So tired of the wait

[Anonymous]

Try to put it out of your mind. At least you all have the comfort of knowing that your kids are admitted somewhere.

Don’t live in the future. It is your kids’ last year of high school, last year of living home…in some ways the last year of childhood .
Savor the normal days of eating with them each night, knowing they are safe in bed when you rest your head on the pillow each night. You have that today…and it is fleeting.

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Anonymous wrote:We applied early and knew by the end of Nov. I don’t understand why students wait. Do you?

“We applied early”?

Did you apply to college too?

As in family. Parents are paying the tuition.

Yeah, of course they are. Doesn’t change the fact that it’s the kid’s process and the kid’s life.

But you know — you’ve got OP up there stressing about her kids’ applications seemingly more than they are.

Oh give it a rest. Parents can be just as invested (or not, in your case) whether they like to or not. To each their own.

They can. But it doesn’t make it healthy.

I’m so happy my parents didn’t participate in my application process at all.

I plan to stay out of my kid’s process.

LOL. Wait til your smartest kid decides he wants to study anthropology at Florida Gulf Coast University because he intends to get buff & tan & bang a bunch of babes.

“Oh and by the way, FGCU costs $100,000/yr, so better delay that retirement, dad.”

Not being involved “at all” in the college application process is like buying a house without even seeing a picture of it. When 18 year olds can again afford college on the proceeds of a summer job, parents will happily duck out of the picture.

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Anonymous wrote:We applied early and knew by the end of Nov. I don’t understand why students wait. Do you?

“We applied early”?

Did you apply to college too?

As in family. Parents are paying the tuition.

Yeah, of course they are. Doesn’t change the fact that it’s the kid’s process and the kid’s life.

But you know — you’ve got OP up there stressing about her kids’ applications seemingly more than they are.

Oh give it a rest. Parents can be just as invested (or not, in your case) whether they like to or not. To each their own.

They can. But it doesn’t make it healthy.

I’m so happy my parents didn’t participate in my application process at all.

I plan to stay out of my kid’s process.

LOL. Wait til your smartest kid decides he wants to study anthropology at Florida Gulf Coast University because he intends to get buff & tan & bang a bunch of babes.

“Oh and by the way, FGCU costs $100,000/yr, so better delay that retirement, dad.”

Not being involved “at all” in the college application process is like buying a house without even seeing a picture of it. When 18 year olds can again afford college on the proceeds of a summer job, parents will happily duck out of the picture.

I was class of 2009 for college. It was expensive.

My parents trusted my college counselor and I to handle it.

[Anonymous]

My kid has private school options with significant merit and OOS flagship options with DC TAG, but is waiting on a few full pay options that they're really excited about. I'd like to have some peace of mind around what the costs will be, as well as the logistics of navigating potentially different geographic locations. There are a few in play they haven't visited yet, so we're waiting to schedule a potential spring break trip to see final choice schools. We knew it would likely be a waiting game, but that doesn't mean it isn't a little nerve racking to haves so much in flux.

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Anonymous wrote:We applied early and knew by the end of Nov. I don’t understand why students wait. Do you?

“We applied early”?

Did you apply to college too?

As in family. Parents are paying the tuition.

Yeah, of course they are. Doesn’t change the fact that it’s the kid’s process and the kid’s life.

But you know — you’ve got OP up there stressing about her kids’ applications seemingly more than they are.

Oh give it a rest. Parents can be just as invested (or not, in your case) whether they like to or not. To each their own.

They can. But it doesn’t make it healthy.

I’m so happy my parents didn’t participate in my application process at all.

I plan to stay out of my kid’s process.

LOL. Wait til your smartest kid decides he wants to study anthropology at Florida Gulf Coast University because he intends to get buff & tan & bang a bunch of babes.

“Oh and by the way, FGCU costs $100,000/yr, so better delay that retirement, dad.”

Not being involved “at all” in the college application process is like buying a house without even seeing a picture of it. When 18 year olds can again afford college on the proceeds of a summer job, parents will happily duck out of the picture.

I was class of 2009 for college. It was expensive.

My parents trusted my college counselor and I to handle it.

and me.

My college counselor and me.

Go eat a praise sandwich, Millennial.
You have no power here.

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Anonymous wrote:We applied early and knew by the end of Nov. I don’t understand why students wait. Do you?

“We applied early”?

Did you apply to college too?

As in family. Parents are paying the tuition.

Yeah, of course they are. Doesn’t change the fact that it’s the kid’s process and the kid’s life.

But you know — you’ve got OP up there stressing about her kids’ applications seemingly more than they are.

Oh give it a rest. Parents can be just as invested (or not, in your case) whether they like to or not. To each their own.

