How do you know you're attractive?

[Anonymous]

Sock puppet and troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I attracted a very good looking husband.

not always the case...know plenty of guys who marry up for the $$

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never had a male friend who didn’t want to date me. This has been such a bummer and makes me question my worth beyond just being desirable. It sucks.

This is the case for 95% of all male/ female friendships. A better indicator of your attractiveness would be how hot your previous actual boyfriends have been.

[Anonymous]

My husband tells me I am all the time and that’s good enough for me! And sometimes when I’m out walking guys will drive by and honk and wave and then they realize I’m probably closer to their mother’s age. My husband says that they do it because from the rear I’ve got thigh gap.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve never had a male friend who didn’t want to date me. This has been such a bummer and makes me question my worth beyond just being desirable. It sucks.

This is the case for 95% of all male/ female friendships. A better indicator of your attractiveness would be how hot your previous actual boyfriends have been.

Two of my exes were successful male models. I don't consider myself extremely attractive. I'd say I'm fit, was in the right place to meet them, and know how to play the game and that's probably 90 percent of the battle.

[Anonymous]

In my college and young adult periods I had plenty of good looking guys ask me out so that was a good clue that I’m attractive but not necessarily gorgeous. Through my 40’s I was hit on a number of times but that doesn’t mean I was necessarily attractive if you know what I mean. Now in my 50’s I’m still pretty fit and I’m lucky to have a husband who often compliments me on my looks. When I look in the mirror I feel good about myself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People always told me so my whole life.

So it's safe to assume if no one has ever told you you are attractive, that you aren't?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

You would know if you're attractive. If you need to ask, you're not.

Just being honest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People tell me. In their most professional way they can muster.

People tell you at work you are pretty?

Yes! And I don't really like it. I'm in my forties, happily married (to a hottie) with 2 kids!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am older now, but when I was younger, it included:

1) Being told I was pretty as a child
2) Being asked out on dates
3) Getting catcalled on the street
4) Women getting jealous of me for no apparent reason
5) Being told I looked beautiful if I wore makeup or dressed up

+1

This is a big one.

I would never pick up on this if it were true, I guess because I'm neurodivergent. If this is a real thing that happens (I'm still skeptical), then it should have happened, it must have happened at some point... but I've only ever figured someone was being weirdly rude to me without knowing me because there's something wrong with *me*.

In highschool one of my girlfriends didn't invite me out a few times. I was very hurt and asked her about it. She was frank and said it was because I get all the male attention. I still remember how sad that made me. I never wanted or tried for the attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Title says it all.

You look in the mirror or someone tells you.

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Anonymous wrote:Black woman here. Glad to know that you all think we are absolutely gorgeous. Thank you!

Black don’t crack (but white cracks and crumbles and sags)

- white lady

I get what you're saying to white lady, but you should learn to love yourself too

[Anonymous]

Men are still checking out my ass at 52.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. I’ve never really thought of myself as anyone’s dream but I think I’ve gotten better looking (at least relative to my age group) over time. I was certainly invisible to women in my younger years. My wife (who is objectively hot and who I met when I was unemplyed and broke 20 years ago) compliments me regularly and we have a solid sex life. Also, other women occasionally flirt with me. People (men and women) randomly tell me that I look like Eric Bana or Pedro Pascal.

Aside from that, the check boxes seem to be there: I’m 6’2”, athletic and still have a full head of dark hair at 50. Also, I’ve had a solid career which doesn’t hurt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men are still checking out my ass at 52.

Guy here. I love this! My wife is 48 and has always had a ridiculous booty. She’s also stayed in shape all these years. We were out on the boat last weekend and I was helping to tow in a disabled boat. The guys on that boat couldn’t stop checking her out. I thought it was pretty funny as they had hot women on their boat already who were all half her age.