Ask me anything: I am a kept woman

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you pop out a few babies, go back to work full time in between all of your carpools, homework helping, and practices etc. and see how good you look, you selfish prick! I bet you have plenty of time for your self and your whores because she is busy futilely raising your doomed offspring because they will most likely turn out like you. Do her a favor and divorce your wife so she can move on. If you are such a catch she canive just fine on the 50% of your money you give her.

Oh poor victim.

You decided to have children. You decided to get and stay fat. You decided to make choices that make you look ridiculous. Put down the pizza and the donuts and go for a run and when you get back, take a shower, shave your legs, throw on a sexy dress and some heels. When your husband walks through the door, pour him a drink, sit him down in a chair and suck his dick while he relaxes. Do that and things like it often and watch how quickly your husband rushes home

First of all, why the hell are you talking to me like I am this guy's wife? I look great and have no sex issues with my husband. Second of all, I am guessing the husband had something to do with the deciding to have kids thing. I was merely pointing out that it is not as easy as you think to lose weight after kids. But after reading this douche bag's posts about his wife I totally get why she eats so much. I only hope she gets the balls to leave him. He's a loser and in a shitty marriage so frankly the joke is on him.

She eats because she can't stop eating. If there were a dozen donuts she would gobble them up in an hour.

The only reason I stay is because of the kids and the only reason the kids are not obese is because of me.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you pop out a few babies, go back to work full time in between all of your carpools, homework helping, and practices etc. and see how good you look, you selfish prick! I bet you have plenty of time for your self and your whores because she is busy futilely raising your doomed offspring because they will most likely turn out like you. Do her a favor and divorce your wife so she can move on. If you are such a catch she canive just fine on the 50% of your money you give her.

Oh poor victim.

You decided to have children. You decided to get and stay fat. You decided to make choices that make you look ridiculous. Put down the pizza and the donuts and go for a run and when you get back, take a shower, shave your legs, throw on a sexy dress and some heels. When your husband walks through the door, pour him a drink, sit him down in a chair and suck his dick while he relaxes. Do that and things like it often and watch how quickly your husband rushes home

First of all, why the hell are you talking to me like I am this guy's wife? I look great and have no sex issues with my husband. Second of all, I am guessing the husband had something to do with the deciding to have kids thing. I was merely pointing out that it is not as easy as you think to lose weight after kids. But after reading this douche bag's posts about his wife I totally get why she eats so much. I only hope she gets the balls to leave him. He's a loser and in a shitty marriage so frankly the joke is on him.

She eats because she can't stop eating. If there were a dozen donuts she would gobble them up in an hour.

The only reason I stay is because of the kids and the only reason the kids are not obese is because of me.

How old are the kids? How long are you going to stay in the unhappy marriage?

[Anonymous]

Good Heavens, I've not looked at DCUM in days. We're up to 70 pages with this? A S/O thread is in order. Maybe next week.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it doesn't sound like you're concerned about your like post affair. But keep in mind that you won't be 24 forever. You won't necessarily be able to trade in looks and sex forever, and it's a lot harder to start a career and a life for yourself at 29, 39, 31 than it is now.

I spent my early and mid twenties goofing off and though I had a lot of fun, traveled the world, etc I didn't have much to show for it by the time I hit 30. It was hard starting from scratch then and professionally and personally it was a struggle.

Sidebar: You honestly think you wasted your time by living life during your twenties instead of career-building? Wow. If you make it to 90, what do you think you'll look back more fondly on: working, or having fun and travelling when you were young and carefree?

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Anonymous wrote:To those who are so critical of OP's lifestyle, how many women do you know who don't earn any money and rely on their husband's income for their lifestyle?

Do you view them as "kept" women who lack self esteem and do you warn them that when they get older and they lose their looks, their husbands will dump them for a younger woman?

As a SAHM w/3 kids and a substantial degree/resume of my own, I call BS on your nonsense, PP! MY DH may very likely become a SAHD in the next five years because we are taking turns with child rearing and pooling our resources. Get over your screaming misogyny and jealousy. So many posters on DCUM -- many, many of you are lonely men, I suppose -- write these comments about SAHMs, but you know in your dateless hearts that the classic one income relationship is a rare experience now. Other posters on other threads have written miles on nonsense on the topic.

Bottom line: a marriage involves two people making a lifetime commitment of trust to each other and to the kids they produce. OP doesn't have that. In fact, she has absolutely nothing. No job. No resume. Not youth for very much longer. The reality is that she's unemployed and as she gets older is dooming herself to longterm unemployment and reduced lifetime earnings.

