Are people really as mean as they seem on DCUM?

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Anonymous wrote:snark+smug=abused=predator. No thanks.

University of Phoenix degree, BS in psychology

Thanks for the insight.

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Anonymous wrote:It's not specific to the DC area, it's just how people are in general. There's an external persona and internal one. When people can speak anonymously they say things that they would never say in real life, so you probably won't ever have to deal with the internal persona other than online. People are generally assholes though, doesn't matter what part of the world you are in.

Sadly, I think this poster has it right. I was born and raised in the DC area and I'm not "mean" IRL, or on DCUM unless someone says something bigoted. I sort of resent the implication that region has anything to do with it. I would bet most of the posters here, mean girls included, are transplants anyway.

Reading DCUM has been a seriously eye-opening experience for me. I guess I'm naive, but I never realized there were so many hateful, bigoted, ignorant, self-righteous people around. It makes me wonder whether people who seem nice are actually thinking horrible things about me.

We are.

LOL

OK, I'm not the PP with the quote that was put in bold, but can someone explain why this is LOL funny? An 8-year-old can make funnier "snappy comebacks" than "we are." Seriously, it deserves an eyeroll.

First poster is attention whoring in a typical girl fashion. Please, please, please tell me that I'm not fat/ugly/stupid. She is accusing the "mean girls" of being insecure, while running her own screaming insecurities up the flagpole for the whole world to see. I wasn't thinking bad things about her until she begged for reassurance.

Second poster gave her a sarcastic response, rather than feeding her needy ego trip.

It was funny to me, probably because I was thinking bad things about first poster and her epic display of neediness.

Exactly! (I'm the "We are" poster.)

And this, ladies and gentlemen, is the famous snark from posters who claim they're smarter than the rest of us. You can pick your jaws off the floor now.

THIS is why I love DCUM. The ironies are endless.

Thanks! We'll be here all week!

And who is the last poster? I'm "And this, ladies and gentlemen...." but I'm not the last poster who comes on to take a bow for it. Weird!

Not me.

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Anonymous wrote:17:09 here (the first one talking about knee-slappers, not the second one thanking the LOL poster, although my hat's off to you, other 17:09 poster)

Yawn. Dear self-proclaimed smart, snarky posters: please let us know when you get some new material. These rehashed one-liners and parrot-like LOLs are a real snooze. I'm off to smarter pastures. Ta ta!

Dear self-proclaimed "nice girls." Please let us know when you decide not combat other people's bitchiness with bitchiness.

Being truthful is not the same as being bitchy.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:seems to be a mix of mean as well as kind and helpful.

I'm from DC and currently in the midwest now. Same mix of mean and kind here.

Wait - you're suggesting that people in the midwest are sometimes mean? But . . . but . . . but . . . I thought it was an article of faith that people in the midwest (the south, too.) are universally kind, loving folk who never utter a harsh word, even anonymously! Say it ain't so, Joe! You'd better be careful, PP, they'll come after you now (kindly and respectfully, of course).

I never said everyone in the Midwest is nice. But sitting on your perch of superiority and looking down your overeducated noses at them isn't nice either, no matter how you look at it. Nice straw man, though.

PP, I'm the poster who commented on the mix of mean and kind. I was being polite. To be more honest than polite: over the last few years that I've spent here, I've actually found more meanness in the midwest than in DC. As I've spent more time in the midwest, I've met more and more nice people. My guess is that as I've adapted to midwestern mannerisms, people have felt more comfortable with me, which is why they've been kinder. Growing up in DC, I've always been immediately welcoming and kind to midwesterners, and many people in DC are the same way. I think people in DC might be less resistant to "outsiders" than midwesterners are.

And, by the way, there really aren't that many sitting on perches of superiority and looking down at midwesterners in DC. That seems to be a default setting for many midwesterners, and it's (mostly) just not so.

Then perhaps you ugly cows could stop using it as your default putdown, okay? Because it sure is that way on this forum. That and the South.

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Anonymous wrote:seems to be a mix of mean as well as kind and helpful.

