Why won't my wife shop at Giant or Safeway like a normal person?

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Anonymous wrote:Did you ask her why she does not want to shop at cheaper grocery stores?

Yes. She's of the impression that everything sold there is inferior. That the produce will end up giving our kid a 3rd arm. Even though you can buy organic from there. Hell you can buy organic at WalMart. But I'll settle for Giant since it's close enough. We're also spending another $400 a month of dining out at Crisp & Juicy, 2 Amys, MeiWah etc. This is bullshit. And when I brought it up she started yelling about not having time to cook etc.

She sounds very silly. Giant food is inferior -- yet she's feeding your kid from Crisp & Juicy, 2 Amys, and Meiwah? Does she think they use ingredients that are organic or in any way higher quality than what she would be getting at Giant? Your kid would be much better off eating the "crap' from Giant than the overly sugary, salty, fried (albeit delicious!) stuff your wife is getting from carry-out. Good luck with this one!

Explain. Explain how eggs from Giant are "inferior."

Ugh - you should really investigate where your eggs come from. You might go vegan.


We eat pasture-raised eggs from WF.

NP here. You sound insufferable and snotty with your pasture-raised egg investigation. I'm not going to bother because I think just about anything is ok in moderation. I am not convinced everything I eat is going to kill me like some of you freaks.

It's not always about YOUR health, asshole. How about those poor animals that you are eating? I'm sure if you feed your own family crap food you don't care at all what they do to the chickens, cows, etc.

FFS get a grip. Your grass fed antibiotic free cow still got a cap bolt to the head, was decapitated and hung upside down to bleed out and dismembered and sold....go back to your tofu

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Anonymous wrote:I am assuming your wife stays at home. Give her a monthly budget, and whatever is left over is hers. Maybe once she realizes that she only has a certain amount to spend, she will be more thrifty.

Op I would be pissed if I was working and making money only to see it thrown away each month. I am exceptionally frugal, so this would be very difficult for me.

Agree with pp, plan meals, make list, stick to list. She will save a ton.

This is a terrible idea and won't be received well. You don't just "give" your wife a budget as if she's a teenage child. You clearly need to sit down with your wife and get each other on the same page.

Then wife needs to get a damn job!

His wife's job is raising the kids, jerk

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Anonymous wrote:Trader Joe's is a bargain -- don't fight that one. Dump the Whole Foods from you life. Be strong. Does she also carry a Louis Vuitton purse? If so, you are not going to be able to change her. She is too far gone...

Trader Joe's sucks and not worth the money. Processed crap.

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Anonymous wrote:Trader Joe's is a bargain -- don't fight that one. Dump the Whole Foods from you life. Be strong. Does she also carry a Louis Vuitton purse? If so, you are not going to be able to change her. She is too far gone...

Trader Joe's sucks and not worth the money. Processed crap.

So the bananas there are manufactured? how about the avocados? or the onions? Man I'm glad, I had no idea they weren't the real deal.

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Your wife sounds like a royal pain in the ass who doesn't know the value of a dollar.

This is why I only date attractive, smart women who make more money than myself. I couldn't respect a leech who Hoovered up all my money.

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife sounds like a royal pain in the ass who doesn't know the value of a dollar.

This is why I only date attractive, smart women who make more money than myself. I couldn't respect a leech who Hoovered up all my money.

... who really knows a cheap cut of meat when she see one.

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife sounds like a royal pain in the ass who doesn't know the value of a dollar.

This is why I only date attractive, smart women who make more money than myself. I couldn't respect a leech who Hoovered up all my money.

... who really knows a cheap cut of meat when she see one.

Ha!

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Anonymous wrote:We have spending issues and for a family of 3 (2yr old kid) we spend over $1,200 at Trader Joes and Whole Foods. She refuses to shop at regular grocery stores. I bet it would cut our bill by $250-300 if she just went to Giant.

If it is $1200 a month divide that by 4 weeks and that is only $300 a week. I think the cost is reasonable but if you don't, you do the shopping for what your household needs and then you can see what the totals are. Time, convenience, and gas are also factors. Having a young child, I can see why organic food may be of importance to your wife.

In a marriage, pick and choose your battles. Do you have cable? Cell phone? Etc.? There are plenty of ways to cut costs in daily living. As long as she is making healthy food choices for your family, I would recommend looking elsewhere to cut costs.

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I am not so sure OP's wife is a SAH mom, in which case blaming her for poor meal planning seems a little harsh. Budget does seem really high though. I spend about $225/week, mostly at Giant for a family of 4. I go to TJs about once a month. I only go to WF for seafood. I happen to live near a good Giant though.

Not sure what you are buying that adds up so high.

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Anonymous wrote:Trader Joe's is a bargain -- don't fight that one. Dump the Whole Foods from you life. Be strong. Does she also carry a Louis Vuitton purse? If so, you are not going to be able to change her. She is too far gone...

Trader Joe's sucks and not worth the money. Processed crap.

So the bananas there are manufactured? how about the avocados? or the onions? Man I'm glad, I had no idea they weren't the real deal.

The bananas are some of their produce that look beautiful but go bad the next day, or you notice when you get home they're already overripe to the point of splitting open. The avocados and onions are fine, but they cost 50% more than they should. The only produce that is generally cheap and fresh at TJ's is bagged lettuce.

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Anonymous wrote:We have spending issues and for a family of 3 (2yr old kid) we spend over $1,200 at Trader Joes and Whole Foods. She refuses to shop at regular grocery stores. I bet it would cut our bill by $250-300 if she just went to Giant.

If it is $1200 a month divide that by 4 weeks and that is only $300 a week. I think the cost is reasonable but if you don't, you do the shopping for what your household needs and then you can see what the totals are. Time, convenience, and gas are also factors. Having a young child, I can see why organic food may be of importance to your wife.

In a marriage, pick and choose your battles. Do you have cable? Cell phone? Etc.? There are plenty of ways to cut costs in daily living. As long as she is making healthy food choices for your family, I would recommend looking elsewhere to cut costs.

We spend $400 per month for a family of three - and we eat fresh vegetables and home cooked meals every single day.

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We do not, however, shop at Whole Foods.