When the Average Looking Girl In High School Gets to be in the "Cool" Crowd

[Anonymous]

Oh how quickly we women unravel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:am I the only one who thought OP was a man? What grown woman calls other grown women "chicks"?

Male or female, though, OP is an ass. Dating him/her would not have been a privilege. (I just read a bit of the first page. Not working my way through his/her befuddling bullshit any further than that.)

I call women chicks and I’m a woman. NBD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. My main point is the irony of the outcasts now trying to cast out others. They're trying to do the exact same thing to others that was done to them.

This, coming from someone who (ironically) is upset that the ugly, unpopular high school girls have grown up and invaded her clique. This just keeps circling and circling.

You do realize, OP, that you are doing to these women the very thing you're complaining about - and saying it's ironic that they are doing it to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. My main point is the irony of the outcasts now trying to cast out others. They're trying to do the exact same thing to others that was done to them.

You have no way of knowing they were once outcasts since you didn't know them before. They might have been cliquey biotches since preschool.

And there's a very real chance that you are simply projecting. These women might be nice, and you might be some sort of insecure whackadoodle who assigns malicious intent without just cause. Based on your original post, that's my guess.

My two cents as a mid-40s working mom in the suburbs of dcumlandia: the bitchy moms are the insecure moms. These are typically SAHMs or moms who work very PT, have too much free time on their hands so they constantly chat/text/gossip, and are strangely hyper competitive about everything. As a working mom with a demanding career and limited free time, I have zero interest in worrying about what other moms are saying/doing. I couldn't care less about the little kid sports drama. I have no interest in the fat and sugar content of what was served at the last birthday party or school event. I'm genuinely sad when I hear about the latest marriage imploding, and I don't care to speculate or pass judgment. I don't keep track of play dates or social media...and I think any adult who has determined which kids are "popular" or which moms are the "it" moms probably has a rather empty life (and that's sad).

Honestly, I struggle to remember the names of the moms from school...even the moms of my kids' friends. The kids are friends, but those moms are really just acquaintances. I already have friends from childhood, college/grad school, and work...I'm not really pressed to make new mommy friends in some misguided and bizarre attempt to make my kids popular. I mean, that just sounds like something an unhinged person would do.

Ha. Nice to lay this crap at the feet of SAHMs. Your post has a certain bitchiness threaded throughout it. Reread your own words dear. You truly don't think what you wrote isn't the least bit bitchy?

[Anonymous]

How old are you OP? 13? Just come from seeing Mean Girls or something?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP. The strong reaction from the b&v(boots and vest) crowd show she has hit a nerve.

Hi there OP. And the negative reaction is from the mature, sane people on this board.

Well looks like you failed again...not the OP! You must be one of the dumb and not too pretty b&v crowd. Most be tough for you. Maybe you should start a blog documenting your struggles.

Ok OP......whatever you say ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happens a lot in my neighborhood. I see a lot of moms at my daughter's school, who by looks alone, were probably not anyone's first pick when it came to dates, proms, whatever when they were probably younger, ie. high school. However, I guess in college, they luck up and hook up with some nerdy guy who has decent money (because the cool jocks and/or guys with personalities were never interested), they get a little blow out, the right make up, some riding boots and a quilted vest, and now you can't tell them anything. Have also noticed for these ladies, making their own daughters popular is very important to them and in an effort to live vicariously through their daughters, they sometimes exhibit the same mean girl behavior to other moms that they were probably subjected to, all in an effort to ensure their daughters are at the top of the pecking order.

In high school, I was that unicorn who was both beautiful and smart in high school and college so I was lucky enough to be cool with the nerds and still date in high school, college and beyond. But I can spot these chicks a mile a way - still average in every way and but desperately trying to fit in.

I can't tell if you are real or a troll. If you are real, I sense you have jealousy and insecurity issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP? 13? Just come from seeing Mean Girls or something?

DP. I don’t think it’s bitchy at all. Maybe brutally honest but I also have the same impression as this poster. No one is saying ALL of them are like this but the ones who are happen to be the moms who don’t work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP? 13? Just come from seeing Mean Girls or something?

DP. I don’t think it’s bitchy at all. Maybe brutally honest but I also have the same impression as this poster. No one is saying ALL of them are like this but the ones who are happen to be the moms who don’t work.

Well, I can say that I have seen some queen bee bitchy behavior and it is definitely more a personality type of thing than a work status thing.

The same type of woman who used a checklist to figure out which man they wanted to marry (and all the conniving that comes along with that approach) are the same types who engage in the bitchy queen bee stuff.

[Anonymous]

Trying to keep a running tally of disparaged groups on this thread. So far the following have been targeted and maligned:

Plain, rich women
Cool girls
Anyone who wears a quilted vest and riding boot combo
SAHMs and PT working women with “too much time on their hands”
Mothers of girls
The women of Arlington
Women who make lists of potential husbands
“Housewives” (wtf?)
Women in general
Peacocks (apparently Pope Francis has a mean girl streak)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trying to keep a running tally of disparaged groups on this thread. So far the following have been targeted and maligned:

Plain, rich women
Cool girls
Anyone who wears a quilted vest and riding boot combo
SAHMs and PT working women with “too much time on their hands”
Mothers of girls
The women of Arlington
Women who make lists of potential husbands
“Housewives” (wtf?)
Women in general
Peacocks (apparently Pope Francis has a mean girl streak)

Unicorns! don't forget unicorns. I love unicorns but now associate them with women who used to be cool, pretty, AND smart in highschool....oh, and who played volleyball in college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Trying to keep a running tally of disparaged groups on this thread. So far the following have been targeted and maligned:

Plain, rich women
Cool girls
Anyone who wears a quilted vest and riding boot combo
SAHMs and PT working women with “too much time on their hands”
Mothers of girls
The women of Arlington
Women who make lists of potential husbands
“Housewives” (wtf?)
Women in general
Peacocks (apparently Pope Francis has a mean girl streak)

And also don't forget "the b&v crowd" (lol that this just became a thing!)


Unicorns! don't forget unicorns. I love unicorns but now associate them with women who used to be cool, pretty, AND smart in highschool....oh, and who played volleyball in college.

[Anonymous]

I mean this with all sincerity, you need help. This is a sad cry for help. Get thee to a therapist before you mess up your children.

[Anonymous]

The checklist crowd is what it is. Social engineering is their thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP? 13? Just come from seeing Mean Girls or something?

DP. I don’t think it’s bitchy at all. Maybe brutally honest but I also have the same impression as this poster. No one is saying ALL of them are like this but the ones who are happen to be the moms who don’t work.

No adult comfortable with themselves and who they are even thinks like this let alone takes the time to write it out on a message board.