SAHMs -- as I've been told over and over again by former SAHMs who've reentered the workforce once their kids are in MS -- don't face that difficulty. In DC at least, once a SAHM or SAHD gets his/her first job, each subsequent employer says "S/he stayed home with the kids", points out four or five others in the office who did the same thing (sometimes the supervisors themselves, as many are women in their 60s and even early 70s now -- my DH's boss being one of them) and say "you'll do just fine."

False equivocation = B.S.

Your response is ridiculous at so many levels.

But just to pick one: "a lifetime of commitment"? Are you even aware of the divorce statistics? Also, go take a look at the relationship forum where women are tired of their husbands sometimes for entirely frivolous reasons. A lifetime of commitment indeed!

And just FYI, I am married and have been in a committed relationship for over two decades. But I find the pontificating about the lifestyle of the OP nauseating because some of the very people who are criticizing her for being a "kept" woman probably associate without a second thought with "kept" married women.

I live in a fairly affluent area where at least half the women don't earn any money. Their lives revolve around dropping kids to school, going to the gym, lunch with other wives in the same position they are in, going to the hairstylist, an occasional massage, a housekeeper who comes weekly, some have nannys who are there when the kids come back from school and their mother is out doing her thing - and some don't even have children. They are "kept" wives and there is no other way to describe it if you want to call the OP a "kept" woman who lives a shallow existence. They are no better than the OP.

It is not that I would recommend the OP's lifestyle to my daughters but she is doing what many other women do every single day of their lives.

Wow, you have issues -- I would talk to a therapist so you can find a way to think of SAHM's as something other than prostitutes. Good luck to you! You must be the same poster who though men couldn't respect their wives who stayed at home.

You must have problems with comprehension. Time for remedial lessons.

I don't see anywhere in the post any reference to prostitution. Neither OP nor SAH wives are prostitutes. Both are involved in arrangements that will provide for their comfort with someone else as bread winner. OP offers more than sex based on what she said and so do SAH wives.

Not at all, you can barely hide your contempt for SAHM's, you must have some underlying unhappiness with your own choices. You are the one who sees no difference between a mistress and a wife -- I guess your marriage is some exalted partnership simply because you work outside the home. Or so you implied, nothing wrong with my comprehension.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you pop out a few babies, go back to work full time in between all of your carpools, homework helping, and practices etc. and see how good you look, you selfish prick! I bet you have plenty of time for your self and your whores because she is busy futilely raising your doomed offspring because they will most likely turn out like you. Do her a favor and divorce your wife so she can move on. If you are such a catch she canive just fine on the 50% of your money you give her.

Oh poor victim.

You decided to have children. You decided to get and stay fat. You decided to make choices that make you look ridiculous. Put down the pizza and the donuts and go for a run and when you get back, take a shower, shave your legs, throw on a sexy dress and some heels. When your husband walks through the door, pour him a drink, sit him down in a chair and suck his dick while he relaxes. Do that and things like it often and watch how quickly your husband rushes home

First of all, why the hell are you talking to me like I am this guy's wife? I look great and have no sex issues with my husband. Second of all, I am guessing the husband had something to do with the deciding to have kids thing. I was merely pointing out that it is not as easy as you think to lose weight after kids. But after reading this douche bag's posts about his wife I totally get why she eats so much. I only hope she gets the balls to leave him. He's a loser and in a shitty marriage so frankly the joke is on him.

She eats because she can't stop eating. If there were a dozen donuts she would gobble them up in an hour.


The only reason I stay is because of the kids and the only reason the kids are not obese is because of me.

Sounds to me like your wife has an eating disorder. If you really cared about your wife, you would know that. Instead you call her names behind her back. Don't think your kids aren't picking up on your disdain for their mother. I hope you don't have any daughters.

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Sidebar: You honestly think you wasted your time by living life during your twenties instead of career-building? Wow. If you make it to 90, what do you think you'll look back more fondly on: working, or having fun and travelling when you were young and carefree?

+1. No one on her deathbed regrets having not spent enough time at the office.

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Anonymous wrote:I would wager that if an AMA thread were started by someone claiming to be a "kept" man, most guys will react with indifference and a few will want to know how they can get in on the act!

I'm the 29yr old who posted my story on the last page. I thought about started that thread but it's pointless.

