Is dating harder for guys who have an average income?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It probably depends on age and attractiveness. I met my DH in our 20s, we both made peanuts (like our combined HHI was around 65k), but he was hot and fun and we lived really, really cheaply. If I met him at 40 making his current income, that would probably be less attractive to me because I value financial security more now. But I didn't just meet him, we've been together many years and have multiple kids he takes care of with dedication, so it's obviously not the same comparison!

This. In your 20s its all about the potential

Exactly. A 45 year old making $70,000 is going to get rejected by a lot of us where a 25 year old wouldn't.

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Anonymous wrote:Other than being short, or some other physical handicap, I can’t think of a worse problem for a man to have than having average ito below average income.

I can. He could be married to a fat, middle aged woman.

...who has gained 40 pounds since they met and tells him "I could lose the weight for a different man who supports me better, but it's not worth the effort for you."

You don't understand men. Once a woman becomes ugly to them, there is no coming back. If my wife gained 40 pounds I'd never find her attractive again even if she lost it 6 months later.

I’m saying a little prayer of gratitude that I’m not married to a man like you.

Because you're a disgusting fat body?

NP. You should be ashamed of your attempt to shame. Your personality has removed anything else that may have otherwise worked in your favor. You can change ugly on the outside. The inside? That ain’t so easy.

And I too said a little prayer of thanks for not having someone that thinks like you. Most MEN don’t think like that. Thankfully. I’m not defending myself either. I’m just find your bullying someone who could potentially be overweight to be offensively brute.

+1. Most men aren't on mommy forums.

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Anonymous wrote:Other than being short, or some other physical handicap, I can’t think of a worse problem for a man to have than having average ito below average income.

I can. He could be married to a fat, middle aged woman.

...who has gained 40 pounds since they met and tells him "I could lose the weight for a different man who supports me better, but it's not worth the effort for you."

You don't understand men. Once a woman becomes ugly to them, there is no coming back. If my wife gained 40 pounds I'd never find her attractive again even if she lost it 6 months later.

I’m saying a little prayer of gratitude that I’m not married to a man like you.

Because you're a disgusting fat body?

NP. You should be ashamed of your attempt to shame. Your personality has removed anything else that may have otherwise worked in your favor. You can change ugly on the outside. The inside? That ain’t so easy.

And I too said a little prayer of thanks for not having someone that thinks like you. Most MEN don’t think like that. Thankfully. I’m not defending myself either. I’m just find your bullying someone who could potentially be overweight to be offensively brute.

+1. Most men aren't on mommy forums.

Last I checked this place was called DC Urban Moms and Dads.

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Anonymous wrote:Other than being short, or some other physical handicap, I can’t think of a worse problem for a man to have than having average ito below average income.

I can. He could be married to a fat, middle aged woman.

...who has gained 40 pounds since they met and tells him "I could lose the weight for a different man who supports me better, but it's not worth the effort for you."

You don't understand men. Once a woman becomes ugly to them, there is no coming back. If my wife gained 40 pounds I'd never find her attractive again even if she lost it 6 months later.

I’m saying a little prayer of gratitude that I’m not married to a man like you.

Because you're a disgusting fat body?

NP. You should be ashamed of your attempt to shame. Your personality has removed anything else that may have otherwise worked in your favor. You can change ugly on the outside. The inside? That ain’t so easy.

And I too said a little prayer of thanks for not having someone that thinks like you. Most MEN don’t think like that. Thankfully. I’m not defending myself either. I’m just find your bullying someone who could potentially be overweight to be offensively brute.

+1. Most men aren't on mommy forums.

Last I checked this place was called DC Urban Moms and Dads.

I know the name changed to include dads, but I can't imagine most straight men I know coming here.

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Anonymous wrote:Other than being short, or some other physical handicap, I can’t think of a worse problem for a man to have than having average ito below average income.

I can. He could be married to a fat, middle aged woman.

...who has gained 40 pounds since they met and tells him "I could lose the weight for a different man who supports me better, but it's not worth the effort for you."

