What's the meanest thing a partner has ever said to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm surfing on here because tonight my husband said "I will hate you until the day I die." Then he came back into the room and said that he would apologize tomorrow and take it back, but that I would always know that he hated me. I'm about to have our first child and feel so devastated. I don't know where to go from here.

God, this is awful. I'm sorry PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I finally said "fuck you bitch". That stopped it cold.

You did the right thing, look at the results. Props to you for sacking up and doing the right thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Dh told me to shut the fuck up last night, but I was being horrible to him and probably deserved it. We had awesome angry sex today though and now we're all good. My only defense for being awful is that I'm PMSing, it's like I'm a different person for a week. Awesome orgasms though.

Can you please explain 'angry sex'?
When I feel angry with him I really don't feel like having sex with him. At all. Wish I could get around this. Would have a lot of sex.
Please explain how you do it, both the physical and emotional sides.
Thanks.

Why on earth would you want to get around this? When you get angry and don't feel like having sex with him, those are NORMAL and HEALTHY emotions. Wanting to fuck someone who makes you angry or stirs up negative emotions is UNHEALTHY and SICK. These people have something wrong with them. You don't. They prioritize
"awesome orgasms" over positive mental health.

Lucky you.

[Anonymous]

It wasn't necessarily the meanest, but it probably hurt the most (and sticks with me 10+ years later, in spite of other arguments with many more significant partners since) because it was the most honest.

"My hormones are in it, but my heart's not" - from my college boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

He regularly uses the f word against me and calls me an evil bitch, pathetic, retarded, autistic (I know, don't get me started)

[Anonymous]

My STBX wife said any and all of the following:

You are a f**king loser!
Moron! Idiot!
You fat bitch Mama should never have given birth to you!
Your fat bitch Mama was one drug when she had you!
They should have let you die when you born!
You should just kill yourself!
Piece of shit!

And on and on and on. She was then surprised when I finally lost it one day and told her to f**k off! I wasn;t being nice! I was not being fair! I was not appreciating her and treating her as the "valuable and extraordinary person I am!" Vomit! She was even more surprised when I filed for divorce.

[Anonymous]

gosh, some of these are awful.
mostly its what partners have done, rather than said, that have been the most hurtful (once, a terrible, deliberately cruel abandonment during a medical emergency).

But once sticks still. more than a year into our relationship, an ex called me a slut for having slept with him on the 3rd date. Doesn't matter that he was part of the deal! told me that women are supposed to be the gatekeepers and if I had sex with him early on, then I must have had lots of casual, random sex with other men early on too and that meant that I was devalued.

so glad I DTMF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Dh told me to shut the fuck up last night, but I was being horrible to him and probably deserved it. We had awesome angry sex today though and now we're all good. My only defense for being awful is that I'm PMSing, it's like I'm a different person for a week. Awesome orgasms though.

Can you please explain 'angry sex'?
When I feel angry with him I really don't feel like having sex with him. At all. Wish I could get around this. Would have a lot of sex.
Please explain how you do it, both the physical and emotional sides.
Thanks.

Why on earth would you want to get around this? When you get angry and don't feel like having sex with him, those are NORMAL and HEALTHY emotions. Wanting to fuck someone who makes you angry or stirs up negative emotions is UNHEALTHY and SICK. These people have something wrong with them. You don't. They prioritize
"awesome orgasms" over positive mental health.

Lucky you.

I have had angry sex and enjoyed it. That said, never have been able to experience it with my DH. I think there is some truth to what you're saying PP - that it was an unhealthy release.
It did feel much better than dealing with emotions like a mature adult though.

[Anonymous]

I was thinking about going back to school, to pursue a helping profession. He said i was too messed up in the head.

[Anonymous]

Don't get super fat like your family...

Do you REALLY think you can make it through nursing school? You can't even pass a basic math class.






I'm ready to leave, I just need enough money...

[Anonymous]

"Yes officer that's the man who assaulted me"

[Anonymous]

Your billable hours are too low. You're fired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm surfing on here because tonight my husband said "I will hate you until the day I die." Then he came back into the room and said that he would apologize tomorrow and take it back, but that I would always know that he hated me. I'm about to have our first child and feel so devastated. I don't know where to go from here.

God, this is awful. I'm sorry PP.

From the person who is now disabled and has three or more kids and is in utter hell: leave him NOW. My dh in a moment of sleep deprivation told me he wanted a divorce and that he would get custody of our then only child because he was the primary caretaker (this blew over and did not come up again for 6 years) I was supporting him while he finished his PhD. I should have seen the warning signs and ended the relationship then. I have no idea where I would be now, but I know where I am, in utter almost unrelenting hell with a husband who no longer loves me and cannot wait for me to leave the house, and an oldest daughter (the baby at the time) who agrees with him..............

[Anonymous]

"Maybe we should just get divorced." He said it once and I told him after the fight it really hurt me. Never said it again. Married 9 years in 2 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those of you still married: WHYYYYY

No kidding! This is why I am not married. Everyone loses it every once in a while under extreme stress and says something they didn't mean. But it sounds like people put up with it happening chronically. My parents divorced when I was 5 and I thank God they did. Life was so much better for my sibling and I afterwards. Your kids are watching and listening to you. Don't think they don't hear these fights just b/c they are in bed.