My high stats kid running out of steam

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is playing a fall sport, a club sport, is in 3 ap classes and volunteers on weekends, and is applying to a couple special programs with unique requirements in addition to the reach/target/ safety thing. She started the essays, but I’m finishing them for her to proofread. I’m handling the common app profile, fafsa, css, college board, and everything else that goes along with this process. The whole thing is very bureaucratic and it’s unrealistic to ask a hs senior to know how to navigate it.

I’m sure colleges won’t notice the adult voice.

When I’m done editing I make sure she goes back in and adds the phrases “lowkey mid” and “aura farming” in a couple spots.

[Anonymous]

Senior year around here is hard, which is sad because it is the end of their childhood.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We are fortunate that our school (private) provides a clear time table with deadlines beginning in mid August. Our seniors can't attend preseason sports practise until common app essay and activity list first drafts are done, and all essays for a kid's top choice school are due before school even starts. There are a lot of safeguards in place to make sure kids are on track. Separately,.all my neighbors/friends from both public and private schools hire essay coaches. I am sharing this because kids applying to top schools without some type of support (from school, parents, non profit groups or paid) are at a clear disadvantage in our area.

I totally agree with this.

My kid only had us and is at an Ivy. We knew him better than some random counselor would. He got in unhooked to 15 out of 16 schools after all the horror stories we heard. No way would I pay a stranger thousands of dollars to find an authentic voice for my kid.

No- not everyone is paying for essay coaches and private counselors. In fact, a lot of these pays strangers strip the authenticity right out of the application.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Senior year around here is hard, which is sad because it is the end of their childhood.

It is so stressful.

Junior year was cake compared to Fall of Senior year.

It is the toughest academically and all of the stress of applying to college, Fall sport, etc.

I must have blocked out the ptsd I had from 2 years ago with my firstborn. It’s all coming back…

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Never been so thankful for this forum. I have been on here off and on since pregnant with my son. This is exactly what was needed today. Appreciate the support!

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Anonymous wrote:This is a very important once-in-a-lifetime experience. It’s exactly NOT the time to allow the kid to fizzle out. Give him whatever incentives/encouragement/kicks in ass that will work to keep him focused & productive.

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You will have so many regrets if you don't help them.....ask all the moms who come here in March depressed and can't get off this site bc their kid is now heading to Canada or the UK.

I help with brainstorming and editing, but if you’re suggesting we “write” it (and it sounds like you are?), my kid would never let me write her essays.

Yeah this is our house too. My kid has good ideas but sometimes needs help with the structure/flow of his work. But he's doing the work. And started early because duh, the beginning of the school year can be challenging enough on its own. And plus also, 20 schools?? That's just so crazy to me. Our kid stopped at 6 and got everything in way before the deadline and already has an acceptance back.

Really? High stats? Aiming for T20?
And only 6 apps?
Weird.

The kid knows what he wants. He got into his top choice already. And yes one of those T20 schools y'all are some amped about. Got a little extra merit for applying early even. He's not crazy high stats by dcum standards but he's up there.
Now we wait to see if he gets into any of the others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is playing a fall sport, a club sport, is in 3 ap classes and volunteers on weekends, and is applying to a couple special programs with unique requirements in addition to the reach/target/ safety thing. She started the essays, but I’m finishing them for her to proofread. I’m handling the common app profile, fafsa, css, college board, and everything else that goes along with this process. The whole thing is very bureaucratic and it’s unrealistic to ask a hs senior to know how to navigate it.

I’m sure colleges won’t notice the adult voice.

When I’m done editing I make sure she goes back in and adds the phrases “lowkey mid” and “aura farming” in a couple spots.

LOL!!! This made my day and exactly what I needed after reading this thread and going through all this same stress with my senior. I'm going to show it to my kid when they come back from school as well to help lighten things up in this final stretch before 11/1. My 15yr old will probably appreciate these terms more - we'll save it for 2yrs from now as a reminder

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is playing a fall sport, a club sport, is in 3 ap classes and volunteers on weekends, and is applying to a couple special programs with unique requirements in addition to the reach/target/ safety thing. She started the essays, but I’m finishing them for her to proofread. I’m handling the common app profile, fafsa, css, college board, and everything else that goes along with this process. The whole thing is very bureaucratic and it’s unrealistic to ask a hs senior to know how to navigate it.

I’m sure colleges won’t notice the adult voice.

When I’m done editing I make sure she goes back in and adds the phrases “lowkey mid” and “aura farming” in a couple spots.

How about "cooked" and "that's so aesthetic" and "out-of-pocket" (meaning crazy, not unavailable).

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a very important once-in-a-lifetime experience. It’s exactly NOT the time to allow the kid to fizzle out. Give him whatever incentives/encouragement/kicks in ass that will work to keep him focused & productive.

100%
You will have so many regrets if you don't help them.....ask all the moms who come here in March depressed and can't get off this site bc their kid is now heading to Canada or the UK.

I help with brainstorming and editing, but if you’re suggesting we “write” it (and it sounds like you are?), my kid would never let me write her essays.

Yeah this is our house too. My kid has good ideas but sometimes needs help with the structure/flow of his work. But he's doing the work. And started early because duh, the beginning of the school year can be challenging enough on its own. And plus also, 20 schools?? That's just so crazy to me. Our kid stopped at 6 and got everything in way before the deadline and already has an acceptance back.

