I’m sorry your country was invaded…

[Anonymous]

… but that doesn’t give you DW the right to be a b***tch to your DH and kids. We’ve suggested you go to therapy to deal with your feelings b/c taking out your frustration on us is very very wrong.

[Anonymous]

She needs a medical work-up and full bloodwork. Sometimes moments of stress reveal or trigger illnesses that include symptoms of irritability. I had a hyperthyroid crisis a few years back where I operated on a hair trigger until I collapsed with heart issues and had to be hospitalized. It was only in hospital that they diagnosed an auto-immune thyroid disease.

[Anonymous]

My mom is Russian, grandmother (her mom) Ukrainian. You cannot fully comprehend what people from that region feel. Russia we all knew ceased to exist; Ukraine is destroyed in front of whole world. It's a 3rd large European war.

Your wife needs a psychologist: does she have such service at work? My job offered me psychological support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom is Russian, grandmother (her mom) Ukrainian. You cannot fully comprehend what people from that region feel. Russia we all knew ceased to exist; Ukraine is destroyed in front of whole world. It's a 3rd large European war.

Your wife needs a psychologist: does she have such service at work? My job offered me psychological support.

Always remember to rule out physical causes first, before addressing mental causes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom is Russian, grandmother (her mom) Ukrainian. You cannot fully comprehend what people from that region feel. Russia we all knew ceased to exist; Ukraine is destroyed in front of whole world. It's a 3rd large European war.

Your wife needs a psychologist: does she have such service at work? My job offered me psychological support.

Always remember to rule out physical causes first, before addressing mental causes.

NP but following and just want to ask this PP to elaborate. In this situation, what physical causes are you referring to? (I'm not being snarky, I just want to know) Do you mean physically, with the DW, or do you mean "the environment." As in "it's normal to be completely stressed out in this situation, so don't jump to mental illness"--is that what you mean?

[Anonymous]

Are you the H who complained about your W not doing the laundry because she works for the Ukrainian relief and has all her family there?

[Anonymous]

You again? I hope she divorces you because you’re being a pretty cold-blooded asshole about this. Sorry the invasion of your wife’s home country is interfering with her playing cruise director to the rest of family and you’re not having to get off your ass and actually parent.

[Anonymous]

Which country?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom is Russian, grandmother (her mom) Ukrainian. You cannot fully comprehend what people from that region feel. Russia we all knew ceased to exist; Ukraine is destroyed in front of whole world. It's a 3rd large European war.

Your wife needs a psychologist: does she have such service at work? My job offered me psychological support.

Always remember to rule out physical causes first, before addressing mental causes.

Mental breakdown happens from watching news about violent events, over and over again. My mom watches all twits, YouTube videos and I cannot get her off screen. She has very high anxiety, thinks that some is going to break into her apartment in Russia and write letter Z on the door, scared to check with neighbors because everyone knows she lives in the US.

Would you be stressed if your family's house was bombed, or your close friends' children killed, someone had moved into your vacation rental and told its because you are nazi supporting US? Most people would...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom is Russian, grandmother (her mom) Ukrainian. You cannot fully comprehend what people from that region feel. Russia we all knew ceased to exist; Ukraine is destroyed in front of whole world. It's a 3rd large European war.

Your wife needs a psychologist: does she have such service at work? My job offered me psychological support.

Always remember to rule out physical causes first, before addressing mental causes.

NP but following and just want to ask this PP to elaborate. In this situation, what physical causes are you referring to? (I'm not being snarky, I just want to know) Do you mean physically, with the DW, or do you mean "the environment." As in "it's normal to be completely stressed out in this situation, so don't jump to mental illness"--is that what you mean?

No, good Lord! I mean physically. DCUM has this dangerous habit of always jumping to "therapy", when it's actually the last step in the diagnosis and treatment process. What does this person suffer from? Is there a hormonal, metabolic, infectious or other physical cause to her behavior? If everything is normal, what is her mental health like? Can we rule out a manic episode or other psychiatric disorders? Depression, anxiety and grief over the situation in Ukraine should be the "diagnosis by exclusion", meaning that it's the last diagnosis that fits symptoms after everything else has been ruled out.

[Anonymous]

Is this the same dude who was whining that his Ukrainian wife wasn’t interested in “social events”?
Grow up and get a clue!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom is Russian, grandmother (her mom) Ukrainian. You cannot fully comprehend what people from that region feel. Russia we all knew ceased to exist; Ukraine is destroyed in front of whole world. It's a 3rd large European war.

Your wife needs a psychologist: does she have such service at work? My job offered me psychological support.

Always remember to rule out physical causes first, before addressing mental causes.

Mental breakdown happens from watching news about violent events, over and over again. My mom watches all twits, YouTube videos and I cannot get her off screen. She has very high anxiety, thinks that some is going to break into her apartment in Russia and write letter Z on the door, scared to check with neighbors because everyone knows she lives in the US.

Would you be stressed if your family's house was bombed, or your close friends' children killed, someone had moved into your vacation rental and told its because you are nazi supporting US? Most people would...

It's medical protocol, PP, to look for physical causes first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this the same dude who was whining that his Ukrainian wife wasn’t interested in “social events”?
Grow up and get a clue!

Yes, it’s this douchecanoe:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1047500.page

[Anonymous]

I’m the OP. The previous link is not me. Butctfabhs fur jumping to that conclusion.

DW needs psychological help. Yes, her family members in Ukraine are under fire and she worries about them, but that does but give her the right to kick it ge metaphorical dog. I had simply wanted to get BBQ for my birthday abs she freaked out about “how can I think about celebrating” in a war. Well, Ukraine is not the only war - look at the suffering in Yemen or Ethiopia. They are my getting the sympathy the Western news coverage gets, so we could celebrate your birthday? I’ll let that go now, but she stepped over the line when she told me “I hope your b***tch mother dies soon. I’ll be sure to dance on her grave.” I no longer have any compassion for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP. The previous link is not me. Butctfabhs fur jumping to that conclusion.

DW needs psychological help. Yes, her family members in Ukraine are under fire and she worries about them, but that does but give her the right to kick it ge metaphorical dog. I had simply wanted to get BBQ for my birthday abs she freaked out about “how can I think about celebrating” in a war. Well, Ukraine is not the only war - look at the suffering in Yemen or Ethiopia. They are my getting the sympathy the Western news coverage gets, so we could celebrate your birthday? I’ll let that go now, but she stepped over the line when she told me “I hope your b***tch mother dies soon. I’ll be sure to dance on her grave.” I no longer have any compassion for her.

“Would you please stop thinking about your loved ones who could be slaughtered in the streets and just get me some BBQ?”