What's the meanest thing a partner has ever said to you?

[Anonymous]

my husband insults me quite often. The worst things he's said is prbably

That I'm so fat and disgusting after having our baby that he can barely stand to have sex with me

I suck at life and he can't believe I've survived this long being so dumb (this is in no way true, but he says it every time I make even the smallest mistake)

he calls me a stupid bitch a lot

I'm not sure what upsets me more though, him saying things like that to me, or him talking to me utterly condescending like - like I'm a baby and can't understand or process words.

He was not like this before we had our son. I think he probably just doesn't love me any more and is taking it out on me.

[Anonymous]

My exH called me a "stupid fucking prostitute" for bailing out of BigLaw and taking a federal job. I was burned out beyond belief, my twins were about to start K, and I felt like I had no quality time with them or anyone else. Had to make a change, so I did.

A very salient point is that he wasn't working and had NEVER contributed to our household with income, child care (the girls had a nanny), house chores, etc. Dude sat in the basement on his computer with his Yale grad degree hanging on the wall "starting his own business" and planning surfing trips. For 12 years. Such an ass.

[Anonymous]

My ex told me that I "was the cause of almost every problem in his life." It doesn't sound that mean without context, but-- it absolutely wasn't true. I had been trying really hard to support him and be loving.

Right after he dropped this on me, he said he wanted a divorce. This was a few weeks after my mom died of a long fight with cancer, so the timing was even crueler than the words.

[Anonymous]

I'm a loser. He dislikes me so much he doesn't want to have sex with me (it's been four times in the last five years). I'm a bitch. I've never succeeded at any job.

[Anonymous]

After a hearing on his child abuse, he said "Why did you have to take her to the doctor?" I took her because I was scared she was hurt more than the visible bruise. They called CPS. He had been working on therapy and had a case worker for a few months at that point. I thought he was making some progress before he said that. I moved about 3 days later.

[Anonymous]

In the context of talking about years of him quietly projecting his horrific issues onto me, mistreating me, and deciding other women were preferable to what I had to offer, he said, "I judged you and found you lacking."

[Anonymous]

My wife makes a lot more money than I do. Someone made a comment about our money and she said 'most of our money is mine anyway. I make most of our money. ' Still makes me sad.

[Anonymous]

Ex husband once told me to go touch myself because even if I paid someone they would not touch me

[Anonymous]

Those of you still married: WHYYYYY

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After a hearing on his child abuse, he said "Why did you have to take her to the doctor?" I took her because I was scared she was hurt more than the visible bruise. They called CPS. He had been working on therapy and had a case worker for a few months at that point. I thought he was making some progress before he said that. I moved about 3 days later.

What? Did your husband abuse your daughter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those of you still married: WHYYYYY

Kids, money issues, fear of admitting that a marriage was a failure.

[Anonymous]

I am pretty thick-skinned so most things wife said did not register with me. But this is a partial list

--- you are just like xxx (some people we both know who has a terrible life)

--- how terrible you look now, while holding a mirror for me (I know I am getting old but still I look relatively young given my age).

[Anonymous]

Fat and cunt. His favorite words for me when he's angry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My exH called me a "stupid fucking prostitute" for bailing out of BigLaw and taking a federal job. I was burned out beyond belief, my twins were about to start K, and I felt like I had no quality time with them or anyone else. Had to make a change, so I did.

A very salient point is that he wasn't working and had NEVER contributed to our household with income, child care (the girls had a nanny), house chores, etc. Dude sat in the basement on his computer with his Yale grad degree hanging on the wall "starting his own business" and planning surfing trips. For 12 years. Such an ass.

Why did you put up with that? Are you divorced now or is he working? I know someone who's been a kept man like that for over 20 years. I can't understand it.

[Anonymous]

DH here ............. This is all so sad to read, really. Been married over 30 yrs and we've never name called, if so, it'd be the end of the marriage. No respect, No marriage.

I could strangle some of your husbands, a holes like them might be married to my daughter some day and I would never ever want her to put up with that crap

You don't think so now, but I promise, there are lots of men that would never disrepect you in such ways. My heart feels for you all.