Afraid I will get evicted because of my 4-year-old's tantrums -- what are my rights?

[Anonymous]

Op you need to change your parenting/discipline style. Time outs are clearly not working. Read 123 magic and go to some parenting classes. I have 4 children, including one non-verbal, and cannot think of a single time one of them screamed. You need to get this under control before you add a new baby to the mix.
I think your daughter is constantly overtired which explains the moods. She probably can’t fall asleep earlier bc she’s so amped up from being tired. Move the whole bedtime routine back by an hour if possible. If not, shrink the bedtime routine. She needs to be asleep by 8.
I’ve also been a landlord in dc. You can’t be kicked out for this, but the landlord and/or tenants can find other ways to make you want to move. I am honestly surprised no one has called CPS? Repeatedly screaming in a room without hearing a parent go to comfort or fix the issue is not normal.

[Anonymous]

You will not be evicted in DC for this reason. Here is the list of reasons why you can be evicted in DC:

https://ota.dc.gov/page/guide-eviction

This isn’t on it.

Everyone else here seems to believe they have the parenting advice part of this down, so I’ll leave that part to their capable hands. I just want you to know that you are not in danger of being kicked out of your home because your 4 year old is going through some stuff. Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You will not be evicted in DC for this reason. Here is the list of reasons why you can be evicted in DC:

https://ota.dc.gov/page/guide-eviction

This isn’t on it.

Everyone else here seems to believe they have the parenting advice part of this down, so I’ll leave that part to their capable hands. I just want you to know that you are not in danger of being kicked out of your home because your 4 year old is going through some stuff. Hang in there.

This one gets used a lot :
Landlord seeks to substantially rehabilitate rental unit;

And is worth the investment to get rid of a tenant who is driving away other tenants.

Or OP’s landlord will simply not renew her lease. That’s how our cigar smoking neighbors were resolved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You will not be evicted in DC for this reason. Here is the list of reasons why you can be evicted in DC:

https://ota.dc.gov/page/guide-eviction

This isn’t on it.

Everyone else here seems to believe they have the parenting advice part of this down, so I’ll leave that part to their capable hands. I just want you to know that you are not in danger of being kicked out of your home because your 4 year old is going through some stuff. Hang in there.

This one gets used a lot :
Landlord seeks to substantially rehabilitate rental unit;

And is worth the investment to get rid of a tenant who is driving away other tenants.

Or OP’s landlord will simply not renew her lease. That’s how our cigar smoking neighbors were resolved.

Not renewing the lease is not an option available to landlords in DC. The odds that a developmentally normal 4 year old will keep doing this long enough to drive away other tenants are pretty low. You panicking this poster is not going to help anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You will not be evicted in DC for this reason. Here is the list of reasons why you can be evicted in DC:

https://ota.dc.gov/page/guide-eviction

This isn’t on it.

Everyone else here seems to believe they have the parenting advice part of this down, so I’ll leave that part to their capable hands. I just want you to know that you are not in danger of being kicked out of your home because your 4 year old is going through some stuff. Hang in there.

This one gets used a lot :
Landlord seeks to substantially rehabilitate rental unit;

And is worth the investment to get rid of a tenant who is driving away other tenants.

Or OP’s landlord will simply not renew her lease. That’s how our cigar smoking neighbors were resolved.

Not renewing the lease is not an option available to landlords in DC. The odds that a developmentally normal 4 year old will keep doing this long enough to drive away other tenants are pretty low. You panicking this poster is not going to help anything.

I would worry that 4 year old tantrums would grow into other age appropriate loud and disturbing behavior since OP is really not that concerned about anyone’s well being but her own, and doesn’t have good parenting skills to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

OP please ignore the vicious harpies who always come out for a thread like this. You’re pregnant and exhausted and she sounds like a tough 4 yo. Do consider parenting classes, not because you’re a bad parent, but because some kids are just tougher than others. Hence ignoring tantrums to get her to stop, which is pretty ordinary parenting advice, isn’t working with your kid.

Taking her outside if she’s going to scream is an interesting idea and probably worth a try in the meantime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You will not be evicted in DC for thishttps://ota.dc.gov/page/guid[b]e-evicti reason. Here is the list of reasons why you can be evicted in DC:

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This isn’t on it.

Everyone else here seems to believe they have the parenting advice part of this down, so I’ll leave that part to their capable hands. I just want you to know that you are not in danger of being kicked out of your home because your 4 year old is going through some stuff. Hang in there.

