My son brought a friend on vacation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This board makes me laugh

Everyone is so busy bragging about being a SAH, with a Big Law or “Executive” husband, and not sure what they’ll do when they go back to work. You can’t envison life without a fourth child, and don’t know how to tell the housekeeper she can’t work full time hours without cutting into your “me” time.

I know.


DCUM: we're all 1%-ers


DCUM: son's friend ATE ALL THE COOKIES AND SNACKS AND ORDERED EXPENSIVE STUFF FROM THE MENU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??

Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.

He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??

Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.

He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

Or alternatively, the friend is actually more fun than the uptight mom would care to admit and OP's son actually likes him.

[Anonymous]

>>He literally smacked his hands together and rubbed them with glee at a pizza restaurant the other day.<<

I can't stand people who are like this. We have good friends and the husband is awful in this way -- can't stop talking about dessert and bacon and fried foods, and orders three sides for every main dish he gets. His son orders three times the amount he should get when we eat out, and ends up throwing half of it away. We used to go on vacation with them but I can't deal with that any more.

[Anonymous]

I have an obese brother that does this too. It's all about food, all the time and how is he going to get it and lots of it. It's disgusting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??

Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.

He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

Or alternatively, the friend is actually more fun than the uptight mom would care to admit and OP's son actually likes him.

Lol. You guys and your fairy tales. His other, more close friends all couldn't come due to work and other vacations. This is basically a 3rd tier friend from high school who my son thinks is okay but also now wishes he hadn't brought since he's gotten lectured at various points for what he orders, what he won't eat , using a plate for spaghetti instead of a bowl, what towel he chose to use, wanting to go out at night, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??

Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.

He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

Or alternatively, the friend is actually more fun than the uptight mom would care to admit and OP's son actually likes him.

Lol. You guys and your fairy tales. His other, more close friends all couldn't come due to work and other vacations. This is basically a 3rd tier friend from high school who my son thinks is okay but also now wishes he hadn't brought since he's gotten lectured at various points for what he orders, what he won't eat , using a plate for spaghetti instead of a bowl, what towel he chose to use, wanting to go out at night, etc.

So a good lesson in natural consequences for both you and your son. Don't bring a third-tier friend on vacation if you can't afford the market price fish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This board makes me laugh

Everyone is so busy bragging about being a SAH, with a Big Law or “Executive” husband, and not sure what they’ll do when they go back to work. You can’t envison life without a fourth child, and don’t know how to tell the housekeeper she can’t work full time hours without cutting into your “me” time.

I know.


DCUM: we're all 1%-ers


DCUM: son's friend ATE ALL THE COOKIES AND SNACKS AND ORDERED EXPENSIVE STUFF FROM THE MENU.

We are both WOHM parents and far from 1%. Just an average family on an average beach vacation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??

Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.

He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

Or alternatively, the friend is actually more fun than the uptight mom would care to admit and OP's son actually likes him.

Lol. You guys and your fairy tales. His other, more close friends all couldn't come due to work and other vacations. This is basically a 3rd tier friend from high school who my son thinks is okay but also now wishes he hadn't brought since he's gotten lectured at various points for what he orders, what he won't eat , using a plate for spaghetti instead of a bowl, what towel he chose to use, wanting to go out at night, etc.

So, you and your kid are uptight, judgmental and lousy hosts ... whoulda thunk it ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??

Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.

He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

Or alternatively, the friend is actually more fun than the uptight mom would care to admit and OP's son actually likes him.

Lol. You guys and your fairy tales. His other, more close friends all couldn't come due to work and other vacations. This is basically a 3rd tier friend from high school who my son thinks is okay but also now wishes he hadn't brought since he's gotten lectured at various points for what he orders, what he won't eat , using a plate for spaghetti instead of a bowl, what towel he chose to use, wanting to go out at night, etc.

So a good lesson in natural consequences for both you and your son. Don't bring a third-tier friend on vacation if you can't afford the market price fish.

