys you. They’re trolling the troll.

[Anonymous]

You sound entitled

[Anonymous]

Easy stop giving gifts.

[Anonymous]

Gifts suck.