My neighbor is having an affair

[Anonymous]

If someone discovers DH is cheating on me, I’d like to know about it. I would greatly prefer that they not MYOB. Even if OP had ulterior motives, I would have been grateful had I been the cheated on spouse in this case and she told me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If someone discovers DH is cheating on me, I’d like to know about it. I would greatly prefer that they not MYOB. Even if OP had ulterior motives, I would have been grateful had I been the cheated on spouse in this case and she told me.

+1,000,000 found out 3.5 years AFTER the affair started. And they had unprotected sex the first time they even met.

I wish somebody had seen them and told me.

I’d be pissed if I found out anyone I knew had knowledge of it and didn’t tell me. Very pissed.

[Anonymous]

Who wants to be the chump everyone is gossiping about that their spouse is cheating? How humiliating. Another person that would want to know. And so I could stop f&cking them and risk disease!!

[Anonymous]

If these two idiots were Targeting together openly, especially during the holidays, when Target is crowded AF, they were asking to get caught!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- how did you originally know they were having an affair?

Since Del Ray is a small community, why would it be weird enough for her and Tom to be seen together that it would lead to this other person mentioning it to the DH?

We’re they seen in Target together or in their car in the Target parking lot? Regardless, that’s right too close to the neighborhood. She’s insane to think she wouldn’t be seen by someone in the neighborhood.

Super weird. If the affair was over, it was two people just meeting up or something.

And “how” they met, I mean they met somehow I assume not tinder so just say that; they live in same neighborhood so maybe rare regulars at coffee shop.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP- how did you originally know they were having an affair?

Since Del Ray is a small community, why would it be weird enough for her and Tom to be seen together that it would lead to this other person mentioning it to the DH?

We’re they seen in Target together or in their car in the Target parking lot? Regardless, that’s right too close to the neighborhood. She’s insane to think she wouldn’t be seen by someone in the neighborhood.

Super weird. If the affair was over, it was two people just meeting up or something.

And “how” they met, I mean they met somehow I assume not tinder so just say that; they live in same neighborhood so maybe rare regulars at coffee shop.

Looking to rekindle obviously. Covid probably threw a wrench into their hookup situation

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP is a bigger B$itch

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Why? This woman isn’t a friend or family member. Why would she think that someone who happened to buy a house near hers would keep her secrets? That’s her mistake.

Because it’s none of her business. She she could cause an acrimonious divorce that might never happen if she keeps her mouth shut. Because it’s not her business because she could damage children worse finding out like this and because he might already know and they might even have an open marriage. Maybe the affair is the only thing keeping the marriage together and maybe they would be financially devastated in a divorce which would hurt everybody. People shouldn’t have affairs but some people do and it’s none of anybody else’s business to get involved. No one really knows what goes on in a marriage behind closed doors. No one should interfere and anybody else’s family or anybody else’s business. Honestly think people who get involved with other people‘s marriages are worse than people who cheat.

Shut up cheater. I 100% would have liked to know that my STBX was having unprotected sex with a whore he met on the Internet. And all the other risks that are involved with having an affair with somebody also in a committed marriage. And, no, only a tiny minority are actually in open marriages. That’s a BS excuse and it’s something cheaters lie about anyways.

If you cheat, you are setting your family up for this type of explosive damage.

I am not a cheater. I am divorced. But I can completely understand how cheating becomes an option when people don’t want to get a divorce and often times that is because of the financial fall out. If you’ve never been in a truly miserable marriage you have absolutely no idea what people go through in deciding how they going to go on some people can actually get a divorce and go through with it and some people just don’t have the courage and they end up cheating as a way to get their needs met and not have harm done to kids and finances. Not all people can divorce amicably; and if you’re with a spouse who would be totally vicious and terrible and be a terrible coparent I can totally see how somebody would choose to cheat rather than divorce. If you’ve never been in this situation of being in a terrible marriage where there are no options and maybe perhaps you haven’t had sex in 2, 3, 4, 5 or more years you have no reason to judge. Stay out of it. A child could go through an acrimonious divorce if cheating is revealed went that is more destroying than an amicable divorce or cheating is not revealed or a marriage where an affair never discovered. The outside party should never blow up peoples lives.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP is a bigger B$itch

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Why? This woman isn’t a friend or family member. Why would she think that someone who happened to buy a house near hers would keep her secrets? That’s her mistake.

Because it’s none of her business. She she could cause an acrimonious divorce that might never happen if she keeps her mouth shut. Because it’s not her business because she could damage children worse finding out like this and because he might already know and they might even have an open marriage. Maybe the affair is the only thing keeping the marriage together and maybe they would be financially devastated in a divorce which would hurt everybody. People shouldn’t have affairs but some people do and it’s none of anybody else’s business to get involved. No one really knows what goes on in a marriage behind closed doors. No one should interfere and anybody else’s family or anybody else’s business. Honestly think people who get involved with other people‘s marriages are worse than people who cheat.

Shut up cheater. I 100% would have liked to know that my STBX was having unprotected sex with a whore he met on the Internet. And all the other risks that are involved with having an affair with somebody also in a committed marriage. And, no, only a tiny minority are actually in open marriages. That’s a BS excuse and it’s something cheaters lie about anyways.

If you cheat, you are setting your family up for this type of explosive damage.