Did I say I can't afford market price fish? My issue is a kid who has gobbled up every possible commodity we have ordering the most expensive item at every meal out when he would be equally as satisfied with a pack of hot dogs to himself. I grew up going on family vacations with friends and never would have sat around refusing to help out or ordering menu items more expensive than what the parents themselves order. The kid tried to order FILET one night. (That one actually got a no.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This board makes me laugh

Everyone is so busy bragging about being a SAH, with a Big Law or “Executive” husband, and not sure what they’ll do when they go back to work. You can’t envison life without a fourth child, and don’t know how to tell the housekeeper she can’t work full time hours without cutting into your “me” time.

I know.


DCUM: we're all 1%-ers


DCUM: son's friend ATE ALL THE COOKIES AND SNACKS AND ORDERED EXPENSIVE STUFF FROM THE MENU.

We are both WOHM parents and far from 1%. Just an average family on an average beach vacation.

Bet not. When we plug in our gross income, we're much more affluent than we would think. You went on vacation with multiple kids and then paid for kids' friends. Wealthy compared to the majority of folks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??

Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.

He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

Or alternatively, the friend is actually more fun than the uptight mom would care to admit and OP's son actually likes him.

Lol. You guys and your fairy tales. His other, more close friends all couldn't come due to work and other vacations. This is basically a 3rd tier friend from high school who my son thinks is okay but also now wishes he hadn't brought since he's gotten lectured at various points for what he orders, what he won't eat , using a plate for spaghetti instead of a bowl, what towel he chose to use, wanting to go out at night, etc.

So, you and your kid are uptight, judgmental and lousy hosts ... whoulda thunk it ?

Yes, DCUM wench, the person who invited another person along on vacation cost free but is annoyed they're eating everything in sight and being a pain in the ass is uptight and a bad host. You got me. You're so wise. How did you know a "lousy host" would be the absolute CRUELEST cut?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This board makes me laugh

Everyone is so busy bragging about being a SAH, with a Big Law or “Executive” husband, and not sure what they’ll do when they go back to work. You can’t envison life without a fourth child, and don’t know how to tell the housekeeper she can’t work full time hours without cutting into your “me” time.

I know.


DCUM: we're all 1%-ers


DCUM: son's friend ATE ALL THE COOKIES AND SNACKS AND ORDERED EXPENSIVE STUFF FROM THE MENU.

We are both WOHM parents and far from 1%. Just an average family on an average beach vacation.

Bet not. When we plug in our gross income, we're much more affluent than we would think. You went on vacation with multiple kids and then paid for kids' friends. Wealthy compared to the majority of folks.

And? That doesn't make me 1% in any way. I'm free to spend money on vacation. Just because I can afford what we've done doesn't mean being taken advantage of and overspending compared to what just my family would have cost for absolutely no benefit or purpose is okay. You would all be annoyed too, you're just hot and bored and feeling like arguing.

[Anonymous]

Ignore these people OP. They would hate having this kid as a guest on their vacation too.

How long is your vacation? The idea about a price limit at dinner is a good idea. Don't be afraid to say "that's too expensive. pick something cheaper". Also don't be afraid to say "Brandon - take the trash out. Brandon - carry the cooler to the beach".

Like other posters have said, this kid had absolutely no home training.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??

Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.

He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

Or alternatively, the friend is actually more fun than the uptight mom would care to admit and OP's son actually likes him.

Lol. You guys and your fairy tales. His other, more close friends all couldn't come due to work and other vacations. This is basically a 3rd tier friend from high school who my son thinks is okay but also now wishes he hadn't brought since he's gotten lectured at various points for what he orders, what he won't eat , using a plate for spaghetti instead of a bowl, what towel he chose to use, wanting to go out at night, etc.

So, you and your kid are uptight, judgmental and lousy hosts ... whoulda thunk it ?

Yes, DCUM wench, the person who invited another person along on vacation cost free but is annoyed they're eating everything in sight and being a pain in the ass is uptight and a bad host. You got me. You're so wise. How did you know a "lousy host" would be the absolute CRUELEST cut?

Yep. You don't invite someone and come to the internet to bitch about their fatness, love for cookies and sunscreen use unless you are petty as heck ... no wonder the other friends were ' busy'