Really? High stats? Aiming for T20?
And only 6 apps?
Weird.

The kid knows what he wants. He got into his top choice already. And yes one of those T20 schools y'all are some amped about. Got a little extra merit for applying early even. He's not crazy high stats by dcum standards but he's up there.
Now we wait to see if he gets into any of the others.

Which T20 school has released results already and it's not a binding decision? I have two kids applying to a good number of the T20 schools this year and I don't think there are such colleges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Senior year around here is hard, which is sad because it is the end of their childhood.

Their childhood ended some time ago.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a very important once-in-a-lifetime experience. It’s exactly NOT the time to allow the kid to fizzle out. Give him whatever incentives/encouragement/kicks in ass that will work to keep him focused & productive.

100%
You will have so many regrets if you don't help them.....ask all the moms who come here in March depressed and can't get off this site bc their kid is now heading to Canada or the UK.

I help with brainstorming and editing, but if you’re suggesting we “write” it (and it sounds like you are?), my kid would never let me write her essays.

Yeah this is our house too. My kid has good ideas but sometimes needs help with the structure/flow of his work. But he's doing the work. And started early because duh, the beginning of the school year can be challenging enough on its own. And plus also, 20 schools?? That's just so crazy to me. Our kid stopped at 6 and got everything in way before the deadline and already has an acceptance back.

Really? High stats? Aiming for T20?
And only 6 apps?
Weird.

The kid knows what he wants. He got into his top choice already. And yes one of those T20 schools y'all are some amped about. Got a little extra merit for applying early even. He's not crazy high stats by dcum standards but he's up there.
Now we wait to see if he gets into any of the others.

hahaha. No T20 has released yet. Try again troll.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is playing a fall sport, a club sport, is in 3 ap classes and volunteers on weekends, and is applying to a couple special programs with unique requirements in addition to the reach/target/ safety thing. She started the essays, but I’m finishing them for her to proofread. I’m handling the common app profile, fafsa, css, college board, and everything else that goes along with this process. The whole thing is very bureaucratic and it’s unrealistic to ask a hs senior to know how to navigate it.

Super lame.

Agreed. You’re finishing the essays? And doing the Common App? What the…

That’s fine to judge. I think paying for essay or college consultants is lame. I suspect what I’m doing is being considered by many. Just thought I’d throw it out there so those that are overwhelmed with the process know it’s ok to help your kid. Especially those that are in multiple sports with multiple ap classes, and packed weekends staring at 11/1 deadlines. When do you expect your kid to work in it? Midnight to 2 am?

Yes it's ok to help your kid, but it's NOT ok to do their college apps for them. It's definitely not ok to write their essays. You're crossing huge lines here.

As to when to expect your kid to work it in, other kids are figuring it out. If yours can't, then think about why that is and address it. Are you going to do their work in college for them too?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a very important once-in-a-lifetime experience. It’s exactly NOT the time to allow the kid to fizzle out. Give him whatever incentives/encouragement/kicks in ass that will work to keep him focused & productive.

100%
You will have so many regrets if you don't help them.....ask all the moms who come here in March depressed and can't get off this site bc their kid is now heading to Canada or the UK.

I help with brainstorming and editing, but if you’re suggesting we “write” it (and it sounds like you are?), my kid would never let me write her essays.

Yeah this is our house too. My kid has good ideas but sometimes needs help with the structure/flow of his work. But he's doing the work. And started early because duh, the beginning of the school year can be challenging enough on its own. And plus also, 20 schools?? That's just so crazy to me. Our kid stopped at 6 and got everything in way before the deadline and already has an acceptance back.

Really? High stats? Aiming for T20?
And only 6 apps?
Weird.

The kid knows what he wants. He got into his top choice already. And yes one of those T20 schools y'all are some amped about. Got a little extra merit for applying early even. He's not crazy high stats by dcum standards but he's up there.
Now we wait to see if he gets into any of the others.

Which T20 school has released results already and it's not a binding decision? I have two kids applying to a good number of the T20 schools this year and I don't think there are such colleges.

None. It's a troll.
Not one of them is rolling. If they weren't wouldn't all of our kids applied?????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never been so thankful for this forum. I have been on here off and on since pregnant with my son. This is exactly what was needed today. Appreciate the support!

+100

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's tough. Help with the research....

so, for Stanford (as an example), I helped with a Google Doc of classes, cool profs, ECs, interesting articles from the paper, and events I saw.

links to everything in the Google Doc to shortcut the process. DC added more as well, but good starting point.

How do you find "cool profs"? Trying to help my DD but don't know where to start!

Np. It's not really cool, it's finding profs whose academic interests align with your kid's own niche interests.

If your kid is into medieval studies but also migration trends and/or international relations/MUN, for example, with a focus on the Med and North Africa, and applying to Brown, I'd definitely mention this professor below by drawing parallels between modern refugee/migration crises and how this professor's study of how "barbarian" migrations transformed Roman identity.

Your kid has the intellectual curiosity, but might need you to give them links to the right professors. Then they'd connect the professor's specific research lens (identity, connectedness, cultural transformation) to something your DC has encountered, even if DC hasn't studied 5th-century vandals specifically (yet).....

https://vivo.brown.edu/display/jconant#Research

Make sense? All you do is give kid link to prof and maybe mention a few topic words?

Thank you.