Women: when did men stop noticing you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Almost 33 and I get noticed when I am without the child. It is still only a fraction of attention I got prior to pregnancy (at 30).

I get noticed most when I'm with my children. Men make comments or are solicitous in a way that confused me. I mean, I would think the children would make me appear entirely off-limits. But, no.

A male friend suggested that it's the beauty of motherhood that men find attractive. Ha! Uh, okay. Weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They stopped noticing when you stopped trying.

I can barely step out for a happy hour without some young buck offering to buy me a drink.

-Attractive, successful DC female executive in her mid 40s

Similar. In mid-50s.

I haven't stopped trying in the sense that I take care of myself.

[Anonymous]

When I got gray hair.

[Anonymous]

38 and it hasn't stopped. I was talking to a guy at thr DMB concert and the guy managed to hunt me down a week later via Linked In to ask me out despite the fact I'm obviously married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Almost 33 and I get noticed when I am without the child. It is still only a fraction of attention I got prior to pregnancy (at 30).

I get noticed most when I'm with my children. Men make comments or are solicitous in a way that confused me. I mean, I would think the children would make me appear entirely off-limits. But, no.

A male friend suggested that it's the beauty of motherhood that men find attractive. Ha! Uh, okay. Weird.

Not really.

Many guys cast a wide net and have some success with a few stray cats. It's a numbers game.

[Anonymous]

I am in my 60s and men still notice me. But I have to remember they think I am a cute granny.

[Anonymous]

I'm 45 AA woman/mom and I still get noticed, especially by older men. I was at the Toys R Us and some guy came from 3 aisles over and told me I was beautiful. Made my day. This what confuses me about men. When I spend alot of time getting myself together (make-up/hair/clothes) and think I'm looking good, no one notices me or says a thing. Let me come out the house with just washed hair in a head band, no make-up, sweatpants and a slumpy t-shirt, sneakers....men notice me.

[Anonymous]

I think men don't notice me when I do not want to be noticed. They do notice me when I want to be noticed. I am one of those women who can transform completely by wearing makeup and applying cosmetics and doing my hair. Mostly, I do not make the effort. My DD is the same. I guess we are a household of lazy women. I wish we were not like that. I would love to be well groomed all the time, but, this laziness is our biggest downfall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 36 and went on a run this morning. As usual, I was noticed by plenty of construction workers, groundskeepers, and maintenance workers. Not so many business types. I'll take it.

They notice, but they may not comment.

[Anonymous]

36 with one child and haven't stopped getting noticed.

[Anonymous]

I love the comment about.. non-white guys.. I stumbled on this site cause like all of you I'm insecure. I feel better knowing I'm not alone. But some of the reasons I've heard are so sad even I can't feel sorry for myself. Ladies you are not alone, or so fat, disfigured, that you should just give up. Having a baby gives your body character like a sexy scar on a man. Its no excuse to be a slob but it's not a flaw either

[Anonymous]

40 and still have it.

[Anonymous]

Guys never started hitting on me until I was 37. I gained confidence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in my 60s and men still notice me. But I have to remember they think I am a cute granny.

Maybe? Have you seen the Sophia Loren 80yo birthday photo? Pretty hot!

[Anonymous]

I still get compliments but they became less frequent around 36. I can't say if that was age or the wedding rings.

Now in my mid 40s, I get more compliments from women (beautiful skin, hair, smile) and appreciate those more.