You don't understand men. Once a woman becomes ugly to them, there is no coming back. If my wife gained 40 pounds I'd never find her attractive again even if she lost it 6 months later.

I’m saying a little prayer of gratitude that I’m not married to a man like you.

Because you're a disgusting fat body?

NP. You should be ashamed of your attempt to shame. Your personality has removed anything else that may have otherwise worked in your favor. You can change ugly on the outside. The inside? That ain’t so easy.

And I too said a little prayer of thanks for not having someone that thinks like you. Most MEN don’t think like that. Thankfully. I’m not defending myself either. I’m just find your bullying someone who could potentially be overweight to be offensively brute.

+1. Most men aren't on mommy forums.

Last I checked this place was called DC Urban Moms and Dads.

I know the name changed to include dads, but I can't imagine most straight men I know coming here.

I'm one who does. Have you read the political section? I always assume 90% of those posting there are men.

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I’m 48 and married my HS sweetheart. When we started dating in HS he made $3.25/hr. So did I. We are now divorced but each of us makes over $500K. When I date, I’m looking for my equal in financial stability, place in life with kids (ours are in HS), and job security.

I’m not looking to date someone that is broke from their divorce, has elem age children, or is seeking a change in life career.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 and married my HS sweetheart. When we started dating in HS he made $3.25/hr. So did I. We are now divorced but each of us makes over $500K. When I date, I’m looking for my equal in financial stability, place in life with kids (ours are in HS), and job security.

I’m not looking to date someone that is broke from their divorce, has elem age children, or is seeking a change in life career.

So the divorcee thinks she's above women seeking their first marriage with a guy with the same qualities you're looking for?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 and married my HS sweetheart. When we started dating in HS he made $3.25/hr. So did I. We are now divorced but each of us makes over $500K. When I date, I’m looking for my equal in financial stability, place in life with kids (ours are in HS), and job security.

I’m not looking to date someone that is broke from their divorce, has elem age children, or is seeking a change in life career.

You are looking for a unicorn. You’re 48 and looking to snag a single guy making $500k?

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Anonymous wrote:Other than being short, or some other physical handicap, I can’t think of a worse problem for a man to have than having average ito below average income.

I can. He could be married to a fat, middle aged woman.

...who has gained 40 pounds since they met and tells him "I could lose the weight for a different man who supports me better, but it's not worth the effort for you."

You don't understand men. Once a woman becomes ugly to them, there is no coming back. If my wife gained 40 pounds I'd never find her attractive again even if she lost it 6 months later.

I’m saying a little prayer of gratitude that I’m not married to a man like you.

Because you're a disgusting fat body?

NP. You should be ashamed of your attempt to shame. Your personality has removed anything else that may have otherwise worked in your favor. You can change ugly on the outside. The inside? That ain’t so easy.

And I too said a little prayer of thanks for not having someone that thinks like you. Most MEN don’t think like that. Thankfully. I’m not defending myself either. I’m just find your bullying someone who could potentially be overweight to be offensively brute.

+1. Most men aren't on mommy forums.

Last I checked this place was called DC Urban Moms and Dads.

I know the name changed to include dads, but I can't imagine most straight men I know coming here.

This is a weird post. Either you're an antiquated bigot who thinks men don't/shouldn't participate in relationship- and family-related discussions or you're casually throwing out an implied homophobic slur. Either way- you're gross.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 and married my HS sweetheart. When we started dating in HS he made $3.25/hr. So did I. We are now divorced but each of us makes over $500K. When I date, I’m looking for my equal in financial stability, place in life with kids (ours are in HS), and job security.

I’m not looking to date someone that is broke from their divorce, has elem age children, or is seeking a change in life career.

You are looking for a unicorn. You’re 48 and looking to snag a single guy making $500k?

