Staying in "mom job" vs pursuing goals

[Anonymous]

I have a great "mom job," very flexible schedules outside core hours, kind and hands off supervisor, substantial telework. It's not a type of work I'd like to do forever, it's very niche, but I enjoy the networking and multi-year planning aspects.

I have the opportunity to change to a job that would give me broader experience and probably set me up better for future advancement. But it would require a lot more time in office, and would be more of a headache logistically, for about the same pay. Some telework and hour flexibility is allowed, but it would have to be decided week by week, rather than my current regular schedule that works well; the hiring manager is willing to give me a lot of what I would ask for, but I am also nervous a week by week arrangement could disappear or erode over time as things get busy.
Of course, there's no guarantee the policies at my current job won't change, but they ARE written policies and formal agreements.

Is it shortsighted and lazy to just stay in my current job because I like my work arrangements? The new job might lead to more future options, in that I can't get the breadth of experience where i am now, but isn't a clear pathway to leadership or promotion in itself.

[Anonymous]

This is a tough one imho. How old are your kids?

[Anonymous]

Keep the job you have, kids come first

[Anonymous]

You have a good set up. I would definitely not move for the same amount of money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a tough one imho. How old are your kids?

2 and 7. 2 is in full time day care. Right now I can pick up 7 year old from school 4 days a week (husband covers the last). We could use after care, the world would not end, its just kinda nice to be there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a tough one imho. How old are your kids?

2 and 7. 2 is in full time day care. Right now I can pick up 7 year old from school 4 days a week (husband covers the last). We could use after care, the world would not end, its just kinda nice to be there.

Oh, that makes it easy. Hard no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a tough one imho. How old are your kids?

2 and 7. 2 is in full time day care. Right now I can pick up 7 year old from school 4 days a week (husband covers the last). We could use after care, the world would not end, its just kinda nice to be there.

Nope! Keep your mommy job.

[Anonymous]

I’m in a similar spot OP…I’ve just applied to something else, mostly because it’s been 5 years at my mom job and I want to see what’s out there that could work.

[Anonymous]

I would stay at the current job. Don't think of it as a "mom job", ugh. I adore my job but would kill for that level of flexibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would stay at the current job. Don't think of it as a "mom job", ugh. I adore my job but would kill for that level of flexibility.

That's the thing, my job is decent but i don't adore it, I'm thinking about jumping for a job I might be more excited about. I'm worried it wouldn't be worth the cost, but also worried that 5 years from now I'll feel like worrying about school pickup was a dumb and fleeting reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a great "mom job," very flexible schedules outside core hours, kind and hands off supervisor, substantial telework. It's not a type of work I'd like to do forever, it's very niche, but I enjoy the networking and multi-year planning aspects.

I have the opportunity to change to a job that would give me broader experience and probably set me up better for future advancement. But it would require a lot more time in office, and would be more of a headache logistically, for about the same pay. Some telework and hour flexibility is allowed, but it would have to be decided week by week, rather than my current regular schedule that works well; the hiring manager is willing to give me a lot of what I would ask for, but I am also nervous a week by week arrangement could disappear or erode over time as things get busy.
Of course, there's no guarantee the policies at my current job won't change, but they ARE written policies and formal agreements.

Is it shortsighted and lazy to just stay in my current job because I like my work arrangements? The new job might lead to more future options, in that I can't get the breadth of experience where i am now, but isn't a clear pathway to leadership or promotion in itself.

How much does the old abs the new job would pay ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a great "mom job," very flexible schedules outside core hours, kind and hands off supervisor, substantial telework. It's not a type of work I'd like to do forever, it's very niche, but I enjoy the networking and multi-year planning aspects.

I have the opportunity to change to a job that would give me broader experience and probably set me up better for future advancement. But it would require a lot more time in office, and would be more of a headache logistically, for about the same pay. Some telework and hour flexibility is allowed, but it would have to be decided week by week, rather than my current regular schedule that works well; the hiring manager is willing to give me a lot of what I would ask for, but I am also nervous a week by week arrangement could disappear or erode over time as things get busy.
Of course, there's no guarantee the policies at my current job won't change, but they ARE written policies and formal agreements.

Is it shortsighted and lazy to just stay in my current job because I like my work arrangements? The new job might lead to more future options, in that I can't get the breadth of experience where i am now, but isn't a clear pathway to leadership or promotion in itself.

How much does the old abs the new job would pay ?

About the same. Close enough that this isn't a financial decision.

[Anonymous]

First one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would stay at the current job. Don't think of it as a "mom job", ugh. I adore my job but would kill for that level of flexibility.

That's the thing, my job is decent but i don't adore it, I'm thinking about jumping for a job I might be more excited about. I'm worried it wouldn't be worth the cost, but also worried that 5 years from now I'll feel like worrying about school pickup was a dumb and fleeting reason.

5 years fro now you will be worried about supervising after school homework and activities and making sure you have a handle on kids social life, emotional life and influences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a great "mom job," very flexible schedules outside core hours, kind and hands off supervisor, substantial telework. It's not a type of work I'd like to do forever, it's very niche, but I enjoy the networking and multi-year planning aspects.

I have the opportunity to change to a job that would give me broader experience and probably set me up better for future advancement. But it would require a lot more time in office, and would be more of a headache logistically, for about the same pay. Some telework and hour flexibility is allowed, but it would have to be decided week by week, rather than my current regular schedule that works well; the hiring manager is willing to give me a lot of what I would ask for, but I am also nervous a week by week arrangement could disappear or erode over time as things get busy.
Of course, there's no guarantee the policies at my current job won't change, but they ARE written policies and formal agreements.

Is it shortsighted and lazy to just stay in my current job because I like my work arrangements? The new job might lead to more future options, in that I can't get the breadth of experience where i am now, but isn't a clear pathway to leadership or promotion in itself.

How much does the old abs the new job would pay ?

About the same. Close enough that this isn't a financial decision.

Can you give us a clue how much money we are talking about?