get over name brand / prestige obsession

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course attending a prestige college matters in one's life outcome. UK prime ministers mostly came from Oxford or Cambridge. Many Ivy graduates/dropouts went on to become business leaders, government leaders, supreme court justices, and etc. Has there ever been a SC justice or President from Longwood? Not I am aware of. Your anecdotes don't change the overall statistics. You also can't detach the name brand from the people who attend the top schools. Statistically those are people more driven, hard working, and intelligent.

Obviously the choice of attending an average school is fine too. If you are a hardworking and intelligent person, you will be successful regardless. But there is no point of forcing your lifestyle to everyone else.

What?

Where did Steve Jobs go to college?
Bill Gates?


CEO's across the country did not all go to Ivy leagues. SC Justices LOL ACB HAHAHAHAHA Kavanaugh HAHAHAHAHAHA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where did Steve Jobs go to college?
Bill Gates?

Not sure your of your point, but you know they both attended (but left) extremely selective colleges.

Also, they are extraordinarily gifted and driven people, and most should not be compared to them any more than most HS basketball players should be compared to LeBron.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course attending a prestige college matters in one's life outcome. UK prime ministers mostly came from Oxford or Cambridge. Many Ivy graduates/dropouts went on to become business leaders, government leaders, supreme court justices, and etc. Has there ever been a SC justice or President from Longwood? Not I am aware of. Your anecdotes don't change the overall statistics. You also can't detach the name brand from the people who attend the top schools. Statistically those are people more driven, hard working, and intelligent.

Obviously the choice of attending an average school is fine too. If you are a hardworking and intelligent person, you will be successful regardless. But there is no point of forcing your lifestyle to everyone else.

JFC, do people here actually think their kids could be Supreme Court justices?

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Anonymous wrote:Wait... what happened to the flex discussion about sweatshirts and note taking swag?!

Oh sorry I’ll continue it. How dare that person touts about their Harvard and Columbia merchandise. I don’t think it was sarcasm just pure elitism. I only flexed my MIT sweatshirt to one up the person.

I have a sweatshirt from University of Michigan. It’s definitely much warmer and fluffier than yours. I win.

Imagine getting blown out by Ohio State every year, feels bad for you man.

That’s sure, I will fully admit. Big L!

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Anonymous wrote:Wait... what happened to the flex discussion about sweatshirts and note taking swag?!

Oh sorry I’ll continue it. How dare that person touts about their Harvard and Columbia merchandise. I don’t think it was sarcasm just pure elitism. I only flexed my MIT sweatshirt to one up the person.

I have a sweatshirt from University of Michigan. It’s definitely much warmer and fluffier than yours. I win.

I have one from Anne Arundel Community College. I win.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, unless DCUM readers' kids' are your kids/grandkids - or you are paying their tuition - MYOB. Unless you've decided to come here to tell us you'll send your grandkids to the local community colleges because you've gotten "over name brand / prestige obsession," your ranting is important only to you and your grandma.

Looks like OP struck a nerve with you, huh? And by your logic doesn't virtually any opinion offered on DCUM fall into the MYOB category?

OP isn't answering anyone's Q. S/he's answering his or her own imaginary Q. No one asked.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait... what happened to the flex discussion about sweatshirts and note taking swag?!

Oh sorry I’ll continue it. How dare that person touts about their Harvard and Columbia merchandise. I don’t think it was sarcasm just pure elitism. I only flexed my MIT sweatshirt to one up the person.

MIT was my kid's fallback.

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This post is catnip for the Real Moms of DC: Prestige Hunters. A real playground for that crowd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post is catnip for the Real Moms of DC: Prestige Hunters. A real playground for that crowd.

Telling DCUM readers to "get over name brand / prestige obsession" is like telling DCUM women to get over their prospect's profession/income obsession. It ain't happening cuz it's in their blood.

