Is dating harder for guys who have an average income?

[Anonymous]

Under 80k? I know a woman's income doesn't really matter to a guy.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know — DH’s income didn’t matter to me when we started dating. I knew he had a lot of future earning potential. He was making $40K when we started dating in our mid-20s. We’re now in our mid-30s and he’s making $220K + bonus.

I also make six figures, but did not when we started dating. I don’t think it bothers him that I make less than him, but he’s been clear from the beginning that he’s only interested in women who want to continue working. He does not want to be the sole earner.

[Anonymous]

DH was making very little when we were dating. Around 35K. I was making 75K. I financed his MBA. Now he is making 300+K. I am a SAHM with two kids. Not going back to work, No prenup. Everything jointly held. Happily married.

[Anonymous]

It didn’t matter to me. I just admired his work ethic. He now makes 525K but I’d love him just as much if he made less than 80.

[Anonymous]

It probably depends on age and attractiveness. I met my DH in our 20s, we both made peanuts (like our combined HHI was around 65k), but he was hot and fun and we lived really, really cheaply. If I met him at 40 making his current income, that would probably be less attractive to me because I value financial security more now. But I didn't just meet him, we've been together many years and have multiple kids he takes care of with dedication, so it's obviously not the same comparison!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It probably depends on age and attractiveness. I met my DH in our 20s, we both made peanuts (like our combined HHI was around 65k), but he was hot and fun and we lived really, really cheaply. If I met him at 40 making his current income, that would probably be less attractive to me because I value financial security more now. But I didn't just meet him, we've been together many years and have multiple kids he takes care of with dedication, so it's obviously not the same comparison!

This. In your 20s its all about the potential

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

"Average income" to DCUM means something like 300K.

Yes, a guy with low income is not getting a date around here.

[Anonymous]

Dating a scallywag? Yes.
Dating someone that isn’t superficial? No.

[Anonymous]

Ugh please don’t give this person any responses. She asks this in a different ways approximate every other week.

[Anonymous]

Age 25 and making $80k, no problem. Age 45? Problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It probably depends on age and attractiveness. I met my DH in our 20s, we both made peanuts (like our combined HHI was around 65k), but he was hot and fun and we lived really, really cheaply. If I met him at 40 making his current income, that would probably be less attractive to me because I value financial security more now. But I didn't just meet him, we've been together many years and have multiple kids he takes care of with dedication, so it's obviously not the same comparison!

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Agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh please don’t give this person any responses. She asks this in a different ways approximate every other week.

And then we have the, "would men rather date a woman who is tall and voluptuous or someone short and stumpy but has a lot of money"? Or, "would men be interested in a 55 year old woman who has never been married" or "I am divorced three times at 45 but with no kids. Should I give up on dating".

[Anonymous]

Why would any woman want to date someone with such a low income?

[Anonymous]

Yes. Low income in 20s and dating was tough. Hi income in 40s and easy.