They can. But it doesn’t make it healthy.

I’m so happy my parents didn’t participate in my application process at all.

I plan to stay out of my kid’s process.

LOL. Wait til your smartest kid decides he wants to study anthropology at Florida Gulf Coast University because he intends to get buff & tan & bang a bunch of babes.

“Oh and by the way, FGCU costs $100,000/yr, so better delay that retirement, dad.”

Not being involved “at all” in the college application process is like buying a house without even seeing a picture of it. When 18 year olds can again afford college on the proceeds of a summer job, parents will happily duck out of the picture.

I was class of 2009 for college. It was expensive.

My parents trusted my college counselor and I to handle it.

and me.

My college counselor and me.

Go eat a praise sandwich, Millennial.
You have no power here.

Go obsess over your kid’s college application, while you talk about how “we’re applying to college.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We applied early and knew by the end of Nov. I don’t understand why students wait. Do you?

“We applied early”?

Did you apply to college too?

As in family. Parents are paying the tuition.

Yeah, of course they are. Doesn’t change the fact that it’s the kid’s process and the kid’s life.

But you know — you’ve got OP up there stressing about her kids’ applications seemingly more than they are.

Oh give it a rest. Parents can be just as invested (or not, in your case) whether they like to or not. To each their own.

They can. But it doesn’t make it healthy.

I’m so happy my parents didn’t participate in my application process at all.

I plan to stay out of my kid’s process.

You have no child going through this process, and no clue how much it has changed since the 90’s. Yet you are qualified to judge the OP harshly (and repeatedly) in a public forum? Your antipathy towards other parents is what’s unhealthy.

Don’t you have a hobby?

I’m not old enough to have gone to college in the 90s.

I’m just calling you all out for being way too invested in this process.

NP. I have a child going through the process and I went to college in 90s. A lot has changed but reality is that the overwhelming majority of kids are waiting until spring to finalize where they are going. What has changed is how much we expect instant gratification. But in adult life sometimes we have to wait for life to play and we have to savor the moment too. This is good practice for the future.


Separately I think on this board, there is quite a lot of blurring of emotional lines between kid and parent. While it likely occurs in real life too, people are much more conscious of how the come off, so I don’t see think we are an extreme here.

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Anonymous wrote:We applied early and knew by the end of Nov. I don’t understand why students wait. Do you?

“We applied early”?

Did you apply to college too?

As in family. Parents are paying the tuition.

Yeah, of course they are. Doesn’t change the fact that it’s the kid’s process and the kid’s life.

But you know — you’ve got OP up there stressing about her kids’ applications seemingly more than they are.

Oh give it a rest. Parents can be just as invested (or not, in your case) whether they like to or not. To each their own.

They can. But it doesn’t make it healthy.

I’m so happy my parents didn’t participate in my application process at all.

I plan to stay out of my kid’s process.

You have no child going through this process, and no clue how much it has changed since the 90’s. Yet you are qualified to judge the OP harshly (and repeatedly) in a public forum? Your antipathy towards other parents is what’s unhealthy.

Don’t you have a hobby?

I’m not old enough to have gone to college in the 90s.

I’m just calling you all out for being way too invested in this process.

NP. I have a child going through the process and I went to college in 90s. A lot has changed but reality is that the overwhelming majority of kids are waiting until spring to finalize where they are going. What has changed is how much we expect instant gratification. But in adult life sometimes we have to wait for life to play and we have to savor the moment too. This is good practice for the future.


Separately I think on this board, there is quite a lot of blurring of emotional lines between kid and parent. While it likely occurs in real life too, people are much more conscious of how the come off, so I don’t see think we are an extreme here.

Correction: I think we see extremes on this board bc people don’t need to modulate as they would in company.

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Anonymous wrote:We applied early and knew by the end of Nov. I don’t understand why students wait. Do you?

“We applied early”?

Did you apply to college too?

As in family. Parents are paying the tuition.

Yeah, of course they are. Doesn’t change the fact that it’s the kid’s process and the kid’s life.

But you know — you’ve got OP up there stressing about her kids’ applications seemingly more than they are.

Oh give it a rest. Parents can be just as invested (or not, in your case) whether they like to or not. To each their own.

They can. But it doesn’t make it healthy.

I’m so happy my parents didn’t participate in my application process at all.

I plan to stay out of my kid’s process.

LOL. Wait til your smartest kid decides he wants to study anthropology at Florida Gulf Coast University because he intends to get buff & tan & bang a bunch of babes.

“Oh and by the way, FGCU costs $100,000/yr, so better delay that retirement, dad.”

