My high stats kid running out of steam

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for this thread. After reading about parents helping out during crunch time, I reached out yesterday to my DD who is holding up the world currently with classes, sports, leadership roles and bending but not breaking yet. I texted her and offered some help - told her to buy dinner between school and her away game on me rather than pack it, told her I'd take over her household chores for the next two weekends, and told her I'd help this weekend with brainstorming or research gathering if she'd like. She's usually pretty stoic, but last night came and hugged me and told me how much that meant to her. It wouldn't have occurred to me to do this if not for this thread.

Omg. I am so glad you offered. If you need help on research, we'll crowdsource. Post a new thread on school and major.
GL to you both.
Hugs to your sweet girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for this thread. After reading about parents helping out during crunch time, I reached out yesterday to my DD who is holding up the world currently with classes, sports, leadership roles and bending but not breaking yet. I texted her and offered some help - told her to buy dinner between school and her away game on me rather than pack it, told her I'd take over her household chores for the next two weekends, and told her I'd help this weekend with brainstorming or research gathering if she'd like. She's usually pretty stoic, but last night came and hugged me and told me how much that meant to her. It wouldn't have occurred to me to do this if not for this thread.

Omg. I am so glad you offered. If you need help on research, we'll crowdsource. Post a new thread on school and major.
GL to you both.
Hugs to your sweet girl.

This is truly pathetic. I’d be so embarrassed if my “high stats” kid was unable to prepare an application on their own and doubly embarrassed,if they wanted mommy to do it for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I keep offering to do the administrative tasks for my DD, like submitting SAT scores via College Board and stuff like that, and she doesn’t even want me to help with that. I admit, I can be bit overbearing with my constant suggestions, so it’s hard for me to sit and twiddle my thumbs while she’s so busy, but I’m proud of her for wanting to do it all herself.

Me too, you raised her right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is comparing their stats to others on Admitsee.

Does anyone else use that platform?

that's an interesting site, but the few I clicked were graduates < 2020. I think things have changed since then. Imma poke around some more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for this thread. After reading about parents helping out during crunch time, I reached out yesterday to my DD who is holding up the world currently with classes, sports, leadership roles and bending but not breaking yet. I texted her and offered some help - told her to buy dinner between school and her away game on me rather than pack it, told her I'd take over her household chores for the next two weekends, and told her I'd help this weekend with brainstorming or research gathering if she'd like. She's usually pretty stoic, but last night came and hugged me and told me how much that meant to her. It wouldn't have occurred to me to do this if not for this thread.

Omg. I am so glad you offered. If you need help on research, we'll crowdsource. Post a new thread on school and major.
GL to you both.
Hugs to your sweet girl.

This is truly pathetic. I’d be so embarrassed if my “high stats” kid was unable to prepare an application on their own and doubly embarrassed,if they wanted mommy to do it for them.

No one is "preparing an application" for their kid.... Jeez. Get a grip. Offering to help find a few links is not "preparing an application"!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for this thread. After reading about parents helping out during crunch time, I reached out yesterday to my DD who is holding up the world currently with classes, sports, leadership roles and bending but not breaking yet. I texted her and offered some help - told her to buy dinner between school and her away game on me rather than pack it, told her I'd take over her household chores for the next two weekends, and told her I'd help this weekend with brainstorming or research gathering if she'd like. She's usually pretty stoic, but last night came and hugged me and told me how much that meant to her. It wouldn't have occurred to me to do this if not for this thread.

Omg. I am so glad you offered. If you need help on research, we'll crowdsource. Post a new thread on school and major.
GL to you both.
Hugs to your sweet girl.

This is truly pathetic. I’d be so embarrassed if my “high stats” kid was unable to prepare an application on their own and doubly embarrassed,if they wanted mommy to do it for them.

