Required student to stay within a certain driving distance

[Anonymous]

I don't agree with the restrictions if there's a college that's not within driving distance that would be best for the DD. I think it does become about the parents and their comfort level. If the DD worked hard through high school, made sacrifices, and gets accepted to a college that's far away but where she thinks she'll be happiest, I think the parents should let her attend.

[Anonymous]

My niece had a stroke her senior year of college (yes, it's unusual for a 22 year old and she had no previous medical issues so it came as quite a shock). Anyway, she was very lucky to be going to college in a major city with a high level trauma center close by (and even luckier that a top neurosurgeon was working that night). My sister and her husband lived only a half hour away. That was not by any type of forced decision; my niece wanted to go to the school she chose (and it's a top school). I think her parents were pretty glad they were that close. That said, our son is four hours away at college with a lower level hospital in a smaller town. You make your choices.

[Anonymous]

If I knew how to post GIFs, I'd post one of a helicopter circling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rich people problems. I lived at home and went to State.

Definitely rich people's problem. Most people attending college do not have the luxury of tuition, books, room, board, incidentals, and transportation without debt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend that required her DD to only look at schools that were within a 5-6hr drive from DMV. She wants to be able to reach her at a moments notice if the DD needs her. She did make an exception for some ATL schools (she has friends down there). Just wondering what other people think of this. My DD will start looking at colleges next year and while she has not spoken about midwest or west coast schools, I really do not want her to be that far away. Is that selfish?

I totally agree with the folks that are saying its reasonable to put this restriction on college choices for monetary reasons--flight costs can really add up.
I could also possibly see a situation where a kid with some kind of physical or intellectual disability might need to be closer to home.

However, the situation OP is describing sounds like none of those situations. Mom wants to "reach her at a moments notice if she needs her."
That's helicopter parenting, and mom needs to detach. If I were the DD, I would intentionally be looking for the absolute maximum distance I could from this mom.

I don't know. We don't really know any backstory here. As someone who developed mental health issues when away at college, I don't think it's crazy to think about proximity or emergencies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend that required her DD to only look at schools that were within a 5-6hr drive from DMV. She wants to be able to reach her at a moments notice if the DD needs her. She did make an exception for some ATL schools (she has friends down there). Just wondering what other people think of this. My DD will start looking at colleges next year and while she has not spoken about midwest or west coast schools, I really do not want her to be that far away. Is that selfish?

I totally agree with the folks that are saying its reasonable to put this restriction on college choices for monetary reasons--flight costs can really add up.
I could also possibly see a situation where a kid with some kind of physical or intellectual disability might need to be closer to home.

However, the situation OP is describing sounds like none of those situations. Mom wants to "reach her at a moments notice if she needs her."
That's helicopter parenting, and mom needs to detach. If I were the DD, I would intentionally be looking for the absolute maximum distance I could from this mom.

I don't know. We don't really know any backstory here. As someone who developed mental health issues when away at college, I don't think it's crazy to think about proximity or emergencies.

Plus a 5-6 hour drive is hardly reaching your kid at a moment's notice. It seems quite reasonable.

[Anonymous]

My Ex-DH wouldn't pay for travel costs (in our court doc.) so I'll foot the travel costs, which allows our DC to go to the best college for her...not the cheapest for him.