Not being involved “at all” in the college application process is like buying a house without even seeing a picture of it. When 18 year olds can again afford college on the proceeds of a summer job, parents will happily duck out of the picture.

I was class of 2009 for college. It was expensive.

My parents trusted my college counselor and I to handle it.

and me.

My college counselor and me.

Go eat a praise sandwich, Millennial.
You have no power here.

Go obsess over your kid’s college application, while you talk about how “we’re applying to college.”

Why are you even here? Your kid hasn’t even applied to college yet. Yet here you are, not just reading but actively participating in the discussion on the college forum in the middle of the day on a Wednesday. Is this what “staying out of the process” looks like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is absolutely just a vent post since this waiting feels like such a long slog. I have twins and both got into safeties but they still have almost two more months to wait on deferral/RDs. They're doing ok with it but it feels so unsettling to me. And then it will be a rush to visit admitted student days in April, make decisions, etc. I know it's all part of the process -- and again I'm just whining since I can't do it anywhere else -- but I've lost any of the college excitement with all this waiting. Vent over.

Ok

[Anonymous]

My TJ kid was rejected SCEA. Waiting on many schools RD. Feels fortunate for UVA acceptance, but doesn't want to go there. Says they wouldn't have had to work as hard at base high school to end up at UVA anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:We applied early and knew by the end of Nov. I don’t understand why students wait. Do you?

“We applied early”?

Did you apply to college too?

As in family. Parents are paying the tuition.

Yeah, of course they are. Doesn’t change the fact that it’s the kid’s process and the kid’s life.

But you know — you’ve got OP up there stressing about her kids’ applications seemingly more than they are.

Oh give it a rest. Parents can be just as invested (or not, in your case) whether they like to or not. To each their own.

They can. But it doesn’t make it healthy.

I’m so happy my parents didn’t participate in my application process at all.

I plan to stay out of my kid’s process.

LOL. Wait til your smartest kid decides he wants to study anthropology at Florida Gulf Coast University because he intends to get buff & tan & bang a bunch of babes.

“Oh and by the way, FGCU costs $100,000/yr, so better delay that retirement, dad.”

Not being involved “at all” in the college application process is like buying a house without even seeing a picture of it. When 18 year olds can again afford college on the proceeds of a summer job, parents will happily duck out of the picture.

I was class of 2009 for college. It was expensive.

My parents trusted my college counselor and I to handle it.

and me.

My college counselor and me.

Go eat a praise sandwich, Millennial.
You have no power here.

Go obsess over your kid’s college application, while you talk about how “we’re applying to college.”

I am the poster who said, "I'm so up in my kid's process I'm wearing it as a hat."



We're having fun with it. I'm a widow and single parent, and my kids and I are ride or die. We're a team. We're happy to be alive and on the roller coaster.

Together.

The cool thing about boundaries isn't that they form us into little atomized, self-contained units: It's that they allow us to heal and grow and thrive as individuals while also connecting deeply to others through mutually-supportive shared experiences.

Boundaries aren't cool bc they separate us: It's that they make the healthy "we" possible.

So OF COURSE this process is one we're engaged in together. We all need support and guidance. Some people pay for support; some people find it at school and in their communities; and some people are supported by their families. Some are lucky enough to enjoy a combination.

"We" have separate lives and experiences -- and also go through the rough patches together, and ride the highs together.

And wait -- together.

Also, I'm pretty sure it's appropriate to say "we" since I fully wrote at least 2/3 of their essays on their behalf (gpt did the rest.)

j/k! just funny to see you clench like that lol

But genuinely: I feel sad for those who don't get to have the experience of being a highly-invested, deeply-committed member of another person's team. Or their beloved child's team -- right as they prepare for a really big, significant life transition. It's really pretty great -- though the waiting isssss sooooo lonnnnggggggggggggggg

I love that my kids are fully independent humans who know that they are never, ever in this alone.

We are 10000% a team. 100000% a "we."
And not only do they agree, but they'd wear it on a t-shirt lol.

Ride or die!

Gonna go log back into my kid's portals and refresh for a while. Just for funsies.

Enjoy your weird sense of superiority about being uninvolved while you... troll the college forums on DCUM at noon on a Wednesday.

* LIKE. A. HAT.

lol

[Anonymous]

On the positive side, waiting means you haven't been rejected from the schools you are waiting on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My TJ kid was rejected SCEA. Waiting on many schools RD. Feels fortunate for UVA acceptance, but doesn't want to go there. Says they wouldn't have had to work as hard at base high school to end up at UVA anyway.

hallelujah

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As much as I am waiting for the results, I also want the time to go super slow.
I want the college move day to come as far away as possible .

I just said this yesterday! Speed up and slow down time at the same time.