There are nice, normal people on here. I know it's foreign to you.
Your karma reeks - you're bitter because you didn't help your kid, and now they are off in Europe or some pathetic option, where you have to convince yourself it's "top for their major". Just remember, all of this negative energy you pour into this board every day will come back to bite you (and your kid). That's how it works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for this thread. After reading about parents helping out during crunch time, I reached out yesterday to my DD who is holding up the world currently with classes, sports, leadership roles and bending but not breaking yet. I texted her and offered some help - told her to buy dinner between school and her away game on me rather than pack it, told her I'd take over her household chores for the next two weekends, and told her I'd help this weekend with brainstorming or research gathering if she'd like. She's usually pretty stoic, but last night came and hugged me and told me how much that meant to her. It wouldn't have occurred to me to do this if not for this thread.

Omg. I am so glad you offered. If you need help on research, we'll crowdsource. Post a new thread on school and major.
GL to you both.
Hugs to your sweet girl.

This is truly pathetic. I’d be so embarrassed if my “high stats” kid was unable to prepare an application on their own and doubly embarrassed,if they wanted mommy to do it for them.

No one is "preparing an application" for their kid.... Jeez. Get a grip. Offering to help find a few links is not "preparing an application"!!

Again, your senior should be capable of doing this themself. Having mommy do it for them is, in fact, pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for this thread. After reading about parents helping out during crunch time, I reached out yesterday to my DD who is holding up the world currently with classes, sports, leadership roles and bending but not breaking yet. I texted her and offered some help - told her to buy dinner between school and her away game on me rather than pack it, told her I'd take over her household chores for the next two weekends, and told her I'd help this weekend with brainstorming or research gathering if she'd like. She's usually pretty stoic, but last night came and hugged me and told me how much that meant to her. It wouldn't have occurred to me to do this if not for this thread.

Omg. I am so glad you offered. If you need help on research, we'll crowdsource. Post a new thread on school and major.
GL to you both.
Hugs to your sweet girl.

This is truly pathetic. I’d be so embarrassed if my “high stats” kid was unable to prepare an application on their own and doubly embarrassed,if they wanted mommy to do it for them.

There are nice, normal people on here. I know it's foreign to you.
Your karma reeks - you're bitter because you didn't help your kid, and now they are off in Europe or some pathetic option, where you have to convince yourself it's "top for their major". Just remember, all of this negative energy you pour into this board every day will come back to bite you (and your kid). That's how it works.

Whatever makes you feel better about infantilizing your senior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:help him

+100
All hands on deck in our house

Same here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:help him

+100
All hands on deck in our house

Same here.

Same

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I keep offering to do the administrative tasks for my DD, like submitting SAT scores via College Board and stuff like that, and she doesn’t even want me to help with that. I admit, I can be bit overbearing with my constant suggestions, so it’s hard for me to sit and twiddle my thumbs while she’s so busy, but I’m proud of her for wanting to do it all herself.

Same here. My kid is doing everything on her own (I haven't seen a single draft of anything); however, to the other parent who posted here, my kid is staying up to 2 a.m. to do it on weeknights due to playing a varsity sport (sport had an away game last night and kid was out from 5 to 10 p.m.)

Great job, so proud of your kid!

[Anonymous]

I gave my kid a pass on chores for a couple weeks but they had to fill things out themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:help him

+100
All hands on deck in our house

Same here.

My husband had calls with 2 national college counselors last night. The stress is getting to him too, and I think he just wants someone to own it all. Very costly this late, but oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same here and I have twins! Both have yet to decide ED choice although they have made progress on supplementals for there multiple possibilities. However, there are two weekends left - your DS can do it. I’d lay out the calendar for him and ask him to tell you what he needs help with. For mine it was adding due dates, interview (y/n), video to a spreadsheet.

Mine also have a long list of schools they want to EA to and hopefully they make the Nov deadline so they can finish those off but honestly, if they don’t make it there is still RD. Many kids do get in Reg Decision (and then can take their pick and consider merit aid).

Good advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I gave my kid a pass on chores for a couple weeks but they had to fill things out themselves.

Sure, I agree but the “researching” is out of hand.