my husband thinks I'm a bad mother

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:its terribly sad, and 9 months old. OP, are you ok? do you need help?

I am fine. Lonely and isolated, but fine. Our marriage is better, not great, but better.

If you're lonley and isolated you're not fine. You're being abused.

A-B-U-S-E-D.

You need to get out, truly.

Ii didn't say he is isolating me.

[Anonymous]

Seeing as how the OP effing ADMITTED to being a terrible mother in her second post, I don't see what the issue is that her husband would think the same.

BTW, for all the women commenting about how their husbands checked out/went crazy/turned into an asshole after the baby was born, I'd like to know how many of these men were "oopsed" into having said baby. That kind of deception wouldn't make me the happiest parent, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP you sound like my wife. With our first child she didn't know how to change diapers and couldn't understand why my DS was crying. When we brought the baby home from the hospital she simply didn't know what to do I tried to be patient with her and help but after several days I could see that she simply didn't have any insight into what my DS was possibly feeling (hungry, wet, hot, cold, etc.). It was like night and day. I would hold him and he would quite down. She would hold him and he would cry. Taking care of a baby isn't very difficult if a person can empathize with the child and anticipate their needs.

I can kind of relate to this but won't say that it's easy for everyone to emphasize or be able to put others needs ahead of theirs. And I won't say that it necessarily makes them a bad parent. Some people just have their own ways of doing things. And either way I don't know if that is applicable to the OP.

Just skimming through the pages, I hope you don't feel like you're a bad parent OP. Maybe learning or whatever. Kids are kind of weird sometimes. Where for whatever reason they may latch onto one parent during their early years and all of the sudden latch onto the other parent. Which might explain why your kid may act up when you're trying to change the diaper. Also if you're nervous and uncomfortable they may pick up on it and get uncomfortable too. So try to relax if you can.

Hope things get better and work out for the best!

[Anonymous]

Well he's definitely a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Thanks captain obvious.

[Anonymous]

That's not normal behavior. Your husband is a dick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's not normal behavior. Your husband is a dick.

Agreed. As a therapist I can tell you he's definitely a dick.*

*not an actual therapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seeing as how the OP effing ADMITTED to being a terrible mother in her second post, I don't see what the issue is that her husband would think the same.

BTW, for all the women commenting about how their husbands checked out/went crazy/turned into an asshole after the baby was born, I'd like to know how many of these men were "oopsed" into having said baby. That kind of deception wouldn't make me the happiest parent, either.

He wanted a baby, I was unsure. Don't projecct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seeing as how the OP effing ADMITTED to being a terrible mother in her second post, I don't see what the issue is that her husband would think the same.

BTW, for all the women commenting about how their husbands checked out/went crazy/turned into an asshole after the baby was born, I'd like to know how many of these men were "oopsed" into having said baby. That kind of deception wouldn't make me the happiest parent, either.

I think a lot of couples feel "oopsed" into having a baby as soon as they get home from the hospital and it's just them and the baby in the house and they start thinking- what chaos have we brought upon ourselves?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seeing as how the OP effing ADMITTED to being a terrible mother in her second post, I don't see what the issue is that her husband would think the same.

BTW, for all the women commenting about how their husbands checked out/went crazy/turned into an asshole after the baby was born, I'd like to know how many of these men were "oopsed" into having said baby. That kind of deception wouldn't make me the happiest parent, either.

I think a lot of couples feel "oopsed" into having a baby as soon as they get home from the hospital and it's just them and the baby in the house and they start thinking- what chaos have we brought upon ourselves?

You know you can admit to being a terrible mother and you still don't deserve to be abused for it, right? And not being able to change a diaper like a rock star is hardly putting a child in danger.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why he couldn't take the phone elsewhere. If you are a bad mother then he is a worse husband. The fact that he would complain about your mothering to his mother is a huge red flag. I would leave but I would not take the baby. He needs a dose of uninterrupted parenting to fix his attitude and you need a vacation away from him.