I am not a cheater. I am divorced. But I can completely understand how cheating becomes an option when people don’t want to get a divorce and often times that is because of the financial fall out. If you’ve never been in a truly miserable marriage you have absolutely no idea what people go through in deciding how they going to go on some people can actually get a divorce and go through with it and some people just don’t have the courage and they end up cheating as a way to get their needs met and not have harm done to kids and finances. Not all people can divorce amicably; and if you’re with a spouse who would be totally vicious and terrible and be a terrible coparent I can totally see how somebody would choose to cheat rather than divorce. If you’ve never been in this situation of being in a terrible marriage where there are no options and maybe perhaps you haven’t had sex in 2, 3, 4, 5 or more years you have no reason to judge. Stay out of it. A child could go through an acrimonious divorce if cheating is revealed went that is more destroying than an amicable divorce or cheating is not revealed or a marriage where an affair never discovered. The outside party should never blow up peoples lives.

I hate to burst your bubble, but many men in happy marriages still cheat in midlife. They have zero desire to divorce and often are still having sex with their wives. It’s supposed to be a midlife distraction-just sex. 34% only cite an unhappy marriage. Women cheaters on the other hand- 65% are unhappy in their marriage.

If my husband cheated- I’d want to know—whether he was happy or unhappy. You never put somebody else’s health in danger and you don’t lie and deceive. There are zero excuses. Quit doing mental gymnastics to justify getting boned.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. I really don’t care if my ex’s ap was in an abusive or stale marriage. We weren’t. We had sex 4 times per week and had 2 kids, 24 years together. By all means happy. I don’t care what she thought she needed to do for her OWN marriage. She helped destroy someone else’s. She had a lot of sh@t she told herself which wasn’t true at all. It’s her husband that was taking the brunt of her borderline BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah. I really don’t care if my ex’s ap was in an abusive or stale marriage. We weren’t. We had sex 4 times per week and had 2 kids, 24 years together. By all means happy. I don’t care what she thought she needed to do for her OWN marriage. She helped destroy someone else’s. She had a lot of sh@t she told herself which wasn’t true at all. It’s her husband that was taking the brunt of her borderline BS.

Cheaters never think they are the problem. They will justify it anyway they can. Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP is a bigger B$itch

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Why? This woman isn’t a friend or family member. Why would she think that someone who happened to buy a house near hers would keep her secrets? That’s her mistake.

Because it’s none of her business. She she could cause an acrimonious divorce that might never happen if she keeps her mouth shut. Because it’s not her business because she could damage children worse finding out like this and because he might already know and they might even have an open marriage. Maybe the affair is the only thing keeping the marriage together and maybe they would be financially devastated in a divorce which would hurt everybody. People shouldn’t have affairs but some people do and it’s none of anybody else’s business to get involved. No one really knows what goes on in a marriage behind closed doors. No one should interfere and anybody else’s family or anybody else’s business. Honestly think people who get involved with other people‘s marriages are worse than people who cheat.

Shut up cheater. I 100% would have liked to know that my STBX was having unprotected sex with a whore he met on the Internet. And all the other risks that are involved with having an affair with somebody also in a committed marriage. And, no, only a tiny minority are actually in open marriages. That’s a BS excuse and it’s something cheaters lie about anyways.

If you cheat, you are setting your family up for this type of explosive damage.

I am not a cheater. I am divorced. But I can completely understand how cheating becomes an option when people don’t want to get a divorce and often times that is because of the financial fall out. If you’ve never been in a truly miserable marriage you have absolutely no idea what people go through in deciding how they going to go on some people can actually get a divorce and go through with it and some people just don’t have the courage and they end up cheating as a way to get their needs met and not have harm done to kids and finances. Not all people can divorce amicably; and if you’re with a spouse who would be totally vicious and terrible and be a terrible coparent I can totally see how somebody would choose to cheat rather than divorce. If you’ve never been in this situation of being in a terrible marriage where there are no options and maybe perhaps you haven’t had sex in 2, 3, 4, 5 or more years you have no reason to judge. Stay out of it. A child could go through an acrimonious divorce if cheating is revealed went that is more destroying than an amicable divorce or cheating is not revealed or a marriage where an affair never discovered. The outside party should never blow up peoples lives.

I hate to burst your bubble, but many men in happy marriages still cheat in midlife. They have zero desire to divorce and often are still having sex with their wives. It’s supposed to be a midlife distraction-just sex. 34% only cite an unhappy marriage. Women cheaters on the other hand- 65% are unhappy in their marriage.

If my husband cheated- I’d want to know—whether he was happy or unhappy. You never put somebody else’s health in danger and you don’t lie and deceive. There are zero excuses. Quit doing mental gymnastics to justify getting boned.

Do you read? I never said that men weren’t having sex but many aren’t. I was a woman in a sexless marriage for almost a decade. Was no cheating on either end but it got too depressing to stay so I got a divorce. I can completely understand why somebody else would choose to cheat instead of a divorce because if you divorce a really terrible person it is really really bad. No one said anything about people not having sex and all marriage is what I’m saying is you don’t know what goes on in other people’s marriages and some people really aren’t having sex and some people are having sex four times we can still cheating but the bottom line is none of your business to say a freaking worried about it because there are also a lot of marriages where women turned a blind eye and they know their husband is cheating because they don’t want to change their lifestyle. It is not up to a third-party to interfere.

[Anonymous]

^another one who would have welcomed somebody telling me. I have a career and don’t need his $. I was having sex with him so was unwittingly exposed to disease. They were rash and stupid. She droned on about her misery and husband she didn’t love but had never worked a day in her life so screwed men outside of the marriage even though her kids were in HS and she could have worked. Too lazy. She preferred to lie to him and have him support her cheating ways.