I'm from DC and currently in the midwest now. Same mix of mean and kind here.

Wait - you're suggesting that people in the midwest are sometimes mean? But . . . but . . . but . . . I thought it was an article of faith that people in the midwest (the south, too.) are universally kind, loving folk who never utter a harsh word, even anonymously! Say it ain't so, Joe! You'd better be careful, PP, they'll come after you now (kindly and respectfully, of course).

I never said everyone in the Midwest is nice. But sitting on your perch of superiority and looking down your overeducated noses at them isn't nice either, no matter how you look at it. Nice straw man, though.

PP, I'm the poster who commented on the mix of mean and kind. I was being polite. To be more honest than polite: over the last few years that I've spent here, I've actually found more meanness in the midwest than in DC. As I've spent more time in the midwest, I've met more and more nice people. My guess is that as I've adapted to midwestern mannerisms, people have felt more comfortable with me, which is why they've been kinder. Growing up in DC, I've always been immediately welcoming and kind to midwesterners, and many people in DC are the same way. I think people in DC might be less resistant to "outsiders" than midwesterners are.

And, by the way, there really aren't that many sitting on perches of superiority and looking down at midwesterners in DC. That seems to be a default setting for many midwesterners, and it's (mostly) just not so.

Then perhaps you ugly cows could stop using it as your default putdown, okay? Because it sure is that way on this forum. That and the South.

Example A: mean Midwesterner projecting insecurity about body image onto DC and the South.

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PP, I'm the poster who commented on the mix of mean and kind. I was being polite. To be more honest than polite: over the last few years that I've spent here, I've actually found more meanness in the midwest than in DC. As I've spent more time in the midwest, I've met more and more nice people. My guess is that as I've adapted to midwestern mannerisms, people have felt more comfortable with me, which is why they've been kinder. Growing up in DC, I've always been immediately welcoming and kind to midwesterners, and many people in DC are the same way. I think people in DC might be less resistant to "outsiders" than midwesterners are.

And, by the way, there really aren't that many sitting on perches of superiority and looking down at midwesterners in DC. That seems to be a default setting for many midwesterners, and it's (mostly) just not so.

Then perhaps you ugly cows could stop using it as your default putdown, okay? Because it sure is that way on this forum. That and the South.

Example A: mean Midwesterner projecting insecurity about body image onto DC and the South.

Exhibit A: poster who thinks she has DCUM telepathy and insults the wrong person.

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PP, I'm the poster who commented on the mix of mean and kind. I was being polite. To be more honest than polite: over the last few years that I've spent here, I've actually found more meanness in the midwest than in DC. As I've spent more time in the midwest, I've met more and more nice people. My guess is that as I've adapted to midwestern mannerisms, people have felt more comfortable with me, which is why they've been kinder. Growing up in DC, I've always been immediately welcoming and kind to midwesterners, and many people in DC are the same way. I think people in DC might be less resistant to "outsiders" than midwesterners are.

And, by the way, there really aren't that many sitting on perches of superiority and looking down at midwesterners in DC. That seems to be a default setting for many midwesterners, and it's (mostly) just not so.

Then perhaps you ugly cows could stop using it as your default putdown, okay? Because it sure is that way on this forum. That and the South.

Example A: mean Midwesterner projecting insecurity about body image onto DC and the South.

Exhibit A: poster who thinks she has DCUM telepathy and insults the wrong person.

Exhibit B: poster who insults PP, posts to one-up PP and ends up with massive fail.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's not specific to the DC area, it's just how people are in general. There's an external persona and internal one. When people can speak anonymously they say things that they would never say in real life, so you probably won't ever have to deal with the internal persona other than online. People are generally assholes though, doesn't matter what part of the world you are in.

Successful people are more often than not assholes. There are a lot of successful (and yes, overeducated) people in D.C. Ergo, there are a lot of assholes in D.C. (and on DCUM).

Spoken like an unsuccessful person.

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Of course--I'm from the midwest, and can't wait to get the heck out of DC. I don't think that people in DC are that nice, generally.

