Screaming children at my apartment pool

[Anonymous]

I know it can’t possibly be true of ALL the kids but some kids have special needs that make them get frustrated easily, and also make it hard for them to understand the concept of consequences. My son is one such kid. He screams and cries an astonishing amount. I wouldn’t let him just scream and scream at the pool of course. But often the pool is something he enjoys so I do want to take him. Unfortunately I cannot always predict how it will play out. I’m also perpetually navigating the issue of everyone advising me to “ignore the tantrum” and weighing that against rewarding the tantrum (eg-if he starts screaming because he wants to leave before anyone else in the family is ready to leave, and then I jump up and we leave, it’s rewarding the tantrum).

Again, impossible that all the kids in the pool have special needs but keep in mind that at least some of them might. It’s not fair to expect that they’ll be hidden away and not participate in life ever.

[Anonymous]

I would bring my speaker and play some really inappropriate songs. Not blaring but loud enough

[Anonymous]

Damn those kids having fun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Until you are 55+, you probably won't be able to guarantee no little kids in any apartment building you rent. Even if no kids live there at the time you sign the lease, new people with kids could move in and existing tenants could give birth, adopt, foster, etc.

Yeah, fair point. Although what really bothered me is that the mom of the screamer was yakking on the phone for an hour while her child shrieked and annoyed everyone else.

Yup. Same moms at the beach are day drinking, 9 AM.

The grandparents are back at the house, in peace, in bed early, and screaming at anyone who DARE have fun after 7 PM!!! GTFOH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would bring my speaker and play some really inappropriate songs. Not blaring but loud enough

Brilliant! Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would bring my speaker and play some really inappropriate songs. Not blaring but loud enough

Brilliant! Thank you!

Prince - who else? Some good rap?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know it can’t possibly be true of ALL the kids but some kids have special needs that make them get frustrated easily, and also make it hard for them to understand the concept of consequences. My son is one such kid. He screams and cries an astonishing amount. I wouldn’t let him just scream and scream at the pool of course. But often the pool is something he enjoys so I do want to take him. Unfortunately I cannot always predict how it will play out. I’m also perpetually navigating the issue of everyone advising me to “ignore the tantrum” and weighing that against rewarding the tantrum (eg-if he starts screaming because he wants to leave before anyone else in the family is ready to leave, and then I jump up and we leave, it’s rewarding the tantrum).

Again, impossible that all the kids in the pool have special needs but keep in mind that at least some of them might. It’s not fair to expect that they’ll be hidden away and not participate in life ever.

Not all of them do. Some kids are what we used to call "hyper" - ie: their parents are too lazy to engage them or take them places, so they let them annoy everyone else. I have seen kids scream for 8 hours straight - not because they were special needs, but because their parents were selfish and let them. They simply want everyone else to feel their pain, and they "dare" anyone to say anything. So gross. Troublemaker kids have troublemaker parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two children, OP, and cannot stand the screamers. Parents who let their kids do it are inconsiderate and self-centered, raising kids who will be the same. Children can have plenty of fun without shrieking to the point it disturbs others around them. Unfortunately, I don't think there's much you can do besides shoot the evil eye to the kids.

+1 The people complaining here have the shriekers

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These children are outside. Yelling/shrieking is allowed outside.

False. Raised voices from happy play are allowed. Screaming and shrieking should only be allowed in case of emergency. Parent your children, please.

+1

Lazy, lazy, lazy - imagine what else they drop the ball on? They inflict these people on the rest of society.

[Anonymous]

LOL. Renting at a complex with a pool and complaining there are kids there. Are you 25? Because the last time I rented at that type of place, I was not well-established. If you think you’re so above it all, you might want to get serious and get a condo or a real home.

[Anonymous]

OP rents at Crystal House and then is baffled that it’s a zoo. You’re with your kind, OP. It’s all good. They’re called *outdoor voices* for a reason, and this pool is outdoors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am going to resurrect again, because it needs to be repeated. Allowing your children to scream at the top of their lungs in an apartment/condo pool area, particularly when surrounded by people’s units, is extremely inconsiderate. If you’re by the pool and the children annoy you, frankly, you can just leave. However, when the screaming is so excessive that it penetrates closed windows, that is not acceptable. People are entitled to enjoy peace within their homes…a concept far more sacred than “they’re just kids”. To the people that think they can bring their kids to the pool at 9:30pm on a Sunday night and let them run wild because quiet hours don’t technically start until 10pm, there is a special place in Hades awaiting your kind. If the standard for self-governance is strictly what you’re legally allowed to do, then I guess disturbed households are also allowed to do what they want, within all legal boundaries. So either go ahead and test our creativity, or maybe just do the right thing and teach your children that screaming disrupts neighbors.

+1

I think some screaming is expected but continued screaming and yelling in a close in area like apartments and condo buildings it doesn't work and yes people have to be mindful of their neighbors. It's one of the drawbacks of living in such housing. It can also distract the life guard and make it difficult to determine who is screaming for fun vs. who might be screaming out of fear or need help.

[Anonymous]

I live in a SFH in a nice part of the Bay Area and my neighbors, also SFH let their little children scream in the pool from sun up to sundown every day. I grew up with a pool and the constant yelling would not have flown. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Here’s a thought: directly address the parents at the pool, or the lifeguards. Wowie Zowie!

[Anonymous]

Because parenting is a thing of the past. Kids raise themselves like wild animals because they are. I'm tempted to deploy an ultrasonic LRAD device. That would shorten their day.