When the Average Looking Girl In High School Gets to be in the "Cool" Crowd

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in SoCal and can't remember seeing anyone wearing riding boots or quilted vests, so I just looked them up and they don't even seem to be expensive. Am I missing something??

Right? What is this, 2014?

[Anonymous]

Are you for real?

Oh wait, that's right you're not, you're a unicorn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happens a lot in my neighborhood. I see a lot of moms at my daughter's school, who by looks alone, were probably not anyone's first pick when it came to dates, proms, whatever when they were probably younger, ie. high school. However, I guess in college, they luck up and hook up with some nerdy guy who has decent money (because the cool jocks and/or guys with personalities were never interested), they get a little blow out, the right make up, some riding boots and a quilted vest, and now you can't tell them anything. Have also noticed for these ladies, making their own daughters popular is very important to them and in an effort to live vicariously through their daughters, they sometimes exhibit the same mean girl behavior to other moms that they were probably subjected to, all in an effort to ensure their daughters are at the top of the pecking order.

In high school, I was that unicorn who was both beautiful and smart in high school and college so I was lucky enough to be cool with the nerds and still date in high school, college and beyond. But I can spot these chicks a mile a way - still average in every way and but desperately trying to fit in.

So what happened?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happens a lot in my neighborhood. I see a lot of moms at my daughter's school, who by looks alone, were probably not anyone's first pick when it came to dates, proms, whatever when they were probably younger, ie. high school. However, I guess in college, they luck up and hook up with some nerdy guy who has decent money (because the cool jocks and/or guys with personalities were never interested), they get a little blow out, the right make up, some riding boots and a quilted vest, and now you can't tell them anything. Have also noticed for these ladies, making their own daughters popular is very important to them and in an effort to live vicariously through their daughters, they sometimes exhibit the same mean girl behavior to other moms that they were probably subjected to, all in an effort to ensure their daughters are at the top of the pecking order.

In high school, I was that unicorn who was both beautiful and smart in high school and college so I was lucky enough to be cool with the nerds and still date in high school, college and beyond. But I can spot these chicks a mile a way - still average in every way and but desperately trying to fit in.

I take issue with the assumption that that nerdy guys don't have personality.

[Anonymous]

OP sounds like a complete and utter loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happens a lot in my neighborhood. I see a lot of moms at my daughter's school, who by looks alone, were probably not anyone's first pick when it came to dates, proms, whatever when they were probably younger, ie. high school. However, I guess in college, they luck up and hook up with some nerdy guy who has decent money (because the cool jocks and/or guys with personalities were never interested), they get a little blow out, the right make up, some riding boots and a quilted vest, and now you can't tell them anything. Have also noticed for these ladies, making their own daughters popular is very important to them and in an effort to live vicariously through their daughters, they sometimes exhibit the same mean girl behavior to other moms that they were probably subjected to, all in an effort to ensure their daughters are at the top of the pecking order.

In high school, I was that unicorn who was both beautiful and smart in high school and college so I was lucky enough to be cool with the nerds and still date in high school, college and beyond. But I can spot these chicks a mile a way - still average in every way and but desperately trying to fit in.

I think you have a personality issue. Get your head check.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you for real?

Oh wait, that's right you're not, you're a unicorn.

+1

THIS. Grow up, OP. You are the one stuck in high school. No wonder everyone avoids you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happens a lot in my neighborhood. I see a lot of moms at my daughter's school, who by looks alone, were probably not anyone's first pick when it came to dates, proms, whatever when they were probably younger, ie. high school. However, I guess in college, they luck up and hook up with some nerdy guy who has decent money (because the cool jocks and/or guys with personalities were never interested), they get a little blow out, the right make up, some riding boots and a quilted vest, and now you can't tell them anything. Have also noticed for these ladies, making their own daughters popular is very important to them and in an effort to live vicariously through their daughters, they sometimes exhibit the same mean girl behavior to other moms that they were probably subjected to, all in an effort to ensure their daughters are at the top of the pecking order.

In high school, I was that unicorn who was both beautiful and smart in high school and college so I was lucky enough to be cool with the nerds and still date in high school, college and beyond. But I can spot these chicks a mile a way - still average in every way and but desperately trying to fit in.

Tell us more. You seem to have thought about this more than anyone. Ever. LOL.

Why so angry? Your plan didn't go so well, huh, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. My main point is the irony of the outcasts now trying to cast out others. They're trying to do the exact same thing to others that was done to them.

You have no way of knowing they were once outcasts since you didn't know them before. They might have been cliquey biotches since preschool.

And there's a very real chance that you are simply projecting. These women might be nice, and you might be some sort of insecure whackadoodle who assigns malicious intent without just cause. Based on your original post, that's my guess.

My two cents as a mid-40s working mom in the suburbs of dcumlandia: the bitchy moms are the insecure moms. These are typically SAHMs or moms who work very PT, have too much free time on their hands so they constantly chat/text/gossip, and are strangely hyper competitive about everything. As a working mom with a demanding career and limited free time, I have zero interest in worrying about what other moms are saying/doing. I couldn't care less about the little kid sports drama. I have no interest in the fat and sugar content of what was served at the last birthday party or school event. I'm genuinely sad when I hear about the latest marriage imploding, and I don't care to speculate or pass judgment. I don't keep track of play dates or social media...and I think any adult who has determined which kids are "popular" or which moms are the "it" moms probably has a rather empty life (and that's sad).

