What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he stopped smoking cigars I would have sex with him much more frequently (at least 4X our current frequency).

Heh...I wonder if you are my wife? Do you turn your husband down even when he does not smoke cigars? How often does he smoke them?

[Anonymous]

Your belly fat is disgusting and a turn off, I can barely get through sex with you because I am disgusted. I fantasize about not being married to you.

[Anonymous]

That I'm really depressed and I don't know what to do. I thought losing the weight would help. I lost the weight and I'm still depressed. OK, I'm 35 pounds lighter and I'm healthier. DH is thrilled and I'm going to lose another 10 pounds anyway, but it didn't solve anything for me.

[Anonymous]

your saggy boobs are not attractive,

trying to keep up with your friends and the way they dress is annoying,

your gym efforts are not working because you walk on a treadmill texting the entire time.

I am sure all your friends know you get botox.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That you are a really nice guy, a wonderful friend, partner, and father but that I am madly in love with another man. If it weren't for our children I would end the marriage.

+1000

[Anonymous]

If you are taking Viagra secretly STOP!!!!! Sure, I could go a third time in row, but I get really sore and fear UTIs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That you are a really nice guy, a wonderful friend, partner, and father but that I am madly in love with another man. If it weren't for our children I would end the marriage.

Do him a favor and leave. A guy like that deserves someone better.

She deserves to be happy with the other man. Let her DH find someone who is madly in love with him.

What do you figure she did to deserve to be happy with the other man?

Doesn't everyone deserve to be happy? And she never said she did anything.

"Doesn't everyone deserve to be happy?" How 70s of you. What were their marriage vows again? Remembering that he is a really nice guy, a wonderful friend, partner, and father ...

[Anonymous]

That you are so SELFISH it is insane. I can't stand it. Your mother is a terrible, ridiculous person who spends money they do not have on plastic surgery and chanel bags and I wonder if she is all there mentally.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I still have an eating disorder.

Been there. I finally recovered after many hidden years. Hugs.

+1

Topamax stopped my binge eating for good. Therapy alone didn't cut it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are taking Viagra secretly STOP!!!!! Sure, I could go a third time in row, but I get really sore and fear UTIs.

LOL! Guy here who takes it. If he's much bigger and harder than usual then he's probably on it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you are taking Viagra secretly STOP!!!!! Sure, I could go a third time in row, but I get really sore and fear UTIs.

LOL! Guy here who takes it. If he's much bigger and harder than usual then he's probably on it.

Never considered taking it before (ED not an issue for me) but now you've got me thinking...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you are taking Viagra secretly STOP!!!!! Sure, I could go a third time in row, but I get really sore and fear UTIs.

LOL! Guy here who takes it. If he's much bigger and harder than usual then he's probably on it.

Not bigger or harder, just having a suspiciously short refractory period. He's almost 49. It's like he's suddenly three decades younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We fuck regularly, but there are at least three people in the bed because in order for me to cum I usually need to fantasize about somebody else ....

Because you are not physically attracted?
Or because you don't like her emotionally?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If he stopped smoking cigars I would have sex with him much more frequently (at least 4X our current frequency).

Heh...I wonder if you are my wife? Do you turn your husband down even when he does not smoke cigars? How often does he smoke them?

No, I'm not your wife. I never turn DH down but I will not initiate if he has smoked (hate the smell) and he smokes them several times a week which means I almost never initiate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to tell DH that I lost respect for him. He makes excuses for everything he never gets done when the truth is he is just lazy. That I don't even want to have sex with him anymore because even that seems like it's too much of an effort for him. He's out of shape and huffs and puffs about anything even remotely physical and I can't count on him to take care of even one administrative thing for the kids (for example, calling the school to confirm X, making a Dr.s appointment for Y, signing kids up for various activities) it's always "I didn't get around to it" yet he doesn't do anything else.

That I am only staying with him because of the kids and he's a generally nice guy and we get along - it's just I have to do everything.

+100

DO you think he could be depressed?

In my H's case, nope. Just plain lazy.

I'M the original pp and he's already on a/d mds. in fact, he's on a bunch of meds and always blames those when I attempt to bring up the issue of not doing anything. For me, a big par of it is that he relies on me to manage everything, then resents me for managing everything. He "forgets" to do the admin stuff. when I remind him, he says he didn't get around to it, or I left a message (thn I hear him calling and leaving the message) and then gets frustrated that I'm micro-managing. (sigh) I just lost so much respect for him. That's the sad part. He lies around all day, comes up with excuses for why stuff didn't get done, then lashes back when I "micro-manage"

It's just become easier to not even bother telling him all this because it wouldn't change anything and just lead to resentment.