Why won't my wife shop at Giant or Safeway like a normal person?

Anonymous
Stick to milk, meats, eggs, soft skin fruits and veggis you do not peel from Whole Foods. Rest you can buy non-organic from other places.

Comparison shopping will save you a lot of money. I buy from Costco, Whole Foods, Wegmans, BJ, Aldi, Giant, Safeway, Shoppers, Food Lion, and ethnic grocery stores ( Korean, Indian, Chinese, Caribbean and Latino).

Anonymous
I shop almost exclusively at WF. I occaisionally hit up a Giant and SW and and don't find it cheaper and there is a difference in quality.

That said, DH and I have had this argument and basically I've learned how to shop smarter and reign in our grocery bill. Basically it's what other pp's advise...stick to the basics, to the list, and reduce the amount of meat, etc. I won't say I'm perfect, I still get seduced by a $7 block of cheese or what have you. But it's much better than it was.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:one word: Produce


Oh, please. Anyone who believes that produce at TJ or WF is superior in any way is a fool, and probably believes every marketing word ever projected.



Have you been to the old Wisconsin ave giant? Their produce sucks.

Op, do you live in the city or the suburbs? Whole Foods is so much nicer than city grocery stores like the Soviet Safeway and the Geriatirc giant. The normal grocery stores in cities are marked up so much I find that whole foods isn't more expensive for what I buy. I do find it hard to buy things that are more whole food at a normal grocery store. The breads at giant etc have so much more crap in their ingredients list.
Anonymous
So when she says, let's go out to eat, why don't you say, I'll cook tonight!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I think after you micro-manage your wife about her food shopping because, it seems, she is wholly responsible for food buying and meal planning due to being a SAHP, you should ask her for her in-depth views on your career. After all, you make the money, and if this degree of spending makes you concerned, you could surely be doing better financially. Perhaps if you show her a video of you at work all day, or some of the documents you've produced, she could review your work and let you know where you could improve, and hopefully get promoted or at least a raise. Of course, I'm kidding here. Just wanted to point out how another adult might feel when feeling micro-managed. Please find a way to work this out cooperatively, not just by telling your wife where she can and cannot shop.


+1000

Are you having trouble making ends meet? If not, you've said you bet shed saving 250 to 300 a month by shopping at giant. Is 3000 a year really worth the hit to your relationship by you controlling and telling her how SHE should grocery shop.

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think after you micro-manage your wife about her food shopping because, it seems, she is wholly responsible for food buying and meal planning due to being a SAHP, you should ask her for her in-depth views on your career. After all, you make the money, and if this degree of spending makes you concerned, you could surely be doing better financially. Perhaps if you show her a video of you at work all day, or some of the documents you've produced, she could review your work and let you know where you could improve, and hopefully get promoted or at least a raise. Of course, I'm kidding here. Just wanted to point out how another adult might feel when feeling micro-managed. Please find a way to work this out cooperatively, not just by telling your wife where she can and cannot shop.


+1000

Are you having trouble making ends meet? If not, you've said you bet shed saving 250 to 300 a month by shopping at giant. Is 3000 a year really worth the hit to your relationship by you controlling and telling her how SHE should grocery shop.



You know you're an asshole when 3k is something for poors to worry about.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Groceries are the least of your problems. You and she need to get on the same financial page. I would discuss it in front of a marriage counselor. This is seriously deal-breaker stuff. If it was just food, I would offer a work around for that small portion of the budget. The problem you describe in your follow-up post is much bigger than that. Your wife does not understand how the family finances work and is not supportive of you being able to successfully support the family. Either she needs to get on board with your financial goals, she needs to go back to work so that she can afford all of the financial goals she seems to have, or you need to maintain reasonable financial goals and give her only a small portion of the budget that is within her control.


