How do 2 full time working parents make it work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good grief, this thread got so derailed.

Do you want a quick recipe for mint chutney with mayo recipe?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people have to use either before care or after care, sometimes both. It’s rare for 2 parents with full time jobs to need NO care outside of school hours.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, we do before care and adjust our hours so that one of us goes in later and the other one earlier.

Must be nice for those of you who have parents willing to live with you. My own parents would not be willing - they are very much "our house, our rules" people and they have openly stated they would only be willing to live with us if it continued to be that way. They're also not totally reliable... have promised support/help (not financial) in the past and then just decided not to do it. And didn't.

My MIL wasn't even willing to move to the same town as us - she chooses to live an hour away and we see her every few months. She has never even offered to watch the kids, much less combine households.

I'd rather drink bleach than live with my MIL

[Anonymous]

The truth is that even the most reliable and quality child care coverage will fail and fail often. How well you navigate this is totally dependent on how good and solid your back up plans are. Very few people are working with predictable 9-5 jobs that does not require them to work after-hours at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, we do before care and adjust our hours so that one of us goes in later and the other one earlier.

Must be nice for those of you who have parents willing to live with you. My own parents would not be willing - they are very much "our house, our rules" people and they have openly stated they would only be willing to live with us if it continued to be that way. They're also not totally reliable... have promised support/help (not financial) in the past and then just decided not to do it. And didn't.

My MIL wasn't even willing to move to the same town as us - she chooses to live an hour away and we see her every few months. She has never even offered to watch the kids, much less combine households.

I'd rather drink bleach than live with my MIL

Unfortunately, this is quite a common response.

[Anonymous]

I work 7-4. DH works 3-midnight. We have a sitter (neighbor) 2 hours a day.

[Anonymous]

Single mom here with one child. I am a teacher and I use after-school care. I always have parent meetings and staff meetings after the school kids are dismissed. My daughter loves aftercare. They spend 30 minutes every day learning Japanese. This is K-5. Also soccer. I thought it would be too long of a day for her but she loves it. Hated it when I would pick her up early, so I stopped doing that and got more work done at school or ran an errand first. My high school is only 10 minutes from her ES.

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Anonymous wrote:My parents live with us.

We also have a cleaning woman who comes twice a week. And we have a woman who cooks and does meal prep for us, once a week. I have a person who also picks up our groceries and does outside errands. I also have a lawn/landscaping guy and another person who is my general contractor for any construction and repair work. I pay the first three anywhere from $25-30 an hour. The others are based on projects.

I also pay for some extras like coffee/tes/meals, gas, hand sanitizers, gloves, masks, and flu shots for their entire family as well as holiday bonuses. Finally All of this does not cost me more than $15K per year. Plus my parents are there to keep an eye and this keeps them engaged and healthy, plus they are looked after because they are with us. The savings when you have a good team of staff is amazing and worthwhile.

Four adults in the home and you still outsource the cooking? How lazy are you?

It’s probably Indian cooking which takes a long time of you’re making it from scratch and not using those nasty jarred simmer sauces. There are plenty of Indian aunties that make a variety of homemade Indian foods for a reasonable price, so why shouldn’t PP buy it and save time? It’s not like their family is eating quick dinners like salmon and sautéed veggies in olive oil like Americans do.

Salmon and sautéed veggies is healthier than eating Indian auntie food daily.

And far more delicious. Indian food is good once a month. We love salmon and veggies once a week!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: Salmon and sautéed veggies is healthier than eating Indian auntie food daily.

Take it to the food forum. PSA - watch the tandoori salmon by Sanjeev Kapoor on YouTube. We take pride in delicious food and frankly have no problems adding butter to cook salmon.