How I, a transwoman, use the bathroom

[Anonymous]

As a women using the bathroom, I'm too busy to try and figure out the gender of everyone in the room with me. Because I have to pee...

Women can be scary-agressive in the bathroom too....so I'm not sure how gender makes a difference....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Yes, but by forcing yourself in the women's restrooms you are saying your rights are more important. Because you will feel safe but we will not.


Speak for yourself.

I was speaking for myself. Please "forgive" me for using the word, "we" I was not speaking for you but for others who agreed with me. You know there are people in the world who disagree about this situatio?. It is very easy to say whatever you want to do is fine when you are on the internet and it is not happening in real life. In real life if the Op presented as a woman I wouldn't say a thing. But, I do object to men who still look like men in the women's room.

[Anonymous]

And I would actually really like a large, unisex bathroom. Numerous stalls with floor to ceiling doors, large stalls completely ADA accessible, stalls with urinals because urinals save lots of water, and communal sinks.

This is the next agenda..unisex bathrooms for all. I told ya! The next thing will be women's locker rooms and sports teams. Will biologically made women be allowed to play on women's teams?

[Anonymous]

Women can be scary-agressive in the bathroom too....so I'm not sure how gender makes a difference....

Wow really pp you have been attacked by a woman in the bathroom? I've never,ever been attacked by a women in the bathroom. Usually, it is quite friendly because we chat while we wait in line! Where do you go to the bathroom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Yes, but by forcing yourself in the women's restrooms you are saying your rights are more important. Because you will feel safe but we will not.


Speak for yourself.

I was speaking for myself. Please "forgive" me for using the word, "we" I was not speaking for you but for others who agreed with me. You know there are people in the world who disagree about this situatio?. It is very easy to say whatever you want to do is fine when you are on the internet and it is not happening in real life. In real life if the Op presented as a woman I wouldn't say a thing. But, I do object to men who still look like men in the women's room.

Seems to me that you'd be against this whole stupid law, then, right? Because according to the law, men who look very much like men will traipsing through the women's room in order to comply.

[Anonymous]

All Ladies rooms have stalls and if you dress like a woman how does anyone know you aren't a woman unless you pull up your dress or unzip your slacks, pull out your urinating equipment and try to use the sink as a urinal.

[Anonymous]

How about if they just double the number of stalls in the women's bathrooms and make us all happier?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All Ladies rooms have stalls and if you dress like a woman how does anyone know you aren't a woman unless you pull up your dress or unzip your slacks, pull out your urinating equipment and try to use the sink as a urinal.

My thoughts exactly. How do we police this anyway? I've seen plenty of very butch women who could pass as men and men who look like women. Do we need genital police at every restroom entrance. Some will argue that the difference is that if we change the law - creeps who get off dressing as women to sneak into ladies room will now be able to use the excuse of "gender identity " and not get in trouble. But really - those creeps are probably already out there doing that. Unfortunately we can't cover all bases.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Yes, but by forcing yourself in the women's restrooms you are saying your rights are more important. Because you will feel safe but we will not.


Speak for yourself.

I was speaking for myself. Please "forgive" me for using the word, "we" I was not speaking for you but for others who agreed with me. You know there are people in the world who disagree about this situatio?. It is very easy to say whatever you want to do is fine when you are on the internet and it is not happening in real life. In real life if the Op presented as a woman I wouldn't say a thing. But, I do object to men who still look like men in the women's room.

Seems to me that you'd be against this whole stupid law, then, right? Because according to the law, men who look very much like men will traipsing through the women's room in order to comply.

Np here. Thank you

[Anonymous]

My 14 year old son is slim and has long hair. He has been confused as a woman/girl on several occasions.

[Anonymous]

Gaia wrote:Good morning DCUM.

I am a woman who was born with a penis and raised as male. I am on HRT (hormone replacement therapy), present, and live as a woman. I do everyday activities like go to work and go grocery shopping. I encounter stares and whispers everywhere I go.

Sometimes I have to pee. I try to plan ahead by going before I leave in my safe home, but sometimes I have to venture into a public bathroom. My first response at needing to go is to always try and hold it; I actually get really frequent UTIs because of this. I am terrified every single time I have to go in public. I try to find a family/single bathroom, but a lot of places don't have them.

So I'll put my head down, hunch my shoulders and draw into myself as I open the door to the woman's bathroom. If there's a line, I close the door and find another one. If it's an emergency, I try and brave the line. When one becomes available, I make a beeline for the closest stall, do my business (while sitting down), and wait until I think the room is empty. It's only then that I venture out to wash my hands and leave.

I used to use the men's restroom early in my transition. I got punched, verbally abused, and had a very large and intimidating man threaten to rape me. I am in fear for my life. I am in fear that some man will say or do something that will ruin my day, my week, my life.

You have rights to feel safe when you go to the bathroom. Why do I not have those rights either?

Please be respectful of my experiences and my life as you respond. Thank you.

Sorry, but you are way overthinking this. Go into a woman's bathroom and use it. Stand at the toilet or sit down whichever is your preference or condition given your transition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All Ladies rooms have stalls and if you dress like a woman how does anyone know you aren't a woman unless you pull up your dress or unzip your slacks, pull out your urinating equipment and try to use the sink as a urinal.

I've never seen a woman with an Adam's apple.

[Anonymous]

You go right ahead, OP. And I will defend your right to use the restroom if I am there.

Signed,
Unassuming DCUM poster who usually minds her own business

[Anonymous]

Seriously, I don't care where you want to relieve yourself or how you came to be whatever you are today. I do care about my rights, I only wish you did too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All Ladies rooms have stalls and if you dress like a woman how does anyone know you aren't a woman unless you pull up your dress or unzip your slacks, pull out your urinating equipment and try to use the sink as a urinal.

I've never seen a woman with an Adam's apple.

There is something SCARVES and they have been around forever. But one and put it around your neck.