Spring break cruise coordination drama—do I just drop it?

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Anonymous wrote:Cruises are awful. Hope you don't get sick. Neighbors just got back from one and had nori virus 3 days in.

From the seaweed?

The way I snort laughed.
I hate cruises and the germs are one of my reasons but this was hilarious

Same here. I actually got noro virus on the last (and last ever) cruise I went on, and that was exceptionally clever.

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Anonymous wrote:$16 on a peice of plastic fabric trash...that, shortly after the trip, will end up in the landfill or the ocean.

But yeah, that one photo that you looked at once and posted to instagram, is priceless.

What difference does it make? It's not like they were going to go shirtless. Amazon, Walmart, Bonobos, Tommy Bahama, all the same in the end.

The difference is, they all could have just worn a shirt they already owned and will actually wear again. OP’s dumb plan is just induced demand for garbage that will never be used again.

But then it's not a prank on husbands to unknowingly show up in the exact same shirt. Are you always this slow?

The only people that want to do this just want to post about it on social media. It’s the same people who wear matching shirts to Disney.

So do you create a stink in a group chat and try to do something completely different or do you just bow out gracefully?

DP. I would check with my husband. I’d say “hey, they’re trying to organize this dumb thing. Do you want to play along and wear this cheap, ugly shirt, or do you want to be the only one not wearing it?”

Every party has a pooper. It’s supposed to be a joke that you don’t tell your husband about, but some people have no sense of humor.

This is not the barometer for whether or not someone has a sense of humor.

It pretty much is. The sticks are lodged way up there.

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Anonymous wrote:This is typical of people who frequent Disney and cruises. Generally white and trashy

These people are all going on the cruise already. They clearly would never be as cool as you.

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Anonymous wrote:We’re going on a cruise for spring break that’s basically an extended family reunion. It’s a mix of people I’m very close to and others I barely know. We have a FB group for the trip.

A while back (and yes, maybe this was my first mistake), I suggested in a women-only post that we have one night where all the men show up wearing the same tropical shirt (“Caribbean Night” on the ship). I had seen it done on another cruise and it looked really fun in photos. Everyone loved the idea at the time. I said I’d pick something simple and post a link closer to sailing.

Fast forward to now. I found a very basic tropical shirt (similar to the example I originally shared with the group) on Amazon and posted the link, thinking this would be the easiest option for everyone. It’s NOT expensive and is on sale right now for $16 and change, and has great reviews. Still, cue the complaints.

Someone doesn’t want to order from Amazon.
Someone doesn’t like the color because it doesn’t coordinate with what she planned to wear.
Someone else says it won’t match what her kids are wearing.

It’s a basic tropical shirt. I intentionally kept it simple so it wouldn’t be over the top. Most people seem fine with it, but the few who aren’t are VERY loud. I don’t really want to abandon the idea because I think it would be fun and harmless, but I’m also annoyed that something meant to be lighthearted has turned into such a production.

WWYD? Drop it entirely? Try to crowd-source a different option and appease everyone? Or just say “this is the shirt, totally optional” and let it go?

Would love perspective before I dig myself in deeper.

Drop it. Too many people to please. Next…

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Anonymous wrote:Can they jsut buy their own shirt? So it's just hawaiin shirt night? And some people match and others don't and life goes on.

They could, but it defeats the purpose and they’ll look out of place in the photo.

This is so tacky. Cruises are bad enough, but matching outfits. Come on. Just let it go. People are trying to be nice and don't want to hurt your feelings, but they don't want to be dressed up like 3 year olds.

OP here. It’s not mandatory. Clearly they want to join in, but only on their terms.

You want to do it? Here’s the shirt.
You don’t? Don’t.

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Anonymous wrote:Ohhh. Iget it. It's a prank on the husbands? That they're all wearign the exact same shirt.

The husbands whose wives won't participate will probably be sad.

I think you have to lead with that.

Maybe women who are resisting could pair up together and their husbands twin (instead of whole group). Or you could suggest they buy a second shirt of their choosing for their husbands to change into after the prank.

Not OP but yes, I believe this is what OP is thinking.
So, the plan one day is "meet for brunch on the Lido deck at 11" and all the husbands arrive wearing the same shirt. It seems fun!

I'm sorry to be dense, but why is it fun? What is fun about it? I honestly don't get it.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is what OP was thinking

https://www.nbcdfw.com/news/local/fathers-day-same-shirt-prank-texas-church/3865294/

This is father's day, so at least there is some sense to it.

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Anonymous wrote:This is typical of people who frequent Disney and cruises. Generally white and trashy

These people are all going on the cruise already. They clearly would never be as cool as you.

I go to disney and on cruises pretty frequently and I can assure you that th large family groups that have matching clothes items are not exclusively white and in fact are probably less likely to be white than the American population as a whole. Because white peoples are generally less likely to travel in large family groups, if we want to put people in racial categories.

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Anonymous wrote:This is typical of people who frequent Disney and cruises. Generally white and trashy

These people are all going on the cruise already. They clearly would never be as cool as you.

I go to disney and on cruises pretty frequently and I can assure you that th large family groups that have matching clothes items are not exclusively white and in fact are probably less likely to be white than the American population as a whole. Because white peoples are generally less likely to travel in large family groups, if we want to put people in racial categories.

This isn’t about race or even cruises. The people still scratching their head at what OP is talking about are just hopeless at this point. You could do the shirt joke at church, home, a restaurant, school, wherever. The cruise is totally irrelevant.

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Anonymous wrote:Ohhh. Iget it. It's a prank on the husbands? That they're all wearign the exact same shirt.

The husbands whose wives won't participate will probably be sad.

I think you have to lead with that.

Maybe women who are resisting could pair up together and their husbands twin (instead of whole group). Or you could suggest they buy a second shirt of their choosing for their husbands to change into after the prank.

Not OP but yes, I believe this is what OP is thinking.
So, the plan one day is "meet for brunch on the Lido deck at 11" and all the husbands arrive wearing the same shirt. It seems fun!

I'm sorry to be dense, but why is it fun? What is fun about it? I honestly don't get it.

Some things just are meant for you. Sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:This is typical of people who frequent Disney and cruises. Generally white and trashy

These people are all going on the cruise already. They clearly would never be as cool as you.

I go to disney and on cruises pretty frequently and I can assure you that th large family groups that have matching clothes items are not exclusively white and in fact are probably less likely to be white than the American population as a whole. Because white peoples are generally less likely to travel in large family groups, if we want to put people in racial categories.

Can we please just hate on cruises and Disney Adults without bringing racism into it?

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The only person labeling this as drama is you. Get an AI program that inserts the shirts you want. Let everyone enjoy a night out. Enjoy your picture. Done.

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Please OP, keep this thread going through the cruise! And post pictures too! This has all the makings of a DCUM classic thread, right up there with Bobcat Girl and the Ruth's Chris NY's Eve with a baby. Cuckoo cruise mom fixating on a group selfie of dads wearing Amazon Hawaiin shirts - you can't make this up!

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This sounds exhausting

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Yeah, I'm not taking up room in my suitcase with some cheap ugly amazon shirt

op, just say, "unless someone sends an alternate I like, I'm going to order this one - feel free to join me and order this one, or order another one, or just not participate! can't wait to see everyone!"