MIL bragging my baby looks just like her

[Anonymous]

Ha, when my kids were babies, it was so funny to post on FB and see all of my in-laws say, "OMG looks just like [DH] at that age!" and all of my relatives say, "He has the [mom last name] smile!" Usually both sides of the family can trace a resemblance and it is a time-honored way of bonding with and celebrating the baby as the newest clan member.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I gave birth to my second baby 10 months ago and my MIL is still bragging that the baby looks *JUST* like her ALL. THE. TIME. It's really rubbing me the wrong way, and I can't explain why. It's like I don't exist or something, or my family and my genes don't matter. She just spent the weekend at a family even showing everyone a baby picture of herself along with a picture of my baby. Why is this bothering me so much???!

Because you are a twit or in need of some medication.

Do you not have something better to do then to dwell on a non-issue?

Do you not have something better to do than post nasty unhelpful responses?

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Anonymous wrote:My inlaws can't say anything like this because my husband was adopted. And they don't comment on my child looking like either one us, come to think of it. Maybe because no one did it to them?

Reading this thread I have no idea how I would react. I think I understand the annoyance, particularly in the cases where it's glaringly obvious it came from the mother and the inlaws are reaching to claim a relative of theirs as a genetic influence. I would hope I would simply roll my eyes and try not to take it too personally. Could be she is just in a baby love fog and will ease up later.

Love this. And it is a great explanation! All babies should be so fortunate!

It doesn’t get batter.

My child has lots friends only because she’s a social butterfly like MIL. She chose those cat-eye glasses because MIL wears cat eye sunglasses (not because they were the pair that looked best on her). She liked to wear black leggings because MIL wears black pants t work (not because they were on trend with teens). So on and so forth.

You are sounding crazier with each post. Whoa. Your daughter chooses to be like her grandmother, relates to her, and this is what ticks you off...that your daughter does not more closely align with you. You are the problem here.

Lol, I don't think that pp sound crazy at all. You really think that a *teenager* is wearing black pants because her grandmother does? How absolutely laughable!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I gave birth to my second baby 10 months ago and my MIL is still bragging that the baby looks *JUST* like her ALL. THE. TIME. It's really rubbing me the wrong way, and I can't explain why. It's like I don't exist or something, or my family and my genes don't matter. She just spent the weekend at a family even showing everyone a baby picture of herself along with a picture of my baby. Why is this bothering me so much???!

Ha I love my MIL, she is really sweet. But she did the same thing to me and I HATED it. I was surprised by how much it grated me i think my daughter is actually a pretty good mix. She looked like her dad/my MIL more as a toddler and she is looking like me more now that she is 5. But you could always see it both ways. Just chiming in to say I hear you OP. It is grating. But it also doesn’t matter and overall it means a well loved child which is perfect. Just keep smiling at it, and if you feel the need to say that your baby looks like you just say it too. Remember to keep a light and humorous perspective on this though!

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Anonymous wrote:When was the last time you were screened for post-partum issues like anxiety, mood swings or depression? It sounds like you may need to get into your OB.

Screw you, actually. As someone who legitimately suffered from both PTSD and PPD, I'm telling you to seriously eff right off.

OP maybe having some amped-up hormones, yes, but this is a pretty common and understandable--if petty/small--thing to be irritated about. For you to take a rather innocuous online vent and turn it into faux-concern over VERY REAL mental health problems is just disgusting.

You have some anger issues

DP

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Anonymous wrote:When was the last time you were screened for post-partum issues like anxiety, mood swings or depression? It sounds like you may need to get into your OB.

Screw you, actually. As someone who legitimately suffered from both PTSD and PPD, I'm telling you to seriously eff right off.

OP maybe having some amped-up hormones, yes, but this is a pretty common and understandable--if petty/small--thing to be irritated about. For you to take a rather innocuous online vent and turn it into faux-concern over VERY REAL mental health problems is just disgusting.

It is a legitimate observation from someone who has a lot of children. Your reaction also is over the top so I would recommend that you think about that.

Nope. You need to stop. If this is something you do frequently--read an *anonymous online vent about something rather common and a rather understandable reaction* and immediately jump into faux-concern and blowing it up to PPD? You need to stop.

OMG, you really have some issues. Just wow.