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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would wager that if an AMA thread were started by someone claiming to be a "kept" man, most guys will react with indifference and a few will want to know how they can get in on the act!

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I'm the 29yr old who posted my story on the last page. I thought about started that thread but it's pointless. [/quote]

Your situation was a bit different in that your boyfriend more or less set you up monetarily and made it so that you were free to walk when you felt it was time to do so.  Also, you are now older and long since out of that situation.  You seem to see no problems with what the Op is doing but that might be because your own situation was handled in a much different way by the man you were involved with.

At any rate, as the mother of sons, I would be heartbroken if they wound up in a situation like the Op's.   No way would I want them to put their own lives/dreams/accomplishments on hold for another (older more powerful) person like that.  What a use.[/quote]

He didn't make it so I could do anything. At the time I was doing what I wanted because I enjoyed his company. He enjoyed spending the money. I made a choice to continue on because the experience was interesting for me. I was free to "walk" because I didn't "need" the money or the stuff even though I enjoyed them.

Just because she enjoys the lifestyle doesn't mean she isn't free to leave them behind if she so decides. I'm not sure why so many posters believe she's somehow trapped because he's spending money on her. She can simply stop taking the stuff and the money. None of this makes it "right" but the idea that she's stuck is ridiculous. [/quote]

You said that you came out 4 million dollars ahead from having that affair.  You were in your early 20's so that money came from (?) the guy, right?  What am I missing?[/quote]

What don't you understand? I wasn't trapped and neither is she. I could have walked at any time. Had I stayed I certainly would have come away better off than $4 million dollars. I continued what I was doing until I no longer was interested in spending time with him. Same as with any other relationship I've been involved in. The money didn't matter anymore once I decided I was ready to move on[/quote]

You act like 4 million + your freedom to move on was chump change.  You have a different view of reality than most people.  I hope that money lasts because you don't seem to have any real money sense at all.[/quote]

What is with the rampant victim mentality???

I had "freedom" to move on from the beginning. Why is that so difficult to comprehend? She isn't some slave. She's made a CHOICE.

The money and the condo are still very much a part of my life. Thanks for your concern.[/quote]

Op is free to leave IF she is willing to give up the roof over her head, the food on her table, the gym, the spa and all the other goodies that her married boyfriend gives to her.  She has also been barely employed for years, apparently has never had a full time job, has little to qualify her to get a full time job and would have to rely on certain friends to (hopefully) give her a place to stay and some work - assuming that they even stay in the area.  In the meantime, her peers have been struggling to make ends meet BUT have earned some valuable work experience, they are making a name for themselves in the industry and they are building lives for themselves maybe falling in love, getting engaged.  The longer Op shelves her life the farther and farther she is falling behind her peers, the more and more ground she will have to make up.  I'm guessing that at 24 she already has a sense that she is behind.  In the next couple of years it will hit her like a ton of bricks. That's how fast time flies...[/quote]

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