My son brought a friend on vacation

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This board makes me laugh

Everyone is so busy bragging about being a SAH, with a Big Law or “Executive” husband, and not sure what they’ll do when they go back to work. You can’t envison life without a fourth child, and don’t know how to tell the housekeeper she can’t work full time hours without cutting into your “me” time.

I know.


DCUM: we're all 1%-ers


DCUM: son's friend ATE ALL THE COOKIES AND SNACKS AND ORDERED EXPENSIVE STUFF FROM THE MENU.

We are both WOHM parents and far from 1%. Just an average family on an average beach vacation.

This was a generalization.

[Anonymous]

OP—what is it that you want from DCUM?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP—what is it that you want from DCUM?

attention, duh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??

Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.

He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

Or alternatively, the friend is actually more fun than the uptight mom would care to admit and OP's son actually likes him.

Lol. You guys and your fairy tales. His other, more close friends all couldn't come due to work and other vacations. This is basically a 3rd tier friend from high school who my son thinks is okay but also now wishes he hadn't brought since he's gotten lectured at various points for what he orders, what he won't eat , using a plate for spaghetti instead of a bowl, what towel he chose to use, wanting to go out at night, etc.

So a good lesson in natural consequences for both you and your son. Don't bring a third-tier friend on vacation if you can't afford the market price fish.

Did I say I can't afford market price fish? My issue is a kid who has gobbled up every possible commodity we have ordering the most expensive item at every meal out when he would be equally as satisfied with a pack of hot dogs to himself. I grew up going on family vacations with friends and never would have sat around refusing to help out or ordering menu items more expensive than what the parents themselves order. The kid tried to order FILET one night. (That one actually got a no.)

Man you have food issues.

[Anonymous]

OP, your most recent posts paint a very unflattering picture. Perhaps it is time to stop replying,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This board makes me laugh

Everyone is so busy bragging about being a SAH, with a Big Law or “Executive” husband, and not sure what they’ll do when they go back to work. You can’t envison life without a fourth child, and don’t know how to tell the housekeeper she can’t work full time hours without cutting into your “me” time.

I know.


DCUM: we're all 1%-ers


DCUM: son's friend ATE ALL THE COOKIES AND SNACKS AND ORDERED EXPENSIVE STUFF FROM THE MENU.

Aw, so sorry you don’t fit the demographic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This board makes me laugh

Everyone is so busy bragging about being a SAH, with a Big Law or “Executive” husband, and not sure what they’ll do when they go back to work. You can’t envison life without a fourth child, and don’t know how to tell the housekeeper she can’t work full time hours without cutting into your “me” time.

I know.


DCUM: we're all 1%-ers


DCUM: son's friend ATE ALL THE COOKIES AND SNACKS AND ORDERED EXPENSIVE STUFF FROM THE MENU.

Aw, so sorry you don’t fit the demographic.

Guess your demographic is the one where no one eats the small box of cookies?

[Anonymous]

OP, stop taking taking the 19 year olds to more expensive places. Give them some money and send them to a pizza place, or a buffet or a taco place where the dude can gourge himself until they run out of money.

You and everyone else can go to the nice seafood restaurant.

[Anonymous]

I like this thread and the Rusty Man thread on General Parenting.

I also like the thread about names on Off-Topic, entitled "white people." I love that thread because learned yet again how much I take for granted.

This thread....it's about annoying vacation guest, but it's really about food, the cost of food, hogging all of the food, and about weight. Would OP notice the food as much if her son's friend were slim and athletic? Hmmmm...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, stop taking taking the 19 year olds to more expensive places. Give them some money and send them to a pizza place, or a buffet or a taco place where the dude can gourge himself until they run out of money.

You and everyone else can go to the nice seafood restaurant.

Good advice. And take them somewhere where they can pick up snacks in bulk. And SPEAK UP ffs.

[Anonymous]

OP, on the way in the car to the restaurant tell everyone that they need to order items below a certain price, or have you son tell his friend he should order less expensive items. The other option is to tell your son to pick somewhere reasonably for them to go to and you go somewhere nicer. It's possible that his parents don't put restrictions on what he's allowed to get because they can afford to not put restrictions. I had a friend like that growing up and she didn't really grasp that others may not have the same means. I have taken a large group of DC's friends to dinner at a restaurant that had some expensive item and I made sure DC told his friends that since his mom is nice enough to pay for everyone, they should try to not go overboard. It worked out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, stop taking taking the 19 year olds to more expensive places. Give them some money and send them to a pizza place, or a buffet or a taco place where the dude can gourge himself until they run out of money.

You and everyone else can go to the nice seafood restaurant.

Good advice. And take them somewhere where they can pick up snacks in bulk. And SPEAK UP ffs.

What the EFF makes you think we didn't buy a ton of food when there's 6 people. I don't know how many times I can say it. It's not a scarcity issue. If we bought 3 dozen donuts he would eat 30 of them. If it's there, it's eaten, period.

And I'm not sending my son, who is on family vacation before going back to college, to a separate dinner because he happened to invite a bottomless pit to join. I suck it up and pay the extra dinner because my family wants to spend time together especially since our son is away at school now.

This place truly has zero redeeming factors. No matter how common and unarguable an issue you a-holes are like piranhas jumping in with wild fantasies of 1%ers too cheap to buy more than a loaf of bread and simultaneously telling me I am a bad person/awful host who has made him feel awful but also haven't made him feel bad enough because I've just sucked it up and vented here rather than shame him. Throw in some nonsense about spray sunscreen and an eating disorder and it's Yahtzee.

[Anonymous]

I think it's disgusting that people eat food every day. The chewing.. The saliva ... The gulping and then they squeeze out feces like a play dough fun factory. The whole ritual is gross. It just goes to prove how pitiful the human race is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??

Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.

He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

Or alternatively, the friend is actually more fun than the uptight mom would care to admit and OP's son actually likes him.

Lol. You guys and your fairy tales. His other, more close friends all couldn't come due to work and other vacations. This is basically a 3rd tier friend from high school who my son thinks is okay but also now wishes he hadn't brought since he's gotten lectured at various points for what he orders, what he won't eat , using a plate for spaghetti instead of a bowl, what towel he chose to use, wanting to go out at night, etc.

Yikes, you sound like fun people to vacation with, Op. Poor kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, stop taking taking the 19 year olds to more expensive places. Give them some money and send them to a pizza place, or a buffet or a taco place where the dude can gourge himself until they run out of money.

You and everyone else can go to the nice seafood restaurant.

Good advice. And take them somewhere where they can pick up snacks in bulk. And SPEAK UP ffs.

What the EFF makes you think we didn't buy a ton of food when there's 6 people. I don't know how many times I can say it. It's not a scarcity issue. If we bought 3 dozen donuts he would eat 30 of them. If it's there, it's eaten, period.

And I'm not sending my son, who is on family vacation before going back to college, to a separate dinner because he happened to invite a bottomless pit to join. I suck it up and pay the extra dinner because my family wants to spend time together especially since our son is away at school now.

This place truly has zero redeeming factors. No matter how common and unarguable an issue you a-holes are like piranhas jumping in with wild fantasies of 1%ers too cheap to buy more than a loaf of bread and simultaneously telling me I am a bad person/awful host who has made him feel awful but also haven't made him feel bad enough because I've just sucked it up and vented here rather than shame him. Throw in some nonsense about spray sunscreen and an eating disorder and it's Yahtzee.

So everyone didn't pat you on the back for being a martyr, and you're flipping out. Got it.