Most intelligent advice here OP.
Anonymous
I want a new sofa (still using a hand me down from my parents basement) and they all seem to cost 3000 plus! Where other than Ikea can you get a cheaper one?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think after you micro-manage your wife about her food shopping because, it seems, she is wholly responsible for food buying and meal planning due to being a SAHP, you should ask her for her in-depth views on your career. After all, you make the money, and if this degree of spending makes you concerned, you could surely be doing better financially. Perhaps if you show her a video of you at work all day, or some of the documents you've produced, she could review your work and let you know where you could improve, and hopefully get promoted or at least a raise. Of course, I'm kidding here. Just wanted to point out how another adult might feel when feeling micro-managed. Please find a way to work this out cooperatively, not just by telling your wife where she can and cannot shop.


+1000

Are you having trouble making ends meet? If not, you've said you bet shed saving 250 to 300 a month by shopping at giant. Is 3000 a year really worth the hit to your relationship by you controlling and telling her how SHE should grocery shop.



Divorce is way more expensive!

You know you're an asshole when 3k is something for poors to worry about.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you end up throwing out a lot of food? That's a lot of money to spend on 3,even if she shops in WF.


Yes. I just threw away a bunch of strawberrys yesterday. We have meat from WF in the freezer that had been there for a week and had freezer burn so I threw it out. She bought ground beef for chili a few nights ago andit turned out to be a late evening so we didn't use it and just ordered takeout. Beef thrown away...


Whaaaat??? Are you saying your DW bought some meat, didn't use it for a day or two, then threw it away? And meat left in the freezer you throw away after a single week? I have meat in my deep freezer in the basement for months, sometimes as long as a year. I just thaw it out and cook it, and it's fine. Maybe you need a better fridge/freezer, OP.

BTW, I spend at least $300 per week for our family of six, including two teenaged boys who eat a lot! We rarely eat out, though. I do almost all my shopping at Trader Joe's and Whole Foods. But I never buy prepared foods, and only shop at Whole Foods when I'm looking for an item I can't buy at TJ's. I only go to Giant when I have to pick up something they don't carry at TJ's or WF. It's no cheaper for most things, I've found. I also buy a lot of food (meat mostly) at Costco, which I freeze.

I agree with PPs that menu planning is in order. And cut out the eating out. Make meals ahead and freeze them, or make extra-large meals and freeze part, or eat left-overs. Crazy to throw out so much food! I freeze anything that's I'm not going to be able to use before it goes bad, including eggs, hummus, juices and fresh (washed) produce. Waste not, want not.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I want a new sofa (still using a hand me down from my parents basement) and they all seem to cost 3000 plus! Where other than Ikea can you get a cheaper one?


Room and Board
Crate and Barrel
West Elm
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I want a new sofa (still using a hand me down from my parents basement) and they all seem to cost 3000 plus! Where other than Ikea can you get a cheaper one?


Pottery Barn - mine were about $1800 - $2000 and have held up really well - white slipcovers and I have a messy husband, child, and dog
Anonymous
I hate Giant - too expensive and poor options. I primarily shop at Wegmans with a little TJs and Target and sonetimes WF if I'm near one
Anonymous
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DH and I just discussed this and he supports me. I only shop at whole foods b/c I don't have to sort through all the crap that isn't really food to find actual food (box reading just isn't going to happen with a toddler in tow) and the quality is infinitely better for produce, meat, bread and basically everything else for not that much more money. Every time I walk into a "regular" grocery store, I wonder why the hell we can't just produce food in this country that isn't full of a bunch of chemicals and crap that make us fat and mess with developing brains.

You can't control all the cr@p that we're exposed to but for the things we can control, like the quality of food we're purchasing, why not try to minimize exposure that way?

I totally get where your wife is coming from.


Yeah, isn't it crazy that you can't buy cage-free eggs, organic milk, and organic produce at conventional grocery stores?

oh wait..



McCoy, organic and the like is almost always more expensive at Safeway and Giant.

And good luck finding at bread not loaded with dough conditioners or stabalisers.

Something's, like conventional pasta Nd rice maybe cheaper but generally lower quality.
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