Honestly, I struggle to remember the names of the moms from school...even the moms of my kids' friends. The kids are friends, but those moms are really just acquaintances. I already have friends from childhood, college/grad school, and work...I'm not really pressed to make new mommy friends in some misguided and bizarre attempt to make my kids popular. I mean, that just sounds like something an unhinged person would do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. My main point is the irony of the outcasts now trying to cast out others. They're trying to do the exact same thing to others that was done to them.

You have no way of knowing they were once outcasts since you didn't know them before. They might have been cliquey biotches since preschool.

And there's a very real chance that you are simply projecting. These women might be nice, and you might be some sort of insecure whackadoodle who assigns malicious intent without just cause. Based on your original post, that's my guess.

My two cents as a mid-40s working mom in the suburbs of dcumlandia: the bitchy moms are the insecure moms. These are typically SAHMs or moms who work very PT, have too much free time on their hands so they constantly chat/text/gossip, and are strangely hyper competitive about everything. As a working mom with a demanding career and limited free time, I have zero interest in worrying about what other moms are saying/doing. I couldn't care less about the little kid sports drama. I have no interest in the fat and sugar content of what was served at the last birthday party or school event. I'm genuinely sad when I hear about the latest marriage imploding, and I don't care to speculate or pass judgment. I don't keep track of play dates or social media...and I think any adult who has determined which kids are "popular" or which moms are the "it" moms probably has a rather empty life (and that's sad).

Honestly, I struggle to remember the names of the moms from school...even the moms of my kids' friends. The kids are friends, but those moms are really just acquaintances. I already have friends from childhood, college/grad school, and work...I'm not really pressed to make new mommy friends in some misguided and bizarre attempt to make my kids popular. I mean, that just sounds like something an unhinged person would do.

+1

Well said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. My main point is the irony of the outcasts now trying to cast out others. They're trying to do the exact same thing to others that was done to them.

You’ve got an insanely over-inflated opinion of your intellect because everything you’ve written reflects the intellect of a twelve year old.......and frankly, that probably isn’t being fair to twelve year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. My main point is the irony of the outcasts now trying to cast out others. They're trying to do the exact same thing to others that was done to them.

You have no way of knowing they were once outcasts since you didn't know them before. They might have been cliquey biotches since preschool.

And there's a very real chance that you are simply projecting. These women might be nice, and you might be some sort of insecure whackadoodle who assigns malicious intent without just cause. Based on your original post, that's my guess.

My two cents as a mid-40s working mom in the suburbs of dcumlandia: the bitchy moms are the insecure moms. These are typically SAHMs or moms who work very PT, have too much free time on their hands so they constantly chat/text/gossip, and are strangely hyper competitive about everything. As a working mom with a demanding career and limited free time, I have zero interest in worrying about what other moms are saying/doing. I couldn't care less about the little kid sports drama. I have no interest in the fat and sugar content of what was served at the last birthday party or school event. I'm genuinely sad when I hear about the latest marriage imploding, and I don't care to speculate or pass judgment. I don't keep track of play dates or social media...and I think any adult who has determined which kids are "popular" or which moms are the "it" moms probably has a rather empty life (and that's sad).

Honestly, I struggle to remember the names of the moms from school...even the moms of my kids' friends. The kids are friends, but those moms are really just acquaintances. I already have friends from childhood, college/grad school, and work...I'm not really pressed to make new mommy friends in some misguided and bizarre attempt to make my kids popular. I mean, that just sounds like something an unhinged person would do.

+1

Well said.

Well, except for the SAHM dig. In my circles the drama is equal opportunity. And easily ignored.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This happens a lot in my neighborhood. I see a lot of moms at my daughter's school, who by looks alone, were probably not anyone's first pick when it came to dates, proms, whatever when they were probably younger, ie. high school. However, I guess in college, they luck up and hook up with some nerdy guy who has decent money (because the cool jocks and/or guys with personalities were never interested), they get a little blow out, the right make up, some riding boots and a quilted vest, and now you can't tell them anything. Have also noticed for these ladies, making their own daughters popular is very important to them and in an effort to live vicariously through their daughters, they sometimes exhibit the same mean girl behavior to other moms that they were probably subjected to, all in an effort to ensure their daughters are at the top of the pecking order.

In high school, I was that unicorn who was both beautiful and smart in high school and college so I was lucky enough to be cool with the nerds and still date in high school, college and beyond. But I can spot these chicks a mile a way - still average in every way and but desperately trying to fit in.

So what happened?

I'm still smart, hun. Just like to call it like it is even if it is not necessarily always politically correct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're probably not the beautiful unicorn you think you are!

I am, trust me, which is why I can make this observation from my perch. I was a cheerleader for 3 years in high school, played on a rec volleyball team in college so am not only pretty but in shape. Today, my husband and I own our home outright (so no penny pinching to try to pay our mortgage every month); we vacation at least three times a year and I am just as, if not more beautiful than I was when I was in high school and this is according to people who have known me for years. But think what you want!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're probably not the beautiful unicorn you think you are!

I am, trust me, which is why I can make this observation from my perch. I was a cheerleader for 3 years in high school, played on a rec volleyball team in college so am not only pretty but in shape. Today, my husband and I own our home outright (so no penny pinching to try to pay our mortgage every month); we vacation at least three times a year and I am just as, if not more beautiful than I was when I was in high school and this is according to people who have known me for years. But think what you want!

OMFG