Lol. No. Actually I would prefer that he is divorced and his children grown. I’m probably 10-15 yrs from grandchildren and I want the person I’m dating to understand the importance of that. I don’t want to be talking about visiting my daughter and her first child while he is dealing with college visits. As I said, I want him to be at the same point in his life as I am.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 and married my HS sweetheart. When we started dating in HS he made $3.25/hr. So did I. We are now divorced but each of us makes over $500K. When I date, I’m looking for my equal in financial stability, place in life with kids (ours are in HS), and job security.

I’m not looking to date someone that is broke from their divorce, has elem age children, or is seeking a change in life career.

You are looking for a unicorn. You’re 48 and looking to snag a single guy making $500k?

Lol. No. Actually I would prefer that he is divorced and his children grown. I’m probably 10-15 yrs from grandchildren and I want the person I’m dating to understand the importance of that. I don’t want to be talking about visiting my daughter and her first child while he is dealing with college visits. As I said, I want him to be at the same point in his life as I am.

You missed the point. Single, late 40s men making mid six figures are in no way shape or form shopping for late 40s women. I promise. I'm one of them. I've been married and had kids. They are almost off to college. I'm not looking to pick up a hitch hiker or start a family. I will churn and burn my way through late twenties women all day long. What in the world would I want with a divorced 50 year old hag?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 48 and married my HS sweetheart. When we started dating in HS he made $3.25/hr. So did I. We are now divorced but each of us makes over $500K. When I date, I’m looking for my equal in financial stability, place in life with kids (ours are in HS), and job security.

I’m not looking to date someone that is broke from their divorce, has elem age children, or is seeking a change in life career.

You are looking for a unicorn. You’re 48 and looking to snag a single guy making $500k?

Lol. No. Actually I would prefer that he is divorced and his children grown. I’m probably 10-15 yrs from grandchildren and I want the person I’m dating to understand the importance of that. I don’t want to be talking about visiting my daughter and her first child while he is dealing with college visits. As I said, I want him to be at the same point in his life as I am.

You missed the point. Single, late 40s men making mid six figures are in no way shape or form shopping for late 40s women. I promise. I'm one of them. I've been married and had kids. They are almost off to college. I'm not looking to pick up a hitch hiker or start a family. I will churn and burn my way through late twenties women all day long. What in the world would I want with a divorced 50 year old hag?

Well if you think of me as a hag because I’m almost 50, then no, I guess you don’t want to date me. I’ve dated mid 20 boy toys and they’re fun for about 3 dates, some sex, and absolutely no conversation. We have nothing in common. They cannot relate to major events of my life, how it is to have kids, worries about your kids not being home by 1 and being able to drive. They don’t relate to aging parents.

I suppose if all I wanted was sex and arm candy it would be fine but that’s not what I’m looking for. I’m sure there are more men like you that don’t care about being able to relate to their date as long as she looks hot and I’d rather be single than settle for something less than I’m looking for. If that means I’m single till I die, I’d take that over meaningless sex any day.

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The idea of mid 20s men chasing 50 year old women has me laughing out loud. The delusions you lot conjure are sad and so cliché.

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Anonymous wrote:The idea of mid 20s men chasing 50 year old women has me laughing out loud. The delusions you lot conjure are sad and so cliché.

You sound like a delightful man. Whether you believe me or not is up to you. I suppose on an anonymous forum anyone can make up anything they want and post it. However I don’t care for people that lie and I don’t do it. Believe whatever let’s you sleep at night.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm early 50's, male, married, and about a 7.5/10 for looks and make about 110K.


This thread is definitely telling me I should stay in my somewhat unhappy marriage, or if I can't, to embrace being alone as a gift from God.

Not necessarily but you would have better odds with someone that knows you IRL versus online dating if you do get divorced. Awhile back I remember being on a plane with someone traveling to see her partner. She was divorced, I think early 50’s with kids out the house and her partner was someone she knew from high school, maybe they even dated back then but at a minimum they had friends in common. The guy she was also divorced but with teenagers. I just remember thinking that however her 20 plus year marriage ended it was difficult and this was that 2nd chance that likely would have been harder for her to consider if it wasn’t someone she already knew/had history with.