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Anonymous wrote:Looking back, one of my biggest regrets/missteps as a parent was putting way too much pressure on my kids to excel in school with the goal of getting into top colleges. The pressure worked, and they did do well and go "name brand," but fast forward a few years and it really didn't make much of a difference. They're all happy and successful, but so are their friends who didn't do as well as they did and didn't end up at top schools. Time is proving to be the great equalizer.

Just something for parents to keep in mind when they're still in the midst of things. I realize I'm probably preaching to the wrong crowd.

You are preaching to the wrong crowd because there are plenty of folks here who DID attend the top schools and know first hand the myriad advantages to having done so.

Also as you have clearly not attended a top school yourself, your children are also less likely to do so because the apple does not fall far from the tree. Despite the occasional genius outlier, it ain't happening for you regardless of the pressure you did or did not put on your kids.

Now stop wasting everyone's time and go away.

Sounds like you can’t deal with the truth. It does not matter! I think you realize that because obviously the truth is making you angry.

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Anonymous wrote:Looking back, one of my biggest regrets/missteps as a parent was putting way too much pressure on my kids to excel in school with the goal of getting into top colleges. The pressure worked, and they did do well and go "name brand," but fast forward a few years and it really didn't make much of a difference. They're all happy and successful, but so are their friends who didn't do as well as they did and didn't end up at top schools. Time is proving to be the great equalizer.

Just something for parents to keep in mind when they're still in the midst of things. I realize I'm probably preaching to the wrong crowd.

You are preaching to the wrong crowd because there are plenty of folks here who DID attend the top schools and know first hand the myriad advantages to having done so.

Also as you have clearly not attended a top school yourself, your children are also less likely to do so because the apple does not fall far from the tree. Despite the occasional genius outlier, it ain't happening for you regardless of the pressure you did or did not put on your kids.

Now stop wasting everyone's time and go away.

Sounds like you can’t deal with the truth. It does not matter! I think you realize that because obviously the truth is making you angry.

Anyone who thinks there is any “truth” here is delusional.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s just one person who can’t let this go. The vast majority of PPs here agree with OP. This post drives him crazy. 😀. Let’s keep it up!

-went to a tiny no name college. Got my PhD and am now a professor at a big east coast university. Sending my first child to a second tier state university next year because that’s where he wants to go, and I’m happy about it!

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Anonymous wrote:I think it makes a difference if you go to a tippy top school. Other than that, the next T50 don’t matter as much. The difference between a school like Tufts or Vanderbilt, say, is negligible even though Vandy is higher ranked. They are both great schools.

I there is another difference once you start past the T100 school. You may have more opportunities graduating from Emory than Appalachian, for instance.

But if you are talking T15-T50, it makes no difference.

You didn't understand my post at all. How old are your kids?

What are you talking about? The pp is spot on.

Sigh. I give up. Clearly you're still in the midst of all of this. Y'all can just go ahead and split hairs between schools and tiers like you always do. As I said, I should have known I was preaching to the wrong crowd.

I'm out.

+100
OP, I completely got your post. It’s funny how these posters immediately went into tier mode. This advice is wasted on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you’re 100% correct, but no one believes it until they see it. It’s something that people just have to experience to understand, and even then, some never do, which is how you end up with some people who wrap their entire identity around the ranking of their undergrad school and literally can’t shut up about it, even though they’re working alongside and under others who went everywhere else.

THIS ^^^

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Anonymous wrote:I think it makes a difference if you go to a tippy top school. Other than that, the next T50 don’t matter as much. The difference between a school like Tufts or Vanderbilt, say, is negligible even though Vandy is higher ranked. They are both great schools.

I there is another difference once you start past the T100 school. You may have more opportunities graduating from Emory than Appalachian, for instance.

But if you are talking T15-T50, it makes no difference.

You didn't understand my post at all. How old are your kids?

What are you talking about? The pp is spot on.

Sigh. I give up. Clearly you're still in the midst of all of this. Y'all can just go ahead and split hairs between schools and tiers like you always do. As I said, I should have known I was preaching to the wrong crowd.

I'm out.

Yep. Thanks for saying it though. Some people got it.