Yes, landlord can evict. It's under no. 2. Every single lease guarantees the tenant the right to quiet enjoyment. Such is the law in D.C. So, yes, the tenant below can have the landlord evict. A: Yes, the landlord is required to take reasonable action against tenants who cause disturbances to other tenants. ... Under District case law, however, the “warranty of habitability” goes beyond just the property's physical aspects, and includes the tenant's right to the “quiet enjoyment” of the rental unit.May 2, 2014
https://www.washingtonpost.com/www.washingtonpost.com › express › 2014/05/02 › ask-the-advocate-ca...
Ask the Advocate: Can D.C. landlords enforce law and order ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You will not be evicted in DC for thishttps://ota.dc.gov/page/guid[b]e-evicti reason. Here is the list of reasons why you can be evicted in DC:

on

This isn’t on it.

Everyone else here seems to believe they have the parenting advice part of this down, so I’ll leave that part to their capable hands. I just want you to know that you are not in danger of being kicked out of your home because your 4 year old is going through some stuff. Hang in there.

Yes, landlord can evict. It's under no. 2. Every single lease guarantees the tenant the right to quiet enjoyment. Such is the law in D.C. So, yes, the tenant below can have the landlord evict. A: Yes, the landlord is required to take reasonable action against tenants who cause disturbances to other tenants. ... Under District case law, however, the “warranty of habitability” goes beyond just the property's physical aspects, and includes the tenant's right to the “quiet enjoyment” of the rental unit.May 2, 2014
https://www.washingtonpost.com/www.washingtonpost.com › express › 2014/05/02 › ask-the-advocate-ca...
Ask the Advocate: Can D.C. landlords enforce law and order ...

A 4 year old who is not supernaturally powered having a temper tantrum is not going to be a denial of quiet enjoyment scenario. Quiet doesn’t mean silent, and eviction is a process that takes so long that it will not happen while the child is still doing this.

Good luck in your law practice.

[Anonymous]

The tantrums will probably ramp up when the new sibling arrives. Poor neighbor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You will not be evicted in DC for thishttps://ota.dc.gov/page/guide-evicti reason. Here is the list of reasons why you can be evicted in DC:

on

This isn’t on it.

Everyone else here seems to believe they have the parenting advice part of this down, so I’ll leave that part to their capable hands. I just want you to know that you are not in danger of being kicked out of your home because your 4 year old is going through some stuff. Hang in there.

Yes, landlord can evict. It's under no. 2. Every single lease guarantees the tenant the right to quiet enjoyment. Such is the law in D.C. So, yes, the tenant below can have the landlord evict. A: Yes, the landlord is required to take reasonable action against tenants who cause disturbances to other tenants. ... Under District case law, however, the “warranty of habitability” goes beyond just the property's physical aspects, and includes the tenant's right to the “quiet enjoyment” of the rental unit.May 2, 2014
https://www.washingtonpost.com/www.washingtonpost.com › express › 2014/05/02 › ask-the-advocate-ca...
Ask the Advocate: Can D.C. landlords enforce law and order ...

[b]A 4 year old who is not supernaturally powered having a temper tantrum is not going to be a denial of quiet enjoyment scenario. Quiet doesn’t mean silent, and eviction is a process that takes so long that it will not happen while the child is still doing this.

Good luck in your law practice.

Oh, if you only knew. . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP please ignore the vicious harpies who always come out for a thread like this. You’re pregnant and exhausted and she sounds like a tough 4 yo. Do consider parenting classes, not because you’re a bad parent, but because some kids are just tougher than others. Hence ignoring tantrums to get her to stop, which is pretty ordinary parenting advice, isn’t working with your kid.

Taking her outside if she’s going to scream is an interesting idea and probably worth a try in the meantime.

From OP's report, this child wasn't an angel before she decided to have another baby. Just think about that. In what world does someone who is already dealing with a troublesome child in a small apartment with paper-thin walls and floor (and with neighbors that have already been bothered by the noise to the point that they've complained about it) choose to have another child and plan to continue living in the same apartment? Someone NOT rude and entitled, I mean? Answer: they don't.

Being "pregnant and exhausted" is OP's own choice. It's certainly not the neighbor's fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP please ignore the vicious harpies who always come out for a thread like this. You’re pregnant and exhausted and she sounds like a tough 4 yo. Do consider parenting classes, not because you’re a bad parent, but because some kids are just tougher than others. Hence ignoring tantrums to get her to stop, which is pretty ordinary parenting advice, isn’t working with your kid.

Taking her outside if she’s going to scream is an interesting idea and probably worth a try in the meantime.

