So tired of the wait

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Junior parent question, does anyone ever pull their RD apps and just go with an EA? If the more they think of it your kid is actually really excited about one of those EA acceptances, do you let the whole process play out or just put down the deposit, buy the sweatshirt and call it a day? Or are you so close you might as well wait?

why would you pull it? its already paid for .. its a free option now ... just wait.

[Anonymous]

From my student’s list of 9 schools (mostly liberal arts colleges), only 3 offered EA and two of those resulted in deferrals. So, yes, many of us are in the long game and waiting, waiting, waiting…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Junior parent question, does anyone ever pull their RD apps and just go with an EA? If the more they think of it your kid is actually really excited about one of those EA acceptances, do you let the whole process play out or just put down the deposit, buy the sweatshirt and call it a day? Or are you so close you might as well wait?

We’re waiting on nine RD schools. One is so unrealistic it’s really eight. Of those I’d say maybe half would be more appealing than their best EA offer. None of those have an acceptance rate higher than 5%. Even if 1/2 of applicants to those schools are unqualified, the odds remain slim.

So yeah. I think we’re about to buy the sweatshirt lol

[Anonymous]

Waiting on a bunch of deferrals and waitlisted at his #1. He has some good options with merit and honors from EA, so we are proceeding as if those are really going to be the pool from which he chooses. Going to visit three of them in the coming weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD is waiting for super selective merit full rides to extremely selective colleges. She wants to use her 529 for graduate school. She also says that some of these semi-finalist decisions guarantee admission to those extremely selective schools. She is in for a few great EAs. All good here and I would like her to stop talking about colleges.

Let us know how this works out!

Will do. DD had her first-round interviews and now she’s just waiting to hear whether she’s moving on to the next round. I can’t help but wonder if some of these “merit-based” scholarships quietly take financial need into account, even though they say they don’t. We definitely don’t qualify for need-based aid at all.

I have to say, I’m really looking forward to being done with all this college talk.

[Anonymous]

OP I can relate. I feel like I’m being eaten from the inside. It’s awful. The big announcements on social media and the lack of empathy from those who have gotten in only turn up the heat for DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I can relate. I feel like I’m being eaten from the inside. It’s awful. The big announcements on social media and the lack of empathy from those who have gotten in only turn up the heat for DC.

Do you expect students to not celebrate their acceptances just because yours is still waiting? Deal with it! Signed, parent of student deferred at first choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I can relate. I feel like I’m being eaten from the inside. It’s awful. The big announcements on social media and the lack of empathy from those who have gotten in only turn up the heat for DC.

Do you expect students to not celebrate their acceptances just because yours is still waiting? Deal with it! Signed, parent of student deferred at first choice.

Our HS doesn’t start the Instagram webpage until April 1st. It’s much healthier. Kids can tell their friends or whatever- but the school page doesn’t go up early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I can relate. I feel like I’m being eaten from the inside. It’s awful. The big announcements on social media and the lack of empathy from those who have gotten in only turn up the heat for DC.

Do you expect students to not celebrate their acceptances just because yours is still waiting? Deal with it! Signed, parent of student deferred at first choice.

DP. Why be nasty? It is absolutely possible to be happy for those who got in but still feel stress from the uncertainty of not knowing where you will be, literally, in less than six months. This is the empathy.

[Anonymous]

The best way to survive this process is to do three things:
1. Heavy drinking
2. Gummies
3. Apply to colleges that not everyone else in your school and area cares about

[Anonymous]

Reread the reach RD entire apps now with a critical eye.

You’ll be able to truthfully tell which if any are actually compelling pretty easily.

[Anonymous]

OP, I feel it too. One thing that helped my DC was applying to some rolling admissions schools and a variety of EA schools. He received decisions in November, December, and January. That has made waiting for March a bit easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD is waiting for super selective merit full rides to extremely selective colleges. She wants to use her 529 for graduate school. She also says that some of these semi-finalist decisions guarantee admission to those extremely selective schools. She is in for a few great EAs. All good here and I would like her to stop talking about colleges.

Let us know how this works out!

Will do. DD had her first-round interviews and now she’s just waiting to hear whether she’s moving on to the next round. I can’t help but wonder if some of these “merit-based” scholarships quietly take financial need into account, even though they say they don’t. We definitely don’t qualify for need-based aid at all.

I have to say, I’m really looking forward to being done with all this college talk.

Which schools do more than one round of interviews? ? My kid was accepted to a few Ivies RD in 2024 and only had one interview at each of them.

[Anonymous]

^ I’m guessing the above poster is referring to full ride merit scholarship interviews. My husband is a professor and he’s been conducting these interviews as a scholarship committee member at his LAC for the past 2 weeks. At his school, it’s for full tuition and full room & board, plus stipends for things like a computer, study abroad, etc. Very competitive process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I can relate. I feel like I’m being eaten from the inside. It’s awful. The big announcements on social media and the lack of empathy from those who have gotten in only turn up the heat for DC.

Do you expect students to not celebrate their acceptances just because yours is still waiting? Deal with it! Signed, parent of student deferred at first choice.

Our HS doesn’t start the Instagram webpage until April 1st. It’s much healthier. Kids can tell their friends or whatever- but the school page doesn’t go up early.