Shook by friends new baby at 44

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Anonymous wrote:Oop, here comes all the old mommies to talk about SES, and energy levels.

Here come the young moms to justify the fact that they spent the best years of their lives chasing kids and changing diapers while the rest of us traveled and lived it up. Awww.

And now I'm 43 and both kids are in college while you have kids in diapers! I win. We travel a ton.

You hated that all your friends were having a blast in their 20s while you sat there feeding a baby. And it still clearly bothers you.

I planned my kids. I nabbed a hot millionaire. I was the lucky one.

But still you are 43...
And your 20s were spent on poopy diapers.
New poster btw

Why is it better to sound your 30s on poopy diapers?
I used my hottest years to get the best guy. Looks fade as you get older.

Your 20's are spent birthing babies, wrangling toddlers, dealing with stomach bugs, tantrums, potty training...then you have elementary school and teenage years...you no sooner get those kids off to college or wherever else life leads the and - WHAM - back to square one with a new baby. By the time the new baby launches, you are looking at retiring (hopefully) and maybe now you can finally have some 'Me' time?

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Anonymous wrote:I could not find the energy at age 44 to re-do the baby years, chase a toddler at age 47, or keep up with all the school aged activities at age 50, and not look like a grandma at high school graduation 18 yrs later.

Sorry about your dwindling energy!

I'm doing just fine keeping up! (Maybe some ladies are just higher energy? Not trying to be snarky.

This is the part that I don't understand. How old do you feel at 44? I am about to be 45 and I still feel great. Maybe you need to see a doctor?

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Anonymous wrote:I could not find the energy at age 44 to re-do the baby years, chase a toddler at age 47, or keep up with all the school aged activities at age 50, and not look like a grandma at high school graduation 18 yrs later.

Sorry about your dwindling energy!

I'm doing just fine keeping up! (Maybe some ladies are just higher energy? Not trying to be snarky.

This is the part that I don't understand. How old do you feel at 44? I am about to be 45 and I still feel great. Maybe you need to see a doctor?

I think it's the re-doing it part that seems draining. You no sooner get the first set of kids launched and then you are back to the newborn stage again....that's the part that seems tiring to me, at least.

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Anonymous wrote:I could not find the energy at age 44 to re-do the baby years, chase a toddler at age 47, or keep up with all the school aged activities at age 50, and not look like a grandma at high school graduation 18 yrs later.

Sorry about your dwindling energy!

I'm doing just fine keeping up! (Maybe some ladies are just higher energy? Not trying to be snarky.

This is the part that I don't understand. How old do you feel at 44? I am about to be 45 and I still feel great. Maybe you need to see a doctor?

Eh I'm 41 and so so grateful that my days of the tiring and draining years of early childhood (sleep deprivation, the stomach bugs they bring home, etc etc) are behind me. I work out daily, am in great shape - but it's different...those early years are a whole other level of exhaustion. And my third pregnancy (in my thirties) was much harder on my body than my first (in my twenties).

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Anonymous wrote:I could not find the energy at age 44 to re-do the baby years, chase a toddler at age 47, or keep up with all the school aged activities at age 50, and not look like a grandma at high school graduation 18 yrs later.

Really? I'm sure you'd find the energy. Keeping up with all the school aged activities at 50 would be a struggle? Not for most people.

I genuinely think the people in these situations, as a PP stated...it keeps them young. Having tweens and teenagers in your house keeps you much more plugged into pop culture, young people, etc. It is what it is. Every baby at every age is going to have pros and cons.

As someone who had a child just before my 45th bday, I find it's keeping me young and energetic. But I'm the athletic sort, anyway. My kid is now in elementary school and brings joy to me everyday. Wouldn't trade this for anything.

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Anonymous wrote:I could not find the energy at age 44 to re-do the baby years, chase a toddler at age 47, or keep up with all the school aged activities at age 50, and not look like a grandma at high school graduation 18 yrs later.

Really? I'm sure you'd find the energy. Keeping up with all the school aged activities at 50 would be a struggle? Not for most people.

I genuinely think the people in these situations, as a PP stated...it keeps them young. Having tweens and teenagers in your house keeps you much more plugged into pop culture, young people, etc. It is what it is. Every baby at every age is going to have pros and cons.

As someone who had a child just before my 45th bday, I find it's keeping me young and energetic. But I'm the athletic sort, anyway. My kid is now in elementary school and brings joy to me everyday. Wouldn't trade this for anything.

Do you also have adult children?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oop, here comes all the old mommies to talk about SES, and energy levels.

Here come the young moms to justify the fact that they spent the best years of their lives chasing kids and changing diapers while the rest of us traveled and lived it up. Awww.

And now I'm 43 and both kids are in college while you have kids in diapers! I win. We travel a ton.

One of the stupidest arguments EVER.
Get a grip.

[Anonymous]

I believe I could muster up the energy to care for a baby now (age 45). BUT, pregnancy was extremely exhausting and painful for me at age 36/37. I had a healthy pregnancy, too (no bed rest, minimal nausea, etc) The newborn phase was a relief after that. I can't imagine it at age 45.

Also, my husband doesn't deal well with stress, so he'd drag us down if we had a surprise baby now.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm speechless...my friends have 3 kids, all 20+ and out of the house. Out of nowhere, new baby! Scares the crap out of me. I have so many questions, but also just fears about the circumstances and if it could happen to me. Has anyone else gotten really scared or shocked by something similar?

You need to get a life. You’re acting like a child died. Calm down.

Lol a lifestyle died.

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A friend of mine just had a baby and her oldest is 12. I was surprised she'd even *want* another baby now that she was finally on the verge of being free from little kid stuff.

I'm turning 48 soon and barely even have sex and I'm paranoid as hell about getting pregnant. Doctor won't let me go back on the pill or get another Mirena and I don't trust condoms because my daughter was a condom baby.

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I have 3 kids, the youngest is 20 months so in the thick of it. I find it sad that so many talk about freedom of grown up kids. Like literally arguing what decade of life is better to destroy by having kids in it.

Whenever I think about that I get sad. I mean sure this is tiring but also the fullest period of my life. And yes I work full time, spend a lot of time in Europe etc, so kids are not all
There is to my life even now.

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I wouldn't trade the privilege of raising and watching children grow up for anything in the world. But as much as I love being a mom and as much as I have enjoyed raising my kids - No way would I do a second round of it. No way.

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Anonymous wrote:I could not find the energy at age 44 to re-do the baby years, chase a toddler at age 47, or keep up with all the school aged activities at age 50, and not look like a grandma at high school graduation 18 yrs later.

Sorry about your dwindling energy!

I'm doing just fine keeping up! (Maybe some ladies are just higher energy? Not trying to be snarky.

Agreed! My kid’s grandma is super high energy and has no problem keeping up with all her grandchildren. Some people have more energy than others.

She’s 55.

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It’s not super duper weird to have one baby at 24 but THREE?

Yeah that’s highly unusual for middle class or higher.

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My neighbor just had her 6th at age 46. A complete surprise. The other 5 kids are 22 down til 10. Surprise!