What's the meanest thing a partner has ever said to you?

[Anonymous]

He told me that I looked good from far away but not close up. He told me that he only liked my body and not my face. He liked my personality but he missed his ex because she was beautiful. He told me that a lot of guys say I’m attractive, but he doesn’t know what they see in me.

[Anonymous]

Mine is nothing compared to what I've read here, and it's not even that "mean" per se, but a boyfriend of mine in university told me "my hormones are in it, but my heart's not" when he was breaking up with me. It was 15 years ago, but I still remember how 'dismissed' it made me feel, like we hadn't been dating for months, and that I was some girl he'd picked up at a bar one night.

I'm still single - not blaming that on him - more saying that it's the thing that really stands out that an ex said to me, this long after, after dating many people.

[Anonymous]

My DH told me that he has never felt connected to me. Really hurt and changed my feelings for him. Maybe I am overreacting and I should just forget about the comment but I can't help thinking that he meant it. Wasn't said in anger. I think he was annoyed with me because I was trying to talk to him. He is a very critical person and has told me I am an idiot, stupid, etc. over the years so maybe I shouldn't have been surprised.

How have others moved on or gotten over hurtful comments made by a partner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where shall I start. Telling me I must be lesbian because I didn't want to sleep with him. Refusing to show any affection at all, or even be nice, for about 6 months to teach me a lesson not to gain weight. Told me he didn't want to have kids with me because I am too fat to be a good mother. Btw, I was a size 14 at the time and 5'8. We are no longer married.

After 9 pages the only truthful thing I’ve read is that
He was correct here. 5’8 and size 14 Is FAT.

[Anonymous]

This thread is odd to me but what do you all do cry when your husband says he should leave? Be over the top in response! Him “I should leave I hate living with you!” You: nonverbal response. Go to his closet take his clothes out, throw them in his car then hand his car keys to him and say goodbye. The end. Your walking to his closet should send him a message that your are fine and life can go on without him.

Oh and do all this playing Beyoncé irreplaceable

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where shall I start. Telling me I must be lesbian because I didn't want to sleep with him. Refusing to show any affection at all, or even be nice, for about 6 months to teach me a lesson not to gain weight. Told me he didn't want to have kids with me because I am too fat to be a good mother. Btw, I was a size 14 at the time and 5'8. We are no longer married.

After 9 pages the only truthful thing I’ve read is that
He was correct here. 5’8 and size 14 Is FAT.

Uncalled for

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He told me that my parents did a horrible job of raising me.

This from a guy who was in prison twice for two felonies.

Don't ask!!

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He told me that I looked good from far away but not close up. He told me that he only liked my body and not my face. He liked my personality but he missed his ex because she was beautiful. He told me that a lot of guys say I’m attractive, but he doesn’t know what they see in me.

Ah yes, I believe that is referred to as a “Picasso”. From afar, a beautiful work of art. From up close, sheesh.

[Anonymous]

I had an ex tell me that me and my child were a burden to him, and he said he could probably do better than me.

I moved out the next day and left him so he could go find out. While I packed my shit he broke down and BEGGED me to stay with him. I told him no and made him move my stuff to my new apartment. Asshole!

[Anonymous]

He told me that no one would ever love me.
He said I was lucky to even have him (physical, emotional and sexual abuser).

He said I'm a horrible mother.

He said he can't stand how I look and would look at me with horrible disgust. I'm a fit size 4. He said I looked so gross to him.

His dad abandoned him and physically abused him. His mom sexually abused him and neglected him. He said I hurt him and abused him more than his parents combined.

He was and still is a nightmare. I left but the nightmare lives on. He finds ways. Can't talk directly to me but emails rants to the children's therapist knowing that she has to include both parents in all communications. Son needed an evaluation and ex ranted about how son is is all my fault (cognitive processing delays). It's so fricken awful. I wish I had never met him. Life with him in it is hardly worth living. It's been such help trying to heal and completely separate from him.

[Anonymous]

Hell not help

[Anonymous]

People are nuts to let themselves be treated that way.

Once my husband used the f word during an argument. Like "I don't fing care" kind of thing. That was the worst he has spoken to me in 20 years. And that was something we talked about and it hasn't happened since.

[Anonymous]

When my XH in divorce court, during custody proceedings, told the judge that the only reason I wanted sole custody (which he didn't want, he was just trying to lower his CS payments), was because of the tax breaks.
It was so ugly, and I'm just grateful that the kids will never know he said that about them, or me.

[Anonymous]

On my way out the house to an MRI I was nervous about, he said: "Hope the scanner falls on top of you."

[Anonymous]

I’m voting for Trump. Unforgivable.