Shook by friends new baby at 44

[Anonymous]

Nowadays you can’t assume the old lady with the toddler is the grandmother. I know I’ve put my foot in my mouth a few times.

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Anonymous wrote:It's not about hiding your age; it's giving a damn about your appearance and not looking like crap. Say all you want about societal expectations but it's a better look not to do the short gray hair. Most of the time the women look like they have been to the barber and not the salon. Also so many times in my area the woman still has a nice figure but the hair. . . why?

So it's OK for men to have short gray hair but not women? God forbid we look our age.

I'm just so over the double standards and I'm not even that old yet. If you don't like my hair, that's your issue, not mine.

You are awesome!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the concerns about being older grandparents: My parents became grandparents at 64. They had been slowing down. That new baby (My sister's, at 37) took years off their life. they joined a gym, did fun runs with the grandchild. I tend to believe this is why I still have them at 80. Their parents died in their 60s; I never knew my grandparents. Grandparents and parents had their kids in their 20s.

Kids *make* you young! Never too late! Had my 2 after 40. My parents continue to go to the gym and mom swims nearly every day at age 80. Dad mostly lifts dumbbells and walks on the treadmill.

Why is everyone so tired?

According to recent science, a women telomeres age 11 years after having a child. Thus, they are physically 11 years older than their childfree peers.

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Anonymous wrote:Oop, here comes all the old mommies to talk about SES, and energy levels.

Here come the young moms to justify the fact that they spent the best years of their lives chasing kids and changing diapers while the rest of us traveled and lived it up. Awww.

And now I'm 43 and both kids are in college while you have kids in diapers! I win. We travel a ton.

Traveling as a middle aged married couple is never going to be the same as the experiences you have traveling when you’re younger. I don’t know if it’s winning or losing. Just completely different experiences.

I travelled when young. It sucks when you are not rich. Now, I travel in luxury.

Agree. I love traveling more as middle age than younger. Now richer....so travel accommodations much better. Also, I am CFBC so not commenting on young vs. old mom..just adding opinion on traveling young vs. middle age. Middle age travel all the way!

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Anonymous wrote:All the concerns about being older grandparents: My parents became grandparents at 64. They had been slowing down. That new baby (My sister's, at 37) took years off their life. they joined a gym, did fun runs with the grandchild. I tend to believe this is why I still have them at 80. Their parents died in their 60s; I never knew my grandparents. Grandparents and parents had their kids in their 20s.

Kids *make* you young! Never too late! Had my 2 after 40. My parents continue to go to the gym and mom swims nearly every day at age 80. Dad mostly lifts dumbbells and walks on the treadmill.

Why is everyone so tired?

According to recent science, a women telomeres age 11 years after having a child. Thus, they are physically 11 years older than their childfree peers.

This makes even happier that I adopted my kids. I was in my forties when i adopted my 3 and I swear they have made me feel younger.

[Anonymous]

So many insecure older mothers on this thread

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Anonymous wrote:So many insecure older mothers on this thread

I don't get what there is to be insecure about. I had a 4th child at 44. It's great and I'm a proud mamma.

[Anonymous]

This thread is weird. Just be a good neighbor. Look out for one another. Live and let live. We don't all have to have the same haircut or reproductive schedule