MIL bragging my baby looks just like her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When was the last time you were screened for post-partum issues like anxiety, mood swings or depression? It sounds like you may need to get into your OB.

Screw you, actually. As someone who legitimately suffered from both PTSD and PPD, I'm telling you to seriously eff right off.

OP maybe having some amped-up hormones, yes, but this is a pretty common and understandable--if petty/small--thing to be irritated about. For you to take a rather innocuous online vent and turn it into faux-concern over VERY REAL mental health problems is just disgusting.

It is a legitimate observation from someone who has a lot of children. Your reaction also is over the top so I would recommend that you think about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When was the last time you were screened for post-partum issues like anxiety, mood swings or depression? It sounds like you may need to get into your OB.

Screw you, actually. As someone who legitimately suffered from both PTSD and PPD, I'm telling you to seriously eff right off.

OP maybe having some amped-up hormones, yes, but this is a pretty common and understandable--if petty/small--thing to be irritated about. For you to take a rather innocuous online vent and turn it into faux-concern over VERY REAL mental health problems is just disgusting.

It is a legitimate observation from someone who has a lot of children. Your reaction also is over the top so I would recommend that you think about that.

Nope. You need to stop. If this is something you do frequently--read an *anonymous online vent about something rather common and a rather understandable reaction* and immediately jump into faux-concern and blowing it up to PPD? You need to stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When was the last time you were screened for post-partum issues like anxiety, mood swings or depression? It sounds like you may need to get into your OB.

Screw you, actually. As someone who legitimately suffered from both PTSD and PPD, I'm telling you to seriously eff right off.

OP maybe having some amped-up hormones, yes, but this is a pretty common and understandable--if petty/small--thing to be irritated about. For you to take a rather innocuous online vent and turn it into faux-concern over VERY REAL mental health problems is just disgusting.

It is a legitimate observation from someone who has a lot of children. Your reaction also is over the top so I would recommend that you think about that.

Nope. You need to stop. If this is something you do frequently--read an *anonymous online vent about something rather common and a rather understandable reaction* and immediately jump into faux-concern and blowing it up to PPD? You need to stop.

Sigh. Whatever you say!

[Anonymous]

Well, does she look just like your MIL? Plus, it is a sign of affection in some cultures, so take a chill pill. After all, mommy's baby, daddy's maybe.

[Anonymous]

OP - I know your MIL is bugging you but just so you know, NOBODY takes her comments seriously. Everyone just nods and silently rolls their eyes because no one believes that the baby actually looks like her. Let her sound like an insane grandmother and please don't spend one second letting this get you down.

[Anonymous]

It sounds really annoying, OP. If you don't want to take the high road and ignore it, all you can do is mildly say "Yes, you've said so about a million times already. I don't see it but I'm happy for you if you do." Then give a weak smile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When was the last time you were screened for post-partum issues like anxiety, mood swings or depression? It sounds like you may need to get into your OB.

Screw you, actually. As someone who legitimately suffered from both PTSD and PPD, I'm telling you to seriously eff right off.

OP maybe having some amped-up hormones, yes, but this is a pretty common and understandable--if petty/small--thing to be irritated about. For you to take a rather innocuous online vent and turn it into faux-concern over VERY REAL mental health problems is just disgusting.

It is a legitimate observation from someone who has a lot of children. Your reaction also is over the top so I would recommend that you think about that.

Nope. You need to stop. If this is something you do frequently--read an *anonymous online vent about something rather common and a rather understandable reaction* and immediately jump into faux-concern and blowing it up to PPD? You need to stop.

Sigh. Whatever you say!

OK, great! I say for you to shut up, so shut up.

Shame on you for minimizing the suffering of people who actually have depression, anxiety, PPD and other mental and emotional problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine does this too. It drives me bananas. Both kids are just dead ringers for my husbands side of the family, according to her. It isn’t true—our kids are a good mix—and it feels like I am being erased. There is already a background of a power struggle over family influence because DH and I come from different cultures (my MIL has been trying hard to make the kids more like her family and less like my family).

Same here! Sorry OP, annoying, I know

[Anonymous]

Grandmas have their bragging rights especially when it comes to their circle of friends and family.

Dont take it personally. Let mil bask in her faux limelight and just know inside yourself that mil is just being a baggy old lady, but is sure proud of her grandbaby.

[Anonymous]

It would annoy me too, but my side says my kids look just like our side of the family and they really do. They don’t look like DH. To be fair, we also say my sister’s children look exactly like her husband and his side. They don’t look like my sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL does something similar in that she says that every thing my kids do or looks like is just exactly like DH or that side of the family. In five years I have yet to hear her say any part of them is like me. Even when my first son developed his eye color and it was the same as me. DH and MIL have a different color. She sat around with DH trying to figure out who from their side of the family has that eye color that it could have come from. Pretty ridiculous in my opinion but I just rolled my eyes. That's about all that is needed for those type of comments.

That is so funny!

[Anonymous]

Grow up. This is a non-issue.

[Anonymous]

This is so annoying. And yes it's because they're ignoring you and your genes.

[Anonymous]

My MIL does this. Everything my son does or says, it's because of her side of the family. "His hair is so blonde and beautiful- just like his Swedish cousins!" (Or, you know, his blonde haired mother?). "He likes quesadillas- the Smith boys always eat lots of cheese as toddlers!" (or, maybe it's because his mother prepares quesadillas all the time because they are easy and now he's used to it). "He loves those nursery songs... he must have inherited it from my French great grandparents!" (or, you know, every single kid likes nursery songs, so shut up already). You can't really appreciate how annoying it is until it's your own MIL doing it. So, I get it OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t matter. The baby looks how s/he looks. MIL sees what she sees, and she’s proud to see a resemblance. At least she cares.

In any case, babies tend to go through phases where they resemble different sides of the family at different times.

True.

And MIL does not have any connection of your family as babies.

Of course she is going to look for the traits she knows and not the people who she did not know as babies.