Evidence he’s cheating. Now what?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love how everyone is saying he is an alcoholic. Getting drunk ( who knows how drunk) 1-2 times a week does not mean he is an alcoholic.

Yes, it is. Getting drunk weekly is a big sign of alcoholism. It takes a day to recover. That's 4 days lost a week to drinking. One day of drunkiness, one day to recover. Rinse and repeat.

How do you raise kids being drunk two days out of the week.

Please learn of what you speak before throwing terms around. Alcoholics don't recover. They stay drunk. Their BAC never dips below .1 and often higher. Alcoholics don't drink just 2 days/week. They can't go that long without alcohol.

As an adult child of an alcoholic and grandchild to more alcoholics, I can confidently say you are wrong.

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+1. I have a binge-drinking brother who assures us he isn't an alcoholic because he doesn't drink every night or even every week. But once he starts, he can't stop and the end result is always drunk and blackouts.

The cheating/alcoholism is a chicken/egg situation but cannot be discounted.

[Anonymous]

OP, just wondering how you are? Did you ever confront your husband? How are you managing through the holidays?

Hope all is well with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love how everyone is saying he is an alcoholic. Getting drunk ( who knows how drunk) 1-2 times a week does not mean he is an alcoholic.

Yes, it is. Getting drunk weekly is a big sign of alcoholism. It takes a day to recover. That's 4 days lost a week to drinking. One day of drunkiness, one day to recover. Rinse and repeat.

How do you raise kids being drunk two days out of the week.

Please learn of what you speak before throwing terms around. Alcoholics don't recover. They stay drunk. Their BAC never dips below .1 and often higher. Alcoholics don't drink just 2 days/week. They can't go that long without alcohol.

As an adult child of an alcoholic and grandchild to more alcoholics, I can confidently say you are wrong.

It's semantics. Alcoholism vs. alcohol abuse.

+1. I have a binge-drinking brother who assures us he isn't an alcoholic because he doesn't drink every night or even every week. But once he starts, he can't stop and the end result is always drunk and blackouts.

The cheating/alcoholism is a chicken/egg situation but cannot be discounted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love how everyone is saying he is an alcoholic. Getting drunk ( who knows how drunk) 1-2 times a week does not mean he is an alcoholic.

Yes, it is. Getting drunk weekly is a big sign of alcoholism. It takes a day to recover. That's 4 days lost a week to drinking. One day of drunkiness, one day to recover. Rinse and repeat.

How do you raise kids being drunk two days out of the week.

Please learn of what you speak before throwing terms around. Alcoholics don't recover. They stay drunk. Their BAC never dips below .1 and often higher. Alcoholics don't drink just 2 days/week. They can't go that long without alcohol.

As an adult child of an alcoholic and grandchild to more alcoholics, I can confidently say you are wrong.

As someone that had alcoholism in my family and as someone who worked with alcoholics, I can say you are wrong if you thing an alcohol drinks just once or twice a week and has control. They have no control and can't stop. I once played golf with a man that I didn't know was an alcoholic. He was an acquaintance and saw we were short, he approached about joining and we happily welcomed him. At the turn we got a few beers and one of my friends asked him if he wanted anything, he got a VO and soda and we didn't bat an eye. We all had a drink after the round and went our separate ways. A mutual friend called me 2 days later asking if I had seen this man. I told him the story and at this point found out he was an alcoholic. The man left the golf club, after being sober for several years, and he went on a 5 day bender until his son found him and brought him home to get him help.

Smeone that drinks too much one a week is a problem drinker, not an alcoholic.

[Anonymous]

Collect evidence...make appt with attorney and follow advise