I keep wishing MIL was someone else

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a happily-married (25 years) woman and recently had a near death experience. I also cried out for my mother.

I am 32, married with children. I recently had a surgery and cried for my mother while waking up from anesthesia. It's just human. I don't like my MIL, but she adores her son, and has always been by his side, in his most vulnerable moments. I would fully expect him to cry for her at the most critical moments in his life, and I would understand.

[Anonymous]

"Oedipal" and "Oedipus Complex" are two different things. See English 101.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Oedipal" and "Oedipus Complex" are two different things. See English 101.

You need to go back to Psych 101. It has nothing to do with English 101. Oedipal complex is the less commonly used term for Oedipus complex a Freudian theory that concentrates upon a child's desire to have sexual relations with the parent of the opposite sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Oedipal" and "Oedipus Complex" are two different things. See English 101.

You need to go back to Psych 101. It has nothing to do with English 101. Oedipal complex is the less commonly used term for Oedipus complex a Freudian theory that concentrates upon a child's desire to have sexual relations with the parent of the opposite sex.

Are you the same person who erred when correcting a poster for the use of the word "abide?"

[Anonymous]

MIL keeps wishing that you were someone else...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Oedipal" and "Oedipus Complex" are two different things. See English 101.

You need to go back to Psych 101. It has nothing to do with English 101. Oedipal complex is the less commonly used term for Oedipus complex a Freudian theory that concentrates upon a child's desire to have sexual relations with the parent of the opposite sex.

Are you the same person who erred when correcting a poster for the use of the word "abide?"

Oops. Forgot to bold at 23:16.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Oedipal" and "Oedipus Complex" are two different things. See English 101.

You need to go back to Psych 101. It has nothing to do with English 101. Oedipal complex is the less commonly used term for Oedipus complex a Freudian theory that concentrates upon a child's desire to have sexual relations with the parent of the opposite sex.

Hesitating to post on this thread, which has gone seriously south, but what the heck . . .

Above is certainly the Psych 101 version of the very broad topic of Oedipal issues. In fact it covers (among many other things) how we handle the realization that two person relationships affect important third parties - e.g., how my desire to have Dad to myself affects my relationship with Mom. Or how my relationship with Mary affects my connection to Jane, who feels left out. Or how I feel slighted by Mary if I'm Jane.

In other words, the whole gamut of inclusion, exclusion, and competition in family, social, and work relationships. And pretty central to the great difficulty of relationships with in-laws.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Oedipal" and "Oedipus Complex" are two different things. See English 101.

You need to go back to Psych 101. It has nothing to do with English 101. Oedipal complex is the less commonly used term for Oedipus complex a Freudian theory that concentrates upon a child's desire to have sexual relations with the parent of the opposite sex.

Hesitating to post on this thread, which has gone seriously south, but what the heck . . .

Above is certainly the Psych 101 version of the very broad topic of Oedipal issues. In fact it covers (among many other things) how we handle the realization that two person relationships affect important third parties - e.g., how my desire to have Dad to myself affects my relationship with Mom. Or how my relationship with Mary affects my connection to Jane, who feels left out. Or how I feel slighted by Mary if I'm Jane.

In other words, the whole gamut of inclusion, exclusion, and competition in family, social, and work relationships. And pretty central to the great difficulty of relationships with in-laws.

. True. But I think a 101 definition is more than sufficient in addressing the Oedipal/Oedipus poster who thinks thiese concepts come from an English lecture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Oedipal" and "Oedipus Complex" are two different things. See English 101.

You need to go back to Psych 101. It has nothing to do with English 101. Oedipal complex is the less commonly used term for Oedipus complex a Freudian theory that concentrates upon a child's desire to have sexual relations with the parent of the opposite sex.

Your understanding is limited. See above. It has nothing to do with "abide". What are you talking about? Please do not answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Oedipal" and "Oedipus Complex" are two different things. See English 101.

You need to go back to Psych 101. It has nothing to do with English 101. Oedipal complex is the less commonly used term for Oedipus complex a Freudian theory that concentrates upon a child's desire to have sexual relations with the parent of the opposite sex.

Your understanding is limited. See above. It has nothing to do with "abide". What are you talking about? Please do not answer.

. You have either not followed the thread or you are deliberately obtuse. You need not answer. Your response makes a statement either way.

[Anonymous]

What? Off topic much?

I could see wishing MIL was someone else if she say, needed to always have the last word

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What? Off topic much?

I could see wishing MIL was someone else if she say, needed to always have the last word

. Go look in the mirror and repeat after me, "Hypocrite."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What? Off topic much?

I could see wishing MIL was someone else if she say, needed to always have the last word

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went out with someone for years, this is a long time ago. Sometimes I think I miss his mom more than him. (I think maybe he was too nice, but that is another post). It doesn't help that my MIL is an absolute cad, we have nothing in common, I try to be nice, and she just keeps getting more rude with age. Vent over.

Has anyone ever felt this way? Or maybe missed your former MIL? Every time MIL is her nasty self, I think if only.... Guess I'm just daydreaming.

Yes. I have an ex who was a cad but his mother was kind, loving, and generous. She was all about family. She would have been a great MIL. My MIL is an alcoholic and I don't want her near my family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What? Off topic much?

I could see wishing MIL was someone else if she say, needed to always have the last word

+1

Oh, the irony...