From OP's report, this child wasn't an angel before she decided to have another baby. Just think about that. In what world does someone who is already dealing with a troublesome child in a small apartment with paper-thin walls and floor (and with neighbors that have already been bothered by the noise to the point that they've complained about it) choose to have another child and plan to continue living in the same apartment? Someone NOT rude and entitled, I mean? Answer: they don't.

Being "pregnant and exhausted" is OP's own choice. It's certainly not the neighbor's fault.

A world in which someone wants another kid and predicts that the child will get less difficult rather than more??A world in which siblings can share a bedroom? A world in which having 2 kids isn’t reserved for the homeowner class?

You’re a mean person. Might want to reflect on that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP please ignore the vicious harpies who always come out for a thread like this. You’re pregnant and exhausted and she sounds like a tough 4 yo. Do consider parenting classes, not because you’re a bad parent, but because some kids are just tougher than others. Hence ignoring tantrums to get her to stop, which is pretty ordinary parenting advice, isn’t working with your kid.

Taking her outside if she’s going to scream is an interesting idea and probably worth a try in the meantime.

From OP's report, this child wasn't an angel before she decided to have another baby. Just think about that. In what world does someone who is already dealing with a troublesome child in a small apartment with paper-thin walls and floor (and with neighbors that have already been bothered by the noise to the point that they've complained about it) choose to have another child and plan to continue living in the same apartment? Someone NOT rude and entitled, I mean? Answer: they don't.

Being "pregnant and exhausted" is OP's own choice. It's certainly not the neighbor's fault.

A world in which someone wants another kid and predicts that the child will get less difficult rather than more??A world in which siblings can share a bedroom? A world in which having 2 kids isn’t reserved for the homeowner class?

You’re a mean person. Might want to reflect on that.

I'm not mean. It actually seems like I'm one of the very few people on this thread who is compassionate towards OP's neighbors, AND her existing child, AND her unborn child. Nobody benefits when OP chooses to have more children than she can handle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP please ignore the vicious harpies who always come out for a thread like this. You’re pregnant and exhausted and she sounds like a tough 4 yo. Do consider parenting classes, not because you’re a bad parent, but because some kids are just tougher than others. Hence ignoring tantrums to get her to stop, which is pretty ordinary parenting advice, isn’t working with your kid.

Taking her outside if she’s going to scream is an interesting idea and probably worth a try in the meantime.

From OP's report, this child wasn't an angel before she decided to have another baby. Just think about that. In what world does someone who is already dealing with a troublesome child in a small apartment with paper-thin walls and floor (and with neighbors that have already been bothered by the noise to the point that they've complained about it) choose to have another child and plan to continue living in the same apartment? Someone NOT rude and entitled, I mean? Answer: they don't.

Being "pregnant and exhausted" is OP's own choice. It's certainly not the neighbor's fault.

A world in which someone wants another kid and predicts that the child will get less difficult rather than more??A world in which siblings can share a bedroom? A world in which having 2 kids isn’t reserved for the homeowner class?

You’re a mean person. Might want to reflect on that.

I'm not mean. It actually seems like I'm one of the very few people on this thread who is compassionate towards OP's neighbors, AND her existing child, AND her unborn child. Nobody benefits when OP chooses to have more children than she can handle.

And I just read something on another thread that applies very well here:

"A child isn't a consolation prize for the life you really wanted but didn't get.

A child shouldn't be born with the job to make you happy.

A child is a helpless human with her own needs."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP please ignore the vicious harpies who always come out for a thread like this. You’re pregnant and exhausted and she sounds like a tough 4 yo. Do consider parenting classes, not because you’re a bad parent, but because some kids are just tougher than others. Hence ignoring tantrums to get her to stop, which is pretty ordinary parenting advice, isn’t working with your kid.

Taking her outside if she’s going to scream is an interesting idea and probably worth a try in the meantime.

From OP's report, this child wasn't an angel before she decided to have another baby. Just think about that. In what world does someone who is already dealing with a troublesome child in a small apartment with paper-thin walls and floor (and with neighbors that have already been bothered by the noise to the point that they've complained about it) choose to have another child and plan to continue living in the same apartment? Someone NOT rude and entitled, I mean? Answer: they don't.

Being "pregnant and exhausted" is OP's own choice. It's certainly not the neighbor's fault.

A world in which someone wants another kid and predicts that the child will get less difficult rather than more??A world in which siblings can share a bedroom? A world in which having 2 kids isn’t reserved for the homeowner class?

You’re a mean person. Might want to reflect on that.

FFS. If you can't deal with one child, you shouldn't have another. That you really really really want another and your colleague with the rich husband has three is irrelevant. When you have children, you have an obligation to care for them appropriately. It isn't just about what you want.