How do old wealthy women stay so skinny?

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Anonymous wrote:Curious if the posters that have made judgmental remarks about these women that choose to be skinny would say the same about women that choose to be fat. Would it be considered fat shaming and unacceptable? If so, why is it ok to make fun of a woman for being skinny? Also, skinny or fat is a choice in most cases so miss me with the "fat people can't help it" argument.

"Women that choose to be fat?" Which women "choose" to be fat?

Every time you make the choice to put something fattening in your mouth and sit on your butt rather than get up and move. Likewise, when an overweight person chooses to start making healthy choices to lose the weight. It is all a choice.

So now we know what you think. Maybe step off the scale for a minute?

No one would ever call me skinny but I was very overweight at one time. I am healthy now and comfortable with my body. Whether overweight or healthy, it has all been a choice. Not easy, but a choice. I chose to not exercise and eat a surplus of calories every day and I also chose to exercise and eat a deficit of calories every day. At the end of the day, live your own life.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL was so thin when she was hospitalized right before her death that the nurses thought my FIL was engaged in elder abuse (not feeding her). Nurses didn’t know that she had spent her entire life trying to be thin, used laxatives for decades, ate only half a hard boiled egg for breakfast, half a protein bar for lunch, and maybe grilled asparagus for dinner (along with a lot of white wine). She was “allergic” to any foods with fat or a higher calorie count. Aside from the wine, I think I calculated her calorie intake at around 400/day. But she was thin!

Ultimately this meant she had osteoporosis and was incredibly fragile, and when she became ill she had NO physical strength or reserves on which to rely. She had starved herself for years and at the end it pretty much killed her.

My mom's family is of sturdy German peasant stock. My grandmother used to say "Fat people get sick. Skinny people die." I think there is something to that--those reserves can help people who get sick make it through, they have stored energy to draw on.

That said wealthy (old) women are skinny because they don't eat very much, and because they have lots of time and money to exercise, eat healthy food, etc. They may also have been raised to believe that their job was to stay attractive, or feel that they needed to stay very thin in order to keep their wealthy husbands, so they worked really hard at it. It may also be that they are surrounded by other wealthy women who don't eat, so the social pressure not to eat is very strong.

It‘s true, when your immediate culture supports eating tiny amounts it’s a lot harder to be overweight.

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I'm not reading through 7 pages of this but going to comment anyway

For my SMIL: she does a ton of yoga. And I mean a TON. She wakes up at sunrise and goes to yoga class pretty much every single day. She also walks and jogs several miles multiple days per week. And she eats mostly vegan/vegetarian, very small portions. She almost never drinks alcohol and doesn't eat much sugar. She is over 60 but her body is that of someone 20 years younger.

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Anonymous wrote:Curious if the posters that have made judgmental remarks about these women that choose to be skinny would say the same about women that choose to be fat. Would it be considered fat shaming and unacceptable? If so, why is it ok to make fun of a woman for being skinny? Also, skinny or fat is a choice in most cases so miss me with the "fat people can't help it" argument.

"Women that choose to be fat?" Which women "choose" to be fat?

Every time you make the choice to put something fattening in your mouth and sit on your butt rather than get up and move. Likewise, when an overweight person chooses to start making healthy choices to lose the weight. It is all a choice.

So now we know what you think. Maybe step off the scale for a minute?

No one would ever call me skinny but I was very overweight at one time. I am healthy now and comfortable with my body. Whether overweight or healthy, it has all been a choice. Not easy, but a choice. I chose to not exercise and eat a surplus of calories every day and I also chose to exercise and eat a deficit of calories every day. At the end of the day, live your own life.

Hence why you choose to "live your own truth" by ripping on people that overeat? And you say you've been there, done that? That is a strange put down of heavy people by a person that was once heavy. Now, I don't understand the point of your post at all. Are you saying the whole world should tiptoe around heavy or skinny issue, but it is fine for you to criticize anyone that does either since you can "understand?" Now you are skinny and people should not make fun or you, when you were fat people should not make fun of you, yet while this is right, you are here posting that only lazy un-movers and over eater are heavy. On one hand you are saying don't criticize anyone, and then you go and rip people apart for "choice to put something fattening in your mouth and sit on your butt rather than get up and move." If you are giving advice to be kind to all, why are you blasting heavy people to pieces? btw, I am not overweight, never have been. I fall in the almost too skinny category, but I sure don't plan on being a frail skin and bones grandma. Moderation.

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Anonymous wrote:Curious if the posters that have made judgmental remarks about these women that choose to be skinny would say the same about women that choose to be fat. Would it be considered fat shaming and unacceptable? If so, why is it ok to make fun of a woman for being skinny? Also, skinny or fat is a choice in most cases so miss me with the "fat people can't help it" argument.

"Women that choose to be fat?" Which women "choose" to be fat?

Every time you make the choice to put something fattening in your mouth and sit on your butt rather than get up and move. Likewise, when an overweight person chooses to start making healthy choices to lose the weight. It is all a choice.

So now we know what you think. Maybe step off the scale for a minute?

No one would ever call me skinny but I was very overweight at one time. I am healthy now and comfortable with my body. Whether overweight or healthy, it has all been a choice. Not easy, but a choice. I chose to not exercise and eat a surplus of calories every day and I also chose to exercise and eat a deficit of calories every day. At the end of the day, live your own life.