I agree. Never understood the sense of superiority and entitlement, either.

We're better educated than the people in the average midwestern city.

I think this is funny. Better educated than all the people in the average midwestern city? I'm currently in DC, and moving to an "average midwestern city" in a few months to become a professor at a major university--will I become less educated when I move? I know people in DC love to think they're smarter and better educated than everyone, but it's just a symptom of the ridiculous myopia that plagues this city. I can't wait to leave.

A higher percentage of the DMV has master's degrees or more advanced degrees than anywhere else in the US.

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Anonymous wrote:seems to be a mix of mean as well as kind and helpful.

I'm from DC and currently in the midwest now. Same mix of mean and kind here.

Wait - you're suggesting that people in the midwest are sometimes mean? But . . . but . . . but . . . I thought it was an article of faith that people in the midwest (the south, too.) are universally kind, loving folk who never utter a harsh word, even anonymously! Say it ain't so, Joe! You'd better be careful, PP, they'll come after you now (kindly and respectfully, of course).

I never said everyone in the Midwest is nice. But sitting on your perch of superiority and looking down your overeducated noses at them isn't nice either, no matter how you look at it. Nice straw man, though.

PP, I'm the poster who commented on the mix of mean and kind. I was being polite. To be more honest than polite: over the last few years that I've spent here, I've actually found more meanness in the midwest than in DC. As I've spent more time in the midwest, I've met more and more nice people. My guess is that as I've adapted to midwestern mannerisms, people have felt more comfortable with me, which is why they've been kinder. Growing up in DC, I've always been immediately welcoming and kind to midwesterners, and many people in DC are the same way. I think people in DC might be less resistant to "outsiders" than midwesterners are.

And, by the way, there really aren't that many sitting on perches of superiority and looking down at midwesterners in DC. That seems to be a default setting for many midwesterners, and it's (mostly) just not so.

Then perhaps you ugly cows could stop using it as your default putdown, okay? Because it sure is that way on this forum. That and the South.

Example A: mean Midwesterner projecting insecurity about body image onto DC and the South.

No, not body image. Your insides are what's ugly.

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Of course--I'm from the midwest, and can't wait to get the heck out of DC. I don't think that people in DC are that nice, generally.

I agree. Never understood the sense of superiority and entitlement, either.

We're better educated than the people in the average midwestern city.

I think this is funny. Better educated than all the people in the average midwestern city? I'm currently in DC, and moving to an "average midwestern city" in a few months to become a professor at a major university--will I become less educated when I move? I know people in DC love to think they're smarter and better educated than everyone, but it's just a symptom of the ridiculous myopia that plagues this city. I can't wait to leave.

A higher percentage of the DMV has master's degrees or more advanced degrees than anywhere else in the US.

Let me break it down for you. BIG. FUCKING. DEAL. As was mentioned before, being highly educated is not correlated with being nice, as evidenced by all of you "educated" posters on this thread who clearly like to sneer down your nose at the rest of the country. All the degrees in the world are not going to make a smug person with a superiority complex a nice person. No, other people aren't jealous of you. They just think (probably rightly so) that you are a bunch of fucking assholes. Is that clear enough for you now?

BTW, I am highly educated and wish I could bitch slap all of you obnoxious judgy wenches. No one gives a damn how educated you are. Shut the fuck up already.

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Then perhaps you ugly cows could stop using it as your default putdown, okay? Because it sure is that way on this forum. That and the South.

Example A: mean Midwesterner projecting insecurity about body image onto DC and the South.

Exhibit A: poster who thinks she has DCUM telepathy and insults the wrong person.

Exhibit B: poster who insults PP, posts to one-up PP and ends up with massive fail.

Exhibit C: poster at 8:17, the last PP, can't think of anything new so she copycats previous posts. In the process, she confuses example/exhibit and massive/epic. Tell us again how "smart" your snark is.

[Anonymous]

If you expect people to be mean, they will. Look at this thread

Maybe it is just me. If I am genuinely in a quandary and need help, I will come here.