Your situation was a bit different in that your boyfriend more or less set you up monetarily and made it so that you were free to walk when you felt it was time to do so. Also, you are now older and long since out of that situation. You seem to see no problems with what the Op is doing but that might be because your own situation was handled in a much different way by the man you were involved with.

At any rate, as the mother of sons, I would be heartbroken if they wound up in a situation like the Op's. No way would I want them to put their own lives/dreams/accomplishments on hold for another (older more powerful) person like that. What a use.

He didn't make it so I could do anything. At the time I was doing what I wanted because I enjoyed his company. He enjoyed spending the money. I made a choice to continue on because the experience was interesting for me. I was free to "walk" because I didn't "need" the money or the stuff even though I enjoyed them.

Just because she enjoys the lifestyle doesn't mean she isn't free to leave them behind if she so decides. I'm not sure why so many posters believe she's somehow trapped because he's spending money on her. She can simply stop taking the stuff and the money. None of this makes it "right" but the idea that she's stuck is ridiculous.

You said that you came out 4 million dollars ahead from having that affair. You were in your early 20's so that money came from (?) the guy, right? What am I missing?

What don't you understand? I wasn't trapped and neither is she. I could have walked at any time. Had I stayed I certainly would have come away better off than $4 million dollars. I continued what I was doing until I no longer was interested in spending time with him. Same as with any other relationship I've been involved in. The money didn't matter anymore once I decided I was ready to move on

You act like 4 million + your freedom to move on was chump change. You have a different view of reality than most people. I hope that money lasts because you don't seem to have any real money sense at all.

What is with the rampant victim mentality???

I had "freedom" to move on from the beginning. Why is that so difficult to comprehend? She isn't some slave. She's made a CHOICE.

The money and the condo are still very much a part of my life. Thanks for your concern.

Op is free to leave IF she is willing to give up the roof over her head, the food on her table, the gym, the spa and all the other goodies that her married boyfriend gives to her. She has also been barely employed for years, apparently has never had a full time job, has little to qualify her to get a full time job and would have to rely on certain friends to (hopefully) give her a place to stay and some work - assuming that they even stay in the area. In the meantime, her peers have been struggling to make ends meet BUT have earned some valuable work experience, they are making a name for themselves in the industry and they are building lives for themselves maybe falling in love, getting engaged. The longer Op shelves her life the farther and farther she is falling behind her peers, the more and more ground she will have to make up. I'm guessing that at 24 she already has a sense that she is behind. In the next couple of years it will hit her like a ton of bricks. That's how fast time flies...

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Op, I am so sorry these folks have ruined your thread. I really miss you and wish you would come back. I'm really interested to know if you are feeling better. I'm concerned about you. Do you have plans for the weekend? What's your guy up to? Are you seeing your mom for Mother's day?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think he meant he pocketed 4 million in cash, did you pp? I thought that over the years you accumulated that much in gifts etc.

So he pocketed a million dollars every year for 4 years. That is a crap load of money. He didn't wind up with that bankroll because he was frugal, he has that money because he had a generous rich boyfriend. If that boyfriend had been more of a control freak, he would not have 4 million dollars. You can bestow a lavish lifestyle on someone without making THEM wealthy - just ask the Op.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I am so sorry these folks have ruined your thread. I really miss you and wish you would come back. I'm really interested to know if you are feeling better. I'm concerned about you. Do you have plans for the weekend? What's your guy up to? Are you seeing your mom for Mother's day?

Why don't you tell Op how smart she is and how wonderful this will be for her in the long run? If you think she is doing a great thing - tell her! Don't be shy, pat that girl on the back.

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Ugh, the last thing I wanted was for my husband to rush home. If getting fat would have kept him off me, I would have sucked down bacon milkshakes all day long.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I am so sorry these folks have ruined your thread. I really miss you and wish you would come back. I'm really interested to know if you are feeling better. I'm concerned about you. Do you have plans for the weekend? What's your guy up to? Are you seeing your mom for Mother's day?

+1
OP, it was gorgeous today! What did you do?

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh, the last thing I wanted was for my husband to rush home. If getting fat would have kept him off me, I would have sucked down bacon milkshakes all day long.

Mmmmm bacon milkshake

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh, the last thing I wanted was for my husband to rush home. If getting fat would have kept him off me, I would have sucked down bacon milkshakes all day long.

Another married woman who likely stays in her marriage because her husband provides for her. But that is fine but what OP does is wrong.

In the world of DCUM, there is nothing wrong with the wife but the OP is evil personified.