Hence why you choose to "live your own truth" by ripping on people that overeat? And you say you've been there, done that? That is a strange put down of heavy people by a person that was once heavy. Now, I don't understand the point of your post at all. Are you saying the whole world should tiptoe around heavy or skinny issue, but it is fine for you to criticize anyone that does either since you can "understand?" Now you are skinny and people should not make fun or you, when you were fat people should not make fun of you, yet while this is right, you are here posting that only lazy un-movers and over eater are heavy. On one hand you are saying don't criticize anyone, and then you go and rip people apart for "choice to put something fattening in your mouth and sit on your butt rather than get up and move." If you are giving advice to be kind to all, why are you blasting heavy people to pieces? btw, I am not overweight, never have been. I fall in the almost too skinny category, but I sure don't plan on being a frail skin and bones grandma. Moderation.

Get over yourself. My point is body shaming is WRONG whether the person is skinny or overweight. Also, whatever category a person falls in is in MOST cases (go back and read my op because I did qualify my statement) is a CHOICE. I'm sorry you don't like that in most cases people do choose to be skinny, overweight, fit/healthy, but that is reality.

Finally, maybe you wouldn't be so grumpy "Ms. Almost Too Skinny" if you ate something.

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^^ you must be utterly nuts. Bipolar or something else equally messed up.

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My MIL only eats health foods- maybe a salad for dinner and veggies for a snack type thing. I dont think she keeps desserts. She goes for walks daily and also uses a ton of Miralax/prune juice/benefiber. She claims she can't poop without it after having a bowel surgery years ago that messed up her motility but now I'm questioning after reading this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I work in the non-profit sector and regularly engage with older wealthy women. They definitely don't eat. I often take them out to lunch, just so I can make them uncomfortable. They order soup, take a couple bites, and they're done.

This.

I've seen Nancy Pelosi in the Members dining room on the Hill a number of times, and she only has hot water with lemon (I heard her order it). This is during lunch and her guests are eating full meals.

My SIL is rich and skinny. She had an eating disorder in college (was hospitalized). Only gained 17lbs when pregnant. She runs every day (miles), drinks tons of water, and only nibbles 3x a day. Breakfast used to be black coffee, but now it's just hot water with lemon. It's not normal. She's a size 2. No butt.

How tall is she? Really tall?

My mom had a non-rich friend like this, only drank coffee / tea and nibbled at food. She was always thin and lived a very long life-but the last 15 years was brutal as she developed severe osteoporosis.

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The MIL elderly woman throat-clearing thing is a combination of alcoholism and bulimia.

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs keep no food in the house except Kashi, coffee, and skim milk. Their daily activity is going to the market where they buy exactly the amount of food they intend to eat for the day: one yogurt and an orange (MIL’s lunch), cottage cheese, a banana, 2 slices of roast turkey, one slice of cheese, 2 slices of bread (FIL’s lunch), 2 plain chicken breasts, fixings for a salad, and a vegetable to steam as a side (their dinner).

When they come to our house, they eat everything that is not nailed down, inhale an entire meal that I’d intended to use as leftovers another night, rummage through the pantry looking for more and routinely discuss how vacationing at our house is a treat. So they are pretty much just starving themselves in their own home. It’s awful to go there as they don’t adjust their habits at all so after traveling all day the first thing we have to do is go buy food because our small children will not survive on that diet! A typical serving size portioned out is 4 green beans per person.

Sounds like they are hungry and poor if they don't buy food for themselves or you, but eat everything you have when visiting your home.

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Social pressure. Status symbol.

The rest of us eat too much because it’s an affordable form of entertainment and stress relief.

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Older women lose their looks, but they want to be model thin to look good in clothes. It's all they have left. Leave them be. It's sad. Can you imagine if old men starved themselves into skeletons? Would anyone think it was a good look?

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4 women where I know the inside scoop.

1.) Plastic surgery junkie in her 70s who has done lipo more than a few times.

2.) 2 of them walk for hours and eat like birds.

3.) She has ever gimic from diet tea to diet pills to nibbling on carrots to the point of turning orange.

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Anonymous wrote:Skinny women don't eat. It truly is that simple. However, how do they manage not to eat? I know plenty are popping pills, some for weight too. But, there is also another possibility, they are driven women, and many driven women have a ton of restless energy. You ever see that person that is always tapping her leg when in a restaurant? She is generals skinny, all my friends that are like this are. And those women that are always walking fast, no matter where? Generally skinny. Now, all this eating a lot of food is more a trend for poor and MC who watch tv and commercial and are prone to consumerism. If they are very old, they never got the idea to be gluttons. I think that is what it really comes down to, we are all gluttons and these old skinny, rich women never fell for the consumerism. Getting heavy is letting yourself go, as I wrote about the royals today, letting yourself go is shameful and for the "masses," in their minds. See, when people say, "my mother eats like a bird," that really means that this person is eating plenty to have energy and survive, but not engaging in gluttony, which is how it seems to all of us with skewed food attitudes.

This is so incorrect. While most older women get confident and happier in the skin they are in and their own taste in fashion - some don't. I know older women with eating disorders, chain smoking, cosmetic surgery obsessed, label ho's and they are not secure or happy.

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Size 2 here: skinny people don’t eat much. Skinny older women eat practically nothing. And many are vegetarians. It’s a habit by the time you are 60.