"My child is so mature and so independant for her age..."

[Anonymous]

This thread is also 6 years old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is also 6 years old.

But the discussion is still relevant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't buy the theory. I would describe my kids as very mature and independent for their age, but I also describe myself as a borderline helicopter parent. The difference is that I push them to do adult things, but I'm always right there to support them. For example, my almost-3yo daily does big-kid chores like setting the table, putting away laundry, taking out recycling, loading the dishwasher, helping with meals, etc., but for the most part I am right beside him. And my kids regularly play work out disagreements over toys, etc. without my help, but always with me within earshot, so that they can bounce off me for help, or I can step in if things get out of hand. So, while I agree that there are parents who borderline neglect their kids and then congratulate themselves on valuing independence, I think it's both unfair and unwise to tar anyone who values independence with the same brush.

Your 2 yo can load the dishwasher and take out recyclables? Unassisted?

my 6 yo brother cant even unload all the dishes, a 3 yo cant be tall enough

[Anonymous]

I am an involved mom and I am having this problem, My daughter will be 17 and she thinks like a 30 year old. Do I want her to? of course not, She is unable to relate to other kids her age, she find adolecent activities uninteresting, she would like to be invloved more but has no tolerance for gossip and teenage drama.
I try to tell her teenage drama is a part of growing up, parties, dances etc... but she feel awkward in these situations. Sometimes she is ok with it and sometimes its very upsetting that she is often alone and cant relate to anyone.
any advice?

[Anonymous]

Get help, OP. Clearly, you have issues.

[Anonymous]

This was an interesting thread 7 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get help, OP. Clearly, you have issues.

OP had issues in 2011. Hopefully they’ve moved on.

[Anonymous]

Not truly mature. The term is pseudomature. As an elementary teacher I saw this a lot and it was concerning. I would much rather my daughter be one of the average kids than a mature, socially adept, popular child. It sounds crazy, but kids who peak early don’t fare well.