Men in your 50s, do you find women in their 50s attractive?

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The only way a 60+ yr old man can get a 40 yr old woman is:

1. he has lots and lots of money
2. he is very fit and looks much younger than 60
3. the woman is very very desperate

1. I do NOT qualify. No woman dates me for my money. I can pay my own way and I'm an old school gentleman where I always pay for us if we go out to the point of insisting. But there is no payoff here if she is looking at the long game.

2. Not very fit but fitter than most men at my HS reunion. That's a pretty low bar. I'm fit enough to do anything a younger woman wants to do, including dance all night or go on a strenuous hike the next day. Not tall either, just shy of 5'10"

3. Desperate for what? A good relationship? Trust me, a lot of women are desperate for a good relationship with a decent man who can keep up with her in bed and out. A lot of woman prefer older men and some always have. Others have come to that preference by being disappointed in the men their age while finding what they want in an older man. It's not my job to convince a younger woman that she should date me. If my age is a turn-off, I don't want to be with her. And I've said, the pool of women in their 40s who would date a man my age, considering 1. & 2. is much smaller than women closer to my age. But it's large enough that I've done well and even dated a few women who were even younger than their 40s. But 30s is not my target age at all. We have to at least like most of each other's music and being younger than my children does feel strange.

[Anonymous]

If you are a man over 30 - even WAY over like 50 or 60 - it is actually easier and a hell of a lot more fun to date women in their 20s. If

Women in their 30s and 40s are less fun, less hot, and want you to jump through dozens of stupid hoops. Forget it, not doing it.

(Screech away, DCUM women)

[Anonymous]

I am a mid 50's male. I find significantly younger women -- younger by more than 10 years -- have had such a different life experience that conversations can get awkward. I remember watergate, the moon landing, etc. I remember Vietnam. Someone who was six or less when Reagan was elected just won't work for me.

They probably like 90's music (shudder).

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Anonymous wrote:I am a mid 50's male. I find significantly younger women -- younger by more than 10 years -- have had such a different life experience that conversations can get awkward. I remember watergate, the moon landing, etc. I remember Vietnam. Someone who was six or less when Reagan was elected just won't work for me.

They probably like 90's music (shudder).

Now hold on a minute. I'm 52 and 90's music is my favorite era! Alternative! Nothing better.

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming they are in decent shape etc? I mean: do you still find women your own age sexually attractive if they generally take care of themselves, or do you only find yourself attracted to younger women?

It depends on how recently I've nutted. If it's been awhile and the.crone isn't too corpse-like, and the lights are off, and she keeps her.mouth shut, we can pretend together.

haha you know what? A lot of us women feel this way about our 50-something husbands, too. I think it's a reasonable approach to the sex life for older couples in general. We don't keep our mouths shut, though, because we have amazing oral skills and we also like to chat and laugh afterwards.

[Anonymous]

Give me a confident 50 year old woman any day. She will have interesting stuff to say, know what a good wine and good steak is. She will know how to travel, and how to tell me what gets her off in bed.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a mid 50's male. I find significantly younger women -- younger by more than 10 years -- have had such a different life experience that conversations can get awkward. I remember watergate, the moon landing, etc. I remember Vietnam. Someone who was six or less when Reagan was elected just won't work for me.

They probably like 90's music (shudder).

Uh, how often do you talk about that ancient history with women your own age? If you do, that - and not their age - is the reason their vaginas are dry and they avoid intercourse with you.

I'm in my mid 50s, and I find that the key to an enjoyable conversation with a woman of any age - and more importantly, a conversation that leads to sex - is to shut up and let them talk. Surely you have learned by now to nod, smile, and feign interest in their incessant senseless prattle while you think about how they'll look when they're naked.

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Anonymous wrote:30 is the magic number for women. It's down hill (very slowly) from there. Once they hit 40 it's like a runaway truck flying down the mountain.

Says a 17 year old.

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The amount of misogyny on this board is incredible.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

Most relationships don't last 20 years even if your partner is the same age as you. Therefore your question is moot.

Whatever. I'm 49 and my wife and I have been blissfully together since we were 26. Not everyone here is some relationship degenerate

Whatever. You are too stupid to read the word "most", too stupid to understand current divorce statistics, and so stupid that you think the millions of marriages that end in divorce before 10 years are up (let alone 20) failed because the people in it were "degenerate".

Dumbass.

You might be 61 but you sounds like 11. Infantile. You need a child bride.

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Um, older guys. You do realize those younger women who date you would generally prefer to date younger men, right? I mean, you realize that the women who date you either want your money, or want your career success, and when they tell you you're hot and a god lover, they're, um lying? And you're okay with that? Don't you have any pride at all?

The ones who don't just want your money are seriously f*d up gals with major daddy issues. How would you feel if your 20-something daughter brought a 60 year old home for the holidays? If that doesn't bother you -if the thought of sleeping with someone young enough to be your daughter doesn't bother you - you are one seriously sleazy guy.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

Yes, but how well have you held up? Compared to someone in their 40s of course! Love the double standards you are showing. Of course you are going to say you are attractive and fit and everyone wants to jump you. But, I don't believe you so don't try.

Well enough to have no problem dating women in their 40s. Barely a wrinkle in my face, and just a bit of grey. Unlike most women in their 50s. Sorry, I know how it sounds but I'm just answering the question honestly.

To be fair, most men in their 50s don't look good either, especially white men.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are a man over 30 - even WAY over like 50 or 60 - it is actually easier and a hell of a lot more fun to date women in their 20s. If

Women in their 30s and 40s are less fun, less hot, and want you to jump through dozens of stupid hoops. Forget it, not doing it.

(Screech away, DCUM women)

No problems with that from this woman. I find guys in their 20s way hotter and more fun than men my own age.

Make your own money, live your own life, have fun with people young enough that they have no real expectations of you.

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I am 55. I know any woman in their 20's (or even 30's) is probably more interest in my wallet than me.

I can buy nicer gifts, take her to nicer places than people in her age group.

Woman my age are more interested in me. That makes them more attractive than a wrinkle free girl (and I mean girl) who is basically whoring herself. Realistically, I can go to NV and a brothel if I want to do a 20 yo.

But, instead, I want to be with someone who wants to be with me. So I date people of my generation.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, older guys. You do realize those younger women who date you would generally prefer to date younger men, right? I mean, you realize that the women who date you either want your money, or want your career success, and when they tell you you're hot and a god lover, they're, um lying? And you're okay with that? Don't you have any pride at all?

The ones who don't just want your money are seriously f*d up gals with major daddy issues. How would you feel if your 20-something daughter brought a 60 year old home for the holidays? If that doesn't bother you -if the thought of sleeping with someone young enough to be your daughter doesn't bother you - you are one seriously sleazy guy.

Basically, then, everyone is sleazy. Someone who is about 15 years younger is young enough to be your child. By your standard a 50 year old who fantasizes about someone in their 30s is "sleazy."

All women (and men) want someone who is better looking, wealthier, higher status, and/or younger. But they are limited to whatever they can actually get. Anyone with half-a-brain knows that he or she is nothing more than the best that their partner could do. If their partner could have "done better," they would have done better when they had the chance. Only children believe in "the one" and "finding their soulmate."