When the Average Looking Girl In High School Gets to be in the "Cool" Crowd

[Anonymous]

OP, this may blow your mind. But, I was average at best in high school. Bad hair. No fashion sense whatsoever. Overweight. Yet I had a million friends and was in the "cool" crowd. Same for college. Kindness, inclusion, and a good sense of humor went a long way.

I'll add that when I first moved to town a couple of the cheerleader types wrongly assumed that I'd be some outcast nerd and they were mean to me. I'm not kidding, in tenth grade one approached me and said out of the blue "I'm sorry I called you a monkey in eighth grade." The rest of the cheerleaders were perfectly friendly, FWIW. The ones who were not kind sort of fizzled out.

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Anonymous wrote:You have described 90 percent of the women in n Arlington. Very rare to find an actually attractive woman. Not sure about the quilted vests, though. Haven’t seen one of those in over a year. The riding boots die hard, though.

Yep.

The cool moms of Arlington are wearing skinny jeans or “Moto” leggings with their booties and off the shoulder slouchy shirt as far as I can tell.

hmmm...most I see are in active wear.

Booties like Uggs?

No - like this blogger’s look
http://themotherchic.com

[Anonymous]

Ewwwww, she's awful!

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I was also a (smart!) high school cheerleader, and it’s something I literally never think or talk about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, this may blow your mind. But, I was average at best in high school. Bad hair. No fashion sense whatsoever. Overweight. Yet I had a million friends and was in the "cool" crowd. Same for college. Kindness, inclusion, and a good sense of humor went a long way.

I'll add that when I first moved to town a couple of the cheerleader types wrongly assumed that I'd be some outcast nerd and they were mean to me. I'm not kidding, in tenth grade one approached me and said out of the blue "I'm sorry I called you a monkey in eighth grade." The rest of the cheerleaders were perfectly friendly, FWIW. The ones who were not kind sort of fizzled out.

You are probably outgoing and confident. I was attractive in high school but incredibly shy so was definitely not in the cool crowd!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, this may blow your mind. But, I was average at best in high school. Bad hair. No fashion sense whatsoever. Overweight. Yet I had a million friends and was in the "cool" crowd. Same for college. Kindness, inclusion, and a good sense of humor went a long way.

I'll add that when I first moved to town a couple of the cheerleader types wrongly assumed that I'd be some outcast nerd and they were mean to me. I'm not kidding, in tenth grade one approached me and said out of the blue "I'm sorry I called you a monkey in eighth grade." The rest of the cheerleaders were perfectly friendly, FWIW. The ones who were not kind sort of fizzled out.

Well that’s not the way I remember it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, have you ever been evaluated and diagnosed by a professional?

Yes, I have. The Court of Appeals evaluated my application for bar membership and diagnosed me as a lawyer.

Nobody cares. You're still a shitty fucking worthless person.

Objection, your honour, badgering the witness.

ooooo is that cashmere?

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Anonymous wrote:You're probably not the beautiful unicorn you think you are!

I am, trust me, which is why I can make this observation from my perch. I was a cheerleader for 3 years in high school, played on a rec volleyball team in college so am not only pretty but in shape. Today, my husband and I own our home outright (so no penny pinching to try to pay our mortgage every month); we vacation at least three times a year and I am just as, if not more beautiful than I was when I was in high school and this is according to people who have known me for years. But think what you want!

lol

What, are we supposed to think 3 vacations a year makes you special? Girl, please. What would you say if I said we take FIVE vacations a year (typically three international, two domestic) AND we have a paid off house? I suppose I'm going to really blow your mind when I say we will inherit a beach house nearby too.

This is so sad and pathetic I don't even know what to say.

Yikes, nothing makes me more envious than someone waiting for a loved one to die! I call family members like your living decedent "living dead", because that's all they are to people like you.

[Anonymous]

The detail about being on a college recreational volleyball team made me laugh the hardest. I bet she puts that on her CV.

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Alright so let’s accept OP’s premise that she is, in all ways, superior to most women and has earned the right to condemn other women into eternal loserdom. OP, what prize do you win for that?

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Since when did “average and trying to fit in” become something terrible? I thought that was, by definition, about 50% of people.

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OP, thanks for cracking me up! In all seriousness, you must be under 25, right?

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Anonymous wrote:Alright so let’s accept OP’s premise that she is, in all ways, superior to most women and has earned the right to condemn other women into eternal loserdom. OP, what prize do you win for that?

She gets to exclude the non-unicorns. But they don't notice.

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Anonymous wrote:This happens a lot in my neighborhood. I see a lot of moms at my daughter's school, who by looks alone, were probably not anyone's first pick when it came to dates, proms, whatever when they were probably younger, ie. high school. However, I guess in college, they luck up and hook up with some nerdy guy who has decent money (because the cool jocks and/or guys with personalities were never interested), they get a little blow out, the right make up, some riding boots and a quilted vest, and now you can't tell them anything. Have also noticed for these ladies, making their own daughters popular is very important to them and in an effort to live vicariously through their daughters, they sometimes exhibit the same mean girl behavior to other moms that they were probably subjected to, all in an effort to ensure their daughters are at the top of the pecking order.

In high school, I was that unicorn who was both beautiful and smart in high school and college so I was lucky enough to be cool with the nerds and still date in high school, college and beyond. But I can spot these chicks a mile a way - still average in every way and but desperately trying to fit in.

I love you OP. You are exactly right. But I think you hit a real sore spot with DCUM- you hit a nerve.

And the thing is- those of us who were popular or cool in HS- we will always be able to tell, we will always know your history, WE KNOW.

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Anonymous wrote:This happens a lot in my neighborhood. I see a lot of moms at my daughter's school, who by looks alone, were probably not anyone's first pick when it came to dates, proms, whatever when they were probably younger, ie. high school. However, I guess in college, they luck up and hook up with some nerdy guy who has decent money (because the cool jocks and/or guys with personalities were never interested), they get a little blow out, the right make up, some riding boots and a quilted vest, and now you can't tell them anything. Have also noticed for these ladies, making their own daughters popular is very important to them and in an effort to live vicariously through their daughters, they sometimes exhibit the same mean girl behavior to other moms that they were probably subjected to, all in an effort to ensure their daughters are at the top of the pecking order.

In high school, I was that unicorn who was both beautiful and smart in high school and college so I was lucky enough to be cool with the nerds and still date in high school, college and beyond. But I can spot these chicks a mile a way - still average in every way and but desperately trying to fit in.

So what happened?

I'm guessing that OPs daughter is more burro than unicorn, so OPs dreams of reliving her glory days through her kid have been crushed. Sorry you peaked in high school, OP.