MIL bragging my baby looks just like her

[Anonymous]

My mil goes around telling everyone my son looks EXACTLY like her husband. He doesn’t. It bugs me too

[Anonymous]

I hear you, OP.

My DD is a night-owl, just like GRAMMY!
Is a talker, just like GRAMMY!
Has a flair for fashion, just like GRAMMY!
Loves salad, just like GRAMMY!

It does get old, and I don’t think you can appreciate that if you don’t have a Grammy who’s constantly making these comparisons.

No advice, OP. Just have a little laugh in your head and appreciate how insecure your MIL is being at that moment.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Seriously? You have issues.

[Anonymous]

My MIL was constantly reminding me I was just the carrier of her first grandchild. It bothers you because you are being negated even though you are the one who literally did all the work of giving her that grandchild. My response was always that my child looked just like my grandmother: bald and toothless.

[Anonymous]

Just agree with her. “It’s true, Mary, little Squeaky’s chubby cheeks and baldness really do remind me of you!”

[Anonymous]

Mine does this too. It drives me bananas. Both kids are just dead ringers for my husbands side of the family, according to her. It isn’t true—our kids are a good mix—and it feels like I am being erased. There is already a background of a power struggle over family influence because DH and I come from different cultures (my MIL has been trying hard to make the kids more like her family and less like my family).

[Anonymous]

When was the last time you were screened for post-partum issues like anxiety, mood swings or depression? It sounds like you may need to get into your OB.

[Anonymous]

I'm adopted and am thrilled when I can see that my kids resemble either me OR my husband/his family at all. It's so amazing to me. Just let it go, OP. I would feel happy that my MIL loved my child so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine does this too. It drives me bananas. Both kids are just dead ringers for my husbands side of the family, according to her. It isn’t true—our kids are a good mix—and it feels like I am being erased. There is already a background of a power struggle over family influence because DH and I come from different cultures (my MIL has been trying hard to make the kids more like her family and less like my family).

+1

It’s the battle for family culture and identity again. It rears it’s head in the mother-in-law daughter-in-law relationship.

My kids, especially my younger son, look exactly like my dad. It makes me happy because for heaven’s sake, I relocated to my DH’s home town and birthed two children who have his last name. The least my kids can do is look like my side of the family, LOL.

[Anonymous]

My daughter looks exactly like her grandmother. Even more so now that she is older. I think it's sweet.

[Anonymous]

*its head

[Anonymous]

She's a doting grandmom. Annoying, sure but c'mon this is harmless and kinda sweet. Please don't make an issue out of this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When was the last time you were screened for post-partum issues like anxiety, mood swings or depression? It sounds like you may need to get into your OB.

Screw you, actually. As someone who legitimately suffered from both PTSD and PPD, I'm telling you to seriously eff right off.

OP maybe having some amped-up hormones, yes, but this is a pretty common and understandable--if petty/small--thing to be irritated about. For you to take a rather innocuous online vent and turn it into faux-concern over VERY REAL mental health problems is just disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Screw you, actually. As someone who legitimately suffered from both PTSD and PPD, seriously screw right off.

OP maybe having some amped-up hormones, yes, but this is a pretty common and understandable--if petty/small--thing to be irritated about. For you to take a rather innocuous online vent and turn it into faux-concern over VERY REAL mental health